A lover is his lifelong companion and the one with whom he lives. Therefore. Both sides should accommodate and adapt to each other. However, some people always regret their lover's shortcomings and imperfections, and then complain. This kind of person forgets the fact that no one is perfect, and it is intolerant to deliberately demand perfection from the other.

One night, an elderly couple sat on the couch and watched a love-themed TV show. After watching the TV, the old couple recalled with great interest the days when they got along day and night for decades.

"Old man, I want to find out what you used to dislike me. You can also think about what I have that upsets you and write them down with pen and paper. ”

The old man looked at his wife, smiled and nodded in agreement.

So, the two old men took a notebook and a pen and began to write each other's problems.

The next night, the old couple was still sitting on the sofa and took out the notebook they had written last night about each other's problems.

"I'll start with that." The old lady said.

The old lady took out her notebook and began to read, and when she had read seven or eight articles, she noticed that the old man's eyes began to moisten.

"What's wrong with you? Not happy? The old lady asked.

"It's okay, it's okay. You read on. ”

The old lady then proceeded to cite the old man's question. After a long while, she finally read all the old man's "problems". At this time, the old lady gently put the notebook in the old man's hand and said to him, "Okay, now you can read what you have written!" Next, let's discuss how to solve these problems. ”

Taking the notebook, the old man was silent for a while and said, "I'm very guilty, I have so many things that make you dissatisfied, I'm really sorry for you!" ”

At this time, the old lady finally understood why her wife's eyes were moist.

The old man continued, "But I really can't think of anything wrong with you, and I think you're all right now. You are kind and virtuous, and I don't want you to change anything. ”

The old lady was touched by the old man's deep love, and snuggled into her wife's arms and cried excitedly.

There will always be such and such imperfections in the life of two people, and regret is a bad emotion at this time. What you really should do is to forget each other's mistakes and praise each other's strengths, which is the secret of a happy life.

It is very important for the companions who have spent their lives together not to feel frustrated and disappointed with each other as time goes by. Unfortunately, many couples create a series of lengthy complaints like a list of phone bills in their daily lives.

Whether it is a poor couple or a high-ranking couple, both parties should not complain in life, otherwise the marriage will play the strings of disharmony.

The marriage of Napoleon III and Yuchen in France is a case in point.

Nasilon III of France, also known as Napoleon's nephew. When he fell in love with the most beautiful woman in the world, Countess de Teba, and was about to marry her, his advisor disagreed, because Yuchen's father was only a Spanish count, but Napoleon III retorted: "So what? She is elegant, charming, young, and beautiful. She fills my heart with happiness. In a royal proclamation, he vehemently stated that he would marry in defiance of national opinion: "I have chosen a woman whom I love." He declared. I've never met a woman like her! ”

Napoleon III and his newlywed were wealthy, healthy, powerful, famous, beautiful, loved, respectful – all in perfect romance, never before did the flame of marriage burn so hotly.

However, the flame soon faltered and the heat cooled - only embers remained. Napoleon III could make Yuchen an empress; But neither the power of his love, nor the power of his emperor, could make the French queen stop being critical and nagging.

She complained incessantly, and at last defied Napoleon III's orders, and did not even give him a little personal time; When he was dealing with national affairs, she actually rushed into his office; While he discussed the most important matters, she interfered. She even thinks that by leaving him alone, he will make out with other women.

Sometimes, they rushed into his study desperately and kept shouting insults at him. Napoleon Lancet was Emperor of France. There are more than a dozen ornate palaces, but there is not a single place that is not disturbed.

What can You Qin gain by doing this?

The answer is as follows: so Napoleon III often slipped out of a small side door at night, accompanied by one of his cronies, and really went to find a beautiful woman waiting for him, or else he went out to see the old city of Paris, and breathed in the air that should have been free.

This is the consequence of Yuchen's complaint. Not bad. She was seated on the throne of the Empress of France. Yes, she is the most beautiful woman in the world. But under the poison of nagging, complaining. Her dignity and beauty do not keep love. Though she cried out deceptively, "My greatest fears have come to me." And the reason why this bad luck befell her was actually caused by herself. The reason why her ending is pitiful. It was all because of her complaints.

A philosopher once said, "In hell, of all the successful and vicious methods devised by the devil to destroy love, complaining is the most powerful." It never fails. Just like a cobra bites, it is always destructive and always fatal. ”

One of the reasons for the disintegration of the modern family is that one party is nagging and complaining, and complaining is tantamount to digging a grave for his own marriage. Therefore, if you want to maintain the happiness of your family life, you must get rid of the list of complaints and remember: you should never complain.