At a super payment company, you've just pushed a full shopping station at the end of the line when suddenly someone joins in at the front of the line. Do you feel angry?

When you get home, you are about to concentrate on reading a book that has been sitting for a long time, but the next door is being renovated and noisy, do you feel angry?

Walking into your favorite coffee shop, you are about to return to your seat with coffee but you are bumped head-on, and the coffee is spilled everywhere, are you starting to get angry?

Maybe you're really angry, but does getting angry help solve the problem?

Dante said that it is more unfortunate to be a slave to one's own emotions than to be a slave to a tyrant. It is true that there are too many angry things in life, and there are too many angry people at work. However, no matter how big the "qi" is, it will not help.

Anger, mostly because of other people's character, others have done wrong things, the fault is not in ourselves, why should we bother? The person who made you angry has already gone far away, and you are still angry for him, so why bother? It's been a long time since something that made you angry, and you're still angry about it, so why bother? Sometimes, the mind can't tolerate it and gets angry, but they don't know that anger is harmful to the body, and some diseases suddenly erupt through anger and anger.

In public, people come and go, and it is inevitable that they will bump into each other, and if they are slightly unsatisfactory, they will get angry, and they will give others a look, which will ruin a good mood; Between good friends, it is inevitable that misunderstandings will hurt, and they will get angry because of this, which will hurt friendship and expose their flaws; In the workplace, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions and entanglements, and because of this, it will bring bad psychology and circumstances, because no boss and colleagues like to love angry people.

Life can't be as you please, and it's inevitable to encounter something infuriating, but you often get angry about it, but it's not good for you.

Once Xiao Zhang received a call from a friend, she complained to Xiao Zhang on the phone: "I went to a company with a friend for an interview today. It turned out to be a young lady who came later than us. It was so infuriating that she was placed before us, and the examiner was very polite to her, but he didn't take us seriously! ”

"Does that young lady have a very 'hard' backstage? That's why he doesn't even look at you? Xiao Zhang guessed from experience.

"Probably!" The friend said angrily: "It's really hateful, this examiner will really become inflammatory!" ”

"And then?"

"We felt very uncomfortable in our hearts, because we couldn't get angry, so we quarreled with him fiercely on the spot." The more my friend talked, the more angry I became.

"The result?"

"Of course, it didn't work out, and my friend and I left."

"But don't you think it's a pity to give up an interview?"

"Well, that can't be helped. We're all mad, where are we in the mood to think so much. The friend said helplessly.

I believe that many people will get angry when they encounter something unpleasant like this, but when you calm down and think about it, what is the benefit of it, and it is you who are hurt.

As the philosopher Immanuel Kant said, "To be angry is to punish oneself for the mistakes of others." "We should do less stupid things like this, and we are angry and willing to punish ourselves for the mistakes of others, and when we punish ourselves, we will not achieve the goal of correcting the mistakes of others. This kind of anger only makes others feel the dissatisfaction in your heart, and you will not be in a happy mood because of it.

Angry like a thief. Suppose there is a shopkeeper who knows that there is an unfaithful fellow who steals something from the shop every day, but still keeps him in his shop, year after year, without being fired. How will we feel about him? However, all of us, often in our spiritual shop, keep a thief who is much worse than a thief who steals money and things. It is an unfortunate thing to keep a thief who steals our most precious spiritual vitality and all the opportunities and happiness of life without removing it.

In most cases, getting angry is harmful.

(1) Anger is not good for people's health. Wasn't Zhou Yu in "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" killed by Zhuge Liang who was angry three times? People's anger ranges from dissatisfaction and anger to anger and rage. When furious and furious, the person is in a violent, explosive emotional state. At this time, there are not only obvious external manifestations - such as clenching teeth, clenching fists and chest, raising eyebrows and staring, but also obvious physiological changes inside the body - such as rapid heartbeat, increased bile, increased blood pressure, and inhibition of gastrointestinal function.

Some women often have to use electrical appliances, drugs or surgery to save their premature aging, but in fact, this is a sacrifice of the basics, and what makes them age is just too easy to get angry. The best cure for aging is in our own hearts – the attitude of poise, the habit of not getting angry.

(2) When people are angry, their ability to control themselves is weakened, and they cannot correctly evaluate the meaning and consequences of their actions. There was such an incident in a middle school: a student had a quarrel with a classmate, and in a fit of rage, he actually picked up an iron chain and smashed the other party's head, and regretted it afterwards.

(3) Anger will weaken a person's abilities. Anger destroys people's vitality, wears down people's spirits, and can seriously affect people's work. When a person is restless, he naturally cannot work at the highest efficiency. Man's various mental faculties must be unrestrained in the slightest before they can exert their highest abilities, because an angry mind often thinks unclearly, unquickly, and illogically. Studies have shown that when brain cells are disturbed by boredom, thinking is naturally not as concentrated as it is when there is no distraction. Brain cells are often flushed by the bloodstream and take in nutrients from the blood. Therefore, if the blood is often filled with angry toxins, these brain cells will be damaged.

(4) Getting angry will seriously affect your social interactions. Sometimes it is easy to release your inner anger, but this irresponsible behavior usually leads to huge trouble, it will change the perception of others, and even evaluate whether you are a person you can get along with, whether you are a trustworthy person.

Anger can ruin people's health, destroy people's vitality, and damage people's creative ability, so that many people who have achieved great things will end up in mediocrity. is not angry, it seems simple and ordinary, but it is actually a kind of great realm and magnanimity of life. Being a person who is not angry should be the goal of each of us.

Bacon said, "Anger, like **, destroys everything it touches." "Let's write a note and read it! See how many people and how many things are making you angry during the day. Is it congested traffic or rambling office colleagues? Is it the baby crying all night in the neighbor's house or the honking car passing by under your window in the morning...... And then to sum up, did your anger help with these things?