There are so many things that don't go well in life, and if you get angry about everything, you can really make a person angry.

No one's life is smooth sailing, not even the fairy-tale princesses and princes. What's more, living in the real world is full of joy and pain, just like the song says: "The outside world is wonderful, but the outside world is helpless." ”

It is impossible for people to live in this world and everything will go smoothly, and when you encounter annoying things, you will inevitably get angry. In daily life, when the ideal career cannot be realized, when personnel disputes cannot be avoided, when the desires of the heart are not satisfied, when the life of the husband and wife is not harmonious, when the children have an accident, and when they see unfair or unreasonable people or things, etc., it is all annoying people.

Former U.S. President Franklin D. Roosevelt said after a theft: "First, the thief who came to steal didn't hurt my life; Second, the thief had only stolen some of my stuff; Third, and most thankfully, he was the thief, not me. ”

The president is good at finding some great luck in misfortune, so he is not bothered by immediate troubles, and such a person can live a meaningful life and live a more energetic life.

Nine times out of ten, things don't go well in life, everything goes well, what we can only do is not to take those unpleasant things to heart, and it is easy to get psychological balance if we are happy to forget. I always remember the mistakes of others, and I always think about my own mistakes, but in fact, it is my own soul that suffers from them, and I am embarrassed and unworthy. Willingness to forget is a major characteristic of successful people, and only those who are not guilty of the past can shake off the heavy burden and make great strides.

There is a business CEO, when someone asks him about his success, he tells a story of his life:

I was originally an emotional person, and when I was unhappy, I was in a bad mood and didn't know what to do. I knew it was a weakness in my character, but for quite some time I couldn't find a good way to deal with my emotions.

The period when I first graduated from college was the most gloomy time for me. At that time, I was working as a clerk in a company, and the salary was pitifully low, and there was still a lot of exclusion and competition among my colleagues, so I couldn't adapt to the working environment there. What's even more sad is that my girlfriend, who has been in love for three years in college, insisted on leaving me, I didn't expect that my love for many years could not stand the test of reality, and my heart was broken little by little. None of my friends' persuasions seemed to work, and I just wanted to sink myself. What can I do but grieve? Eventually, my friend suggested that I go to a well-known psychologist for a consultation in order to get out of my predicament.

When the old expert had listened to me, he took me to a small office with a glass of water on the only table in the room. The old expert smiled and said, "Look at this cup, it has been here for a long time, and dust falls into it almost every day, but it is still clear and transparent. Do you know why? ”

I thought about it, as if I wanted to see through the cup, yes, why on earth was that? There are so many impurities in this glass of water, but why is it so clear? By the way, I got it, I jumped up and said, "I see, all the dust is settled under the cup." ”

The old expert nodded in agreement: "Young people, there are many things to worry about in life, and some of them are difficult to forget the more you want to forget, so it's good to remember them." It's like this glass of water, if you hate it and shake it vigorously, it will make the 'whole glass of water' unrestful and muddy, what a foolish thing to do. If you are willing to let them settle down slowly and quietly, and contain them with a broad mind, then the mind will not be polluted, but will be purified. ”

When we encounter something that is not going well, try to sink all the troubles into our hearts and not dwell on those things that do not go well. When they settle down, our lives immediately turn cloudy and bright, and we become happy and bright.

On the road of life, we are just a landscape in the eyes of others, for some failures, we can laugh at it, don't dwell too much on the emotions of loss, your anger can only remind people to re-notice your former incompetence.

As long as we devote ourselves to life, we will inevitably encounter some harm from the outside world, but we often do not realize that there is a kind of harm that does not come from the outside, but is caused by ourselves: for a small position, a meager bonus, or even for some other people's gossip, we are worried, angry, serious, and entangled in it. Once it has been a long time, our minds are tormented to the ground.

Maybe sometimes we care too much about how we feel. For example, you accidentally fall on the road and make passers-by laugh. You must have been embarrassed to think that the whole world was watching you. But if you think about it from someone else's point of view, you will find that in fact, this incident is just a small episode in their life, and sometimes it is not even an episode, they laugh and forget about it.

Looking back, life has only been around for decades, so why do you have to let anger occupy your own living space? It is really not easy to go through this experience in the next world - the soul is born from the mother's body, to wandering and not knowing where to go, forgetting the past, and then returning to another world! How difficult it is, why do you have so many troubles?

Dale Carnegie, an American success scientist, once said, "If a person has a happy mind, then he will be happy; If a person has miserable thoughts, then he will be miserable. "The objective environment is not the main factor that determines happiness and unhappiness, only the influence of the subjective consciousness of the individual can have an important effect. Sometimes you may encounter all kinds of difficulties in life, but no matter what difficulties you encounter, don't feel troubled, live to play your part in life as much as possible, and live to live happily.