Because it is impossible for a person to satisfy all those who have it in his life, even Confucius, who is called a sage, cannot do it.

There is such a fable:

A painter paints a work that everyone loves. After the drawing, he decided to take it to the market for inspection. So, he hung the painting in the market and placed a pen next to it with the words, "Please make a mark where you think it is imperfect."

A day later, the painter retrieved the painting. Oh my God, there are marks all over the painting. The painter was very disappointed, it turned out that his painting was at this level! But the painter thought about it, no, he is also a professional painter, and he will not be so bad.

So, the painter decided to try another way.

The next day, the painter traced the same painting and hung it on the market with the inscription, "Please make a mark where you are most satisfied."

In the evening, the painter retrieved the painting. After looking at the painting, the painter smiled. It turned out that the painting was also covered with marks, and in the places that were not satisfactory to the original, the most satisfactory marks were also made.

The painter understands that no matter what, it is impossible to satisfy everyone, and it is enough to satisfy some people with one vision and one opinion for each person.

There are so many different opinions on the same object, and even more so on for something as complex as a person or a thing. Everyone has a different view of success in the face of success; Everyone has a different perspective on failure; Everyone has a different view of themselves in the face of others' admiration; Everyone has a different opinion in the face of other people's contempt for themselves; Everyone has a different opinion in the face of praise.

Whatever you do, it's impossible to satisfy everyone. Wise people know that everyone has their own vision, everyone has their own opinion, so as long as you can make some of them satisfied, you should feel gratified! In this world, it is impossible for one person to make everyone like themselves, and there will always be one or two people who will hate themselves. At this time, don't be disappointed in yourself because of the dislike of others, only in this way can you live a happier and more satisfying life!

Booth Takington was a famous American novelist and playwright in the 20th century, whose works "The Great Ambersons" and "Alice Adams" both won the Pulitzer Prize, the highest literary award in the United States.

At an exhibition of the artist's work, two little girls reverently asked him for autographs.

Booth Tarkington didn't have a fountain pen at this time, so he had to say, "I don't have a fountain pen, can I use a pencite?" He actually knew that they would not refuse. At this time, he just wanted to show the demeanor of a famous writer who treated ordinary readers with humility.

"Absolutely." The girls readily agreed. They had excited looks on their faces, much to Booth Tarkington's relief.

A girl quickly handed Booth Tarkington a delicate notebook. He took out his pencil and wrote a few words of encouragement with ease, and wrote his name.

The girl's brow furrowed when she saw his signature. She looked closely at Booth Tarkington and said, "Aren't you Robert Chapos?" ”

"No," Booth Tarkington told her, very conceitedly, "I'm Booth Tarkington, author of "Alice Adams," and a two-time Pulitzer Prize winner. ”

Unexpectedly, the little girl turned her head to the other girl, shrugged her shoulders disdainfully, and said, "Mary, lend me your eraser." She borrowed the eraser and quickly erased Booth Tarkington's signature.

In an instant, Booth Tarkington was so disappointed that all his pretension and dignity vanished in an instant.

Back at home, he was still saddened by the unhappiness he had just had. Then his son came up and gave him an orange to eat. Booth Tarkington's son was very fond of oranges, but he usually did not eat even the best ones. So, his son persuaded him that oranges are rich in vitamin C and that eating more of them is good for the body. Irritable, he replied, "I don't like to eat oranges, no matter how good they are, because I don't like the taste of oranges at all." ”

As soon as the words fell, he suddenly realized something and immediately became happy. It turned out that he had an epiphany: no matter how good the orange is, there are still people who don't like it. How can this not be the case with people?

No one can be satisfied, even when they feel like they're still good. Therefore, one does not need to be disappointed by the dislike of others, and should always remind oneself that no matter how outstanding you are, there will still be people who do not like you.

In life, it is so happy to be loved by everyone, so some people wear masks and hold their tails to be people, and some people are peacemakers in order to protect themselves and avoid trouble; Some people are afraid of the repetition of 30 years in Hedong and 30 years in Hexi, so the principle of life is that this cannot be offended, and that cannot be too close, and the mean is enshrined as the best policy for life and life. It's just that it's really tiring to live like this.

Give up the idea of craving everyone's satisfaction.

If you expect everyone to look at you and be satisfied, you will inevitably demand that you be all-encompassing, no matter how hard you try, try to adapt to others, can you adapt to everyone and make everyone happy? Apparently impossible! This kind of unrealistic expectation will only leave you with a heavy burden on your back, worrying and living too tired.