Self-deprecation is a method of psychological balance that the Creator has given to mankind.

The fox in Tolstoy's fable tried all means to get his hands on the bunch of grapes on the high wall, but the drawer failed. So I had to turn around and comfort myself as I walked: "That bunch of grapes must be sour." ”

This clever fox couldn't help but feel a little disappointed and dissatisfied when he couldn't get the bunch of grapes, but he used "that bunch of grapes must be sour" to relieve ridicule, so that the disappointment and dissatisfaction were resolved, and the unbalanced psychology was balanced.

Since the advent of Mr. Lu Xun's "The True Story of Ah Q", the spirit of Ah Q has always been considered very ridiculous. Perhaps no one has thought that putting aside the backward and ignorant parts of Ah Q's body, as far as Ah Q's spiritual victory method is concerned, it contains a profound philosophy of life, and in terms of dealing with people, Ah Q's spirit is worth advocating.

Being good at self-soothing is the biggest feature of Ah Q's spiritual victory method. No matter how much he was physically tortured and how much he was mentally suffered, Ah Q could always find all kinds of excuses to find psychological balance. As the saying goes, the environment is made by the heart.

There is no smooth sailing and everything goes well in a person's life, and there will always be setbacks and illnesses on the way, and it depends on your own mentality at this time. Is it to complain and indulge in the pain of failure all day long, or to look at the disadvantages of the moment dialectically? Apparently it should be the latter. The so-called "Saion loses his horse, but he knows that it is not a blessing", this is the truth. Therefore, sometimes although we fail, we cannot be defeated spiritually, and at this time, Ah Q's spiritual victory method is a good way to find a path to success in the face of adversity.

There is a girl who always feels like the biggest mockery of herself whenever she hears the phrase "My Fair Lady, Gentleman is good", because she is fat! Whenever people talked about this in front of her, consciously or unconsciously, she always felt that there was a hint of hostility in their eyes, which made people feel strange and uncomfortable. Later, she adjusted her mindset. What's wrong with fat? Is it also wrong to be fat? She began to stop caring about people's words, and no longer felt inferior because of anyone's good or evil words, she always said to herself, "I'm a little fat, but I'm healthy." ”

There are many ways to use self-deprecation to stabilize your emotions. For example, when a person is treated unreasonably financially, when his physical defects are ridiculed by others, or when he is attacked by others for no reason, he may wish to use Ah Q's spiritual victory method - suffering losses is a blessing, breaking wealth and avoiding disasters, etc., to adjust his unbalanced psychology; On some non-principled issues, you can pretend to be confused and add a protective film to the mind; When the time is ripe, you can be humorous appropriately.

Robert, a famous orator in the country, was so bald that it was difficult to find a few hairs on the top of his head. On his 60th birthday, many friends came to celebrate his birthday, and his wife quietly advised him to hide his hat. Robert exclaimed, "My wife advised me to wear a hat today, but you don't know how good it is to be bald." I was the first to know about rain. This self-deprecating remark suddenly lightened the atmosphere of the party.

And there is such a little story. At a ball, a short young man invited a tall girl to dance, but the girl refused, "I never dance with a man shorter than me." The young man didn't get angry when he heard this, nor did he accuse the other party, but smiled faintly and said self-deprecatingly: "I really opened a store by Wu Dalang, and I found the wrong helper!" When the girl heard this, her face was red, but she became unnatural.

self-deprecation made the young man get out of the predicament, maintain the balance of his mood, and also threw the embarrassment back to the girl who hurt him.

In ancient times, there was a literati named Liang Hao, who made an oath when he was a teenager that he would not be a person if he did not pass the examination. In the end, due to bad luck, he tried and failed, and was ridiculed by others. But Liang Hao didn't care, he always laughed at himself and said that he was one step closer to the champion after taking the exam. In this self-deprecating psychological state, he began to take the exam in the third year of Tianfu in the Later Jin Dynasty, went through the Later Han Dynasty and the Later Zhou Dynasty, and did not pass the top prize in the second year of Yongxi of Taizong of the Song Dynasty. He wrote a self-deprecating poem: Tianfu took the exam in three years, and Yongxi became famous in the second year. There are no friends on the list, and only children and grandchildren welcome them when they get home. I also know that the young man is good, how can the dragon head be old.

Self-deprecation made Liang Hao go through a long period of ups and downs, and finally succeeded and fulfilled the oath of the year. Self-deprecation also led him to a long life, surviving the insurmountable ninety years of ancient people.

Self-deprecation is a special attitude towards life, which has a strong sense of individuality. Self-deprecation as an art of life, it has the function of pre-living and adjusting oneself. It can not only increase happiness and reduce troubles, but also help people to know their true selves more clearly, cope with the pressure caused by the different opinions and evaluations around them, get rid of all kinds of loss and imbalance in their hearts, and thus obtain spiritual satisfaction and success.

In a person's life, everyone will inevitably make mistakes, everyone will inevitably have defects, and everyone will inevitably encounter embarrassing situations. Some people like to hide and hide, and some people like to justify. In fact, the more you hide and hide, the more unbalanced your psychology is, the more you justify, but the uglier you will argue, the darker you will become, and the best way is to learn to laugh at yourself.

Self-deprecation is a good way to vent depression and create psychological happiness, and it is also a weapon to ridicule others. When a person learns to laugh at himself, he or she can make himself have a stable, healthy mind and a healthy body.