In real life, we often see that some people are not used to their elderly and seriously ill parents, and they always feel that their parents' words and behaviors are not in line with their hearts, which makes the relationship between parents and children more and more distant.

In fact, when parents get older, their consciousness and emotions will have some changes. We as children should be understood. In life, we often have a lot of misunderstandings about our parents because we don't understand their physical conditions and living habits.

In Jiayang's childhood memories, his grandfather always sat in a corner of the living room reading a book. He didn't talk much, and always smiled when he saw the child, although most of the time he couldn't hear what the young man was saying.

My grandfather is in his 80s, and he often sits in the living room in the morning, and sometimes he barely gets up after a day. Soon, my grandfather got hemorrhoids, it turned out that my grandfather's knee joint was degenerate, and he had no strength to stand up after sitting down, and he was afraid of bothering his grandson to support him, so he simply sat all day, so he finally developed hemorrhoids.

"Grandpa is a scholar, and he has a very strong self-esteem, and he would rather endure pain than look like a useless old guy in front of us." Jiayang said.

In fact, like Jiayang, misunderstandings in communication with elderly grandparents are the experience that many people have had.

There are many, many reasons why there is a generation gap between us and our elders, so we tend to get angry with them because of misunderstandings. However, every time we run out of gas, we will find that most of the time it is actually our own fault! However, it was too late to realize at this time!

A few years ago, Liu Qiang went on a business trip to Xinjiang. Due to the hurry in which he walked, not much water was prepared. Therefore, along the way, he had to quench his thirst by quoting water on the train. Who knows, when passing by an unnamed town on the border of Gansu and Xinjiang, the train stops temporarily for about ten minutes. It was summer, and Liu Qiang felt hot and thirsty on the train, but at this time, the water supply on the train stopped being supplied again. There was no way, he had to pay for water to drink! Fortunately, at this time, many local villagers appeared out of nowhere under the train, and these people were carrying thermos bottles and selling boiling water under the train.

"Boiling water, boiling water, five cents a cup!"

Liu Qiang followed the voice and saw an old man with a stiff back and white hair, walking with trembling steps and trying to walk towards the carriage where Liu Qiang was sitting. Looking at the sweat on his face, Liu Qiang beckoned: "Uncle, give me a glass of water." After speaking, Liu Qiang handed him the cup and a ten-yuan bill.

The old man took the money and was about to pour the water, but found that the water in the thermos was gone. So, he said to Liu Qiang: "Young man, you wait a little longer, I'll pour water for you!" After he finished speaking, he took the thermos and the money and ran away!

However, after a long time, there was no sign of the old man. At this moment, the train suddenly started. Liu Qiang thought angrily: "This is unlucky! This old man will definitely not be coming back! ”

At this moment, he suddenly saw the old man, only to see him holding a thermos in one hand and money in the other, running quickly to the car that was already moving, hurriedly pouring boiling water for Liu Qiang's water cup, and handing it to Liu Qiang along with the cup and the banknote. The moment he took the cup and banknote, Liu Qiang saw the old man lying exhausted on the side of the road, like a deflated ball. In an instant, Liu Qiang's tears couldn't stop flowing, and he was very worried about the old man. The old man's wrinkled face was full of satisfaction.

Many years have passed, and Liu Qiang still can't forget that stubborn old man!

Thinking differently is an important reason why we are angry with our parents, so in order to avoid this situation from happening again, what we need to do is to communicate with our parents more and understand their psychological conditions. Only in this way can we understand their intentions and increase mutual understanding!

Because parents like to nag, many young people are reluctant to live with their parents, as if they have suddenly broken free from the shackles of chatter and nagging, and no longer want to face their parents' criticism of their strengths and weaknesses, and some children even have rebellion and resistance.

We must understand the nagging of parents, the psychological imbalance caused by the decline of physical and mental strength in old age, so that they love to nag when they encounter problems, love to talk about some trivial things that seem trivial to the younger generation, and often feel that the children's actions are not in line with their own hearts, so they often complain because of this. When my parents are older, they are no longer as smart and capable as they were when they were young, and they are full of food, so they naturally love to nag on their lips, which is out of rebellion against reality, and it is also a manifestation of their inner sense of loss, and it is also a helpless way to vent that they are unwilling to admit reality and have to face it.

When parents get old, the circle of life becomes smaller, and they are also easy to be indifferent and forgotten by society and people, and at the same time, all kinds of troubles and depression in social life also attack them from time to time, at this time, they want to regain the attention and understanding of society, family, and children, and want to stretch their tired body and mind in the safe haven of the family, so they talk more.

As children, not only can they not ignore their parents' nagging, but they cannot irritate them with their parents. Be more understanding and less complaining about your parents, so that you can get along better.

Backwardness or nagging should not become an obstacle to the communication and integration of the hearts of the two generations, we should return love with love, treat it with an understanding heart, and don't count down our parents at every turn.