In real life, there are contradictions and disputes everywhere, and it is impossible for everything to be smooth sailing, and it is impossible for everyone to greet us with a smile and a deaf attitude. Therefore, "looking at everything" is the best way to self-regulate.

In fact, the root of many anger is caused by our own thoughts, if we don't take it to heart, we will not be easily influenced by others.

A fellow went to the market, bought a pot and carried it in his hand, but suddenly, he only heard the sound of "bell", the rope broke, the pot fell to the ground and broke, he didn't even look at it, turned around and left. Asked why, he said, "It has been broken, what is the use of seeing it?" ”

Legend has it that in ancient times, there was an old Zen master, who was walking in the Zen monastery one night, and suddenly saw a chair in the corner of the wall. The old Zen master was silent, walked to the wall, removed the chair, and squatted on the spot. After a while, there was really a small monk who climbed over the wall and jumped into the courtyard in the dark by stepping on the back of the old Zen master. When he landed on his feet, he realized that it was not a chair that he had just stepped on, but his master. The little monk suddenly panicked and opened his mouth. But to the little monk's surprise, the master did not reproach him sharply, but just said in a calm tone: "It's cold in the middle of the night, go and put on one more piece of clothing." ”

The old Zen master tolerated his disciples. He knew that tolerance was a silent education.

They are very open-minded in dealing with people and have an optimistic and open-minded attitude towards things and things, which makes their troubles less and less.

In daily life, when an "opponent" who has no fate, out of inner ugliness, says bad things and does wrong things behind your back, do you want to wait for an opportunity to retaliate, or be tolerant? When your close friends unintentionally or intentionally do something that makes you sad, do you want to break up the relationship from now on, or do you want to be tolerant? Think about it calmly, or be tolerant, so that it is good for others and for yourself.

One day, there was a tall and burly man walking in the Kufa market. His face was very tanned, and he still had traces of the battlefield. A merchant was sitting in his shop, and when he saw the tall man approaching, he wanted to make his companions laugh and show off his funny skills. So, he threw the garbage at the passer-by. But the passer-by was not outraged by this, and continued to walk forward with steady steps.

When he had gone away, the man next to him said to the merchant, "Do you know who you insulted just now?" ”

"Thousands of people pass by here every day, how can I know him? Do you know this man? ”

"You don't even know this man! The one who just walked past was the famous army leader - Malik Ashtur Nahar. ”

"Is it true? He's Malik Ashtur Nahal! Is that the same Malick who not only makes his enemies tremble at the sound of his voice, but also makes lions tremble at the sight of him? ”

"Yes, it's him."

The merchant was horrified and said, "Oops! I damn it, I did such a stupid thing, he would definitely order me to be punished severely, I hurried after him, begged him for help, begged him to spare me this time. ”

With that, the merchant pursued him in the direction where Malik had gone. When Malik entered the mosque, the merchant followed him. When Malik had finished his prayer, the merchant walked up to him and bowed his head and said, "I'm sorry, but I was the one who was rude to you just now. ”

Malik said to the merchant: "I did not come to the mosque, but I feel sorry for you when I see that you are too ignorant and misguided to hurt passers-by for no reason. Therefore, I want to ask Allah to guide you on the right path, and I do not want to punish you severely. ”

Only tolerant people will approach life positively and optimistically. Why is there eternal harm between people? This is mostly caused by some stubbornness that can't let go of each other. If we can all start from ourselves and look at others tolerantly, I believe that we will receive unexpected results, and while helping others open a window, we will also see a more complete sky.

I want to have an open heart to face life. If you learn to be open in life, you will no longer be worried about some meaningless trivial things in life; If you learn to be open in life, you will no longer be haunted by a few words in life; If you learn to be open in life, you will no longer be worried about this so-called troubles in life; When you learn to be broad in life, you will stand on another level of life to look at and examine the people and things around you.

If you see it openly, see through it, and see through it, your life will be free and liberated, and your mood will become happy.

I remember a foreign writer once said, "People who are angry about small things have a short life." On the other hand, the life of a broad-minded person will be long-lasting, because the life of a broad-minded person is connected to the long sea and can withstand all kinds of storms in life.