It is extremely unrealistic that we cannot expect others to be like us in all aspects of our lives, or to do everything we want. If we can recognize this truth, people's hearts will suddenly be opened.

A parrot was kept in a birdcage with a crow, and the parrot felt aggrieved that he was with such a black-haired monster. "How dark and ugly! What an ugly look, what a dull facial expression! Anyone who looks at it in the morning will be out of luck for the day. There's nothing more annoying than being with it. ”

It is also strange that the crow and the parrot are together and are also unpleasant. When the crow complained about his life, he felt sad and depressed to be with such an uncomfortable hairy fellow. "Why is my luck so bad? Why does my Destiny Star keep abandoning me? Why do I always have such bad days? How happy I would be to be able to sit on the garden wall with other crows and enjoy what we all have! ”

It's a parable about a lower animal, but can a person who is a higher animal feel something from it? In the world, people have all kinds of differences, different personalities, different figures, different appearances, different living environments, just like leaves, they all look roughly the same, but if you compare them carefully, it is impossible to find two leaves that are exactly the same. Then it is even more true for people, even if they are twin siblings, who are roughly the same in appearance, but can always distinguish their personalities. Not understanding the personality of others and not being able to accommodate the characteristics and requirements of others will make the relationship between people become unharmonious, and even cracks will appear, bringing serious consequences.

The keepers at a zoo are very clean and caring. In order to let the small animals he raises live in a clean environment, he works diligently every day to clean the habitat of the small animals, whether it is dead branches and leaves or small animal feces, he is not afraid of dirty and tired. However, the result of his hard work did not translate for the healthy growth of the small animals, many of which became languishing, anorexic, emaciated, irritable, and even died inexplicably.

Later, expert research found that each animal has its own different living habits, some will feel safe when they see their feces, and some can grow healthier when they smell the turbid smell. The uniform cleaning of the keepers destroys this different needs of the animals and affects the healthy growth of the animals.

People can't be overly critical of others, others have their own set of ways and principles of life, we don't need to use a strict vision to ask others, if you can have a tolerant heart, then a lot of unhappiness may not happen.

In China, Lu Xun is a big man, and few people have an opinion on this. The contradiction between Lu Xun and Lin Yutang should be some flaws in Lu Xun's life, in the early years, Lu Xun and Lin Yutang were really old friends. When he was at Peking University, who didn't know that the Zhou brothers and the "Modern Commentary" faction had a heated argument, and Lin Yutang was a member of the Zhou brothers' "Yusi faction", after the Beiyang warlords shot Liu Hezhen and Yang Dequn, Lin Yutang and Lu Xun fought side by side, wrote fierce words together, and protested to the authorities, for which they were "honored" to be included in the "blacklist" of the 50 most radical professors in Beijing at that time.

But then there were some contradictions between the two, and Lin Yutang founded several publications in Shanghai, such as "Analects", "The World", and "Cosmic Wind", which were very popular. Lin Yutang has become a "master of humor" in China, and the reason is that Lin Yutang advocates "humor" in publications, advocates "leisure", and is easy to develop "sexual spirit". This is not a big deal, who knows, it was a good time for the left-wing literary world to dominate at that time, and Lin Yutang and his sketches seemed out of place. Lu Xun wrote a letter to Lin Yutang, asking him to give up these "boring things", stop drilling the "tip of the horns", and translate more British and American classics, because Lin Yutang was born in a church university and studied in Germany and the United States. Lin Yutang replied: The matter of translation will be talked about until he is old.

Lu Xun saw it and was furious. Why? Lu Xun was 14 years older than Lin Yutang at the time, and he was highly regarded for his translation skills. Wasn't Lin Yutang's words sarcastic at him? Kindness was not rewarded, and Lu Xun ignored Lin Yutang from then on.

This incident seems somewhat sad. Both of them are literary masters, and it seems that everyone also has the shortcomings of human nature, if both of them could take a step back at that time, tolerate it, and don't use their own attitude towards things to ask others, then there will be no greater distrust between the two.

Don't expect others to be like you in everything: the world will be colorful when people are different, and each is like him. Why is the natural landscape so beautiful? Because it has everything, there are mountains, grasslands, deep valleys, plains, streams, rivers, everything, the world will be so beautiful, and people will be the same.

People often reject others because they have different lifestyles and attitudes to deal with them, believing that only they are right. In fact, as long as you can abide by the principles of being a human being, it doesn't matter what kind of lifestyle you adopt. It is highly unrealistic that we cannot expect others to be like us in all aspects of our lives, or to do everything we want to do. If we can recognize this truth, people's hearts will suddenly be opened.

Everyone is a person with an independent personality. Everyone's personality is different. In terms of personality, there may be introverts and extroverts, and they also have their own strengths and weaknesses in temperament and ability. We must be able to accept the personality of others, allow others to have different personalities, hobbies and needs from ourselves, do not ask others to be the same as ourselves, do not find fault with others, have a tolerant mind, and have the ability to appreciate the characteristics of others and accept the shortcomings of others.