In life, many people like to use gossip to make news, ridicule others, and entertain themselves. If a person can deal with it calmly and calmly, time will be the best weapon to help you break the rumors. When gossip blows, it is just like a breeze blowing on the face, leaving no trace, leaving it to fend for itself.

There is a higher education institution, and Mr. Zhu, who has just passed the year of establishment, was rated as a professor. Immediately, the gossip about him spread like wildfire to all corners of the campus, with some saying he walked through the back door and others saying he was too young to qualify as a professor. When Mr. Zhu heard these gossip, he was not excited at all, only smiled faintly, and his friends hugged Mr. Zhu and asked him why he didn't stand up and refute it. Teacher Zhu said: "Everyone has the right to speak, but I also have the right not to listen. ”

How simple and philosophical words are, let the past pass, what others want to say is also their business, and harvesting tomorrow is our real success. Dante said: Go your own way, let others say go. Since there is no way to gossip left and right, then there is only patience and waiting for it to fend for itself.

Former U.S. President Franklin D. Roosevelt's wife described her approach to malicious slander as "indifferent like a puppet sitting on a shelf." The wife of former U.S. President Jimmy Carter also recognized: "No matter what you do, there will always be people who will make irresponsible comments." So, you'd better do what you think is good for the country, and don't be afraid of what they say. ”

Gossip is, after all, just gossip, and "turning a deaf ear" is the reward for it. If you are obsessed with these gossips in your ears, then you will inevitably be tired of it, so it is better to let it go with the wind, wave your hand, and not take away "a few words".

In the early 60s of the 20th century in the United States, there was a very talented man who had been a university president and ran for the legislature of a state in the Midwest of the United States. This man is highly qualified, shrewd, capable, and knowledgeable, and looks like he has a good chance of winning the election. But, in the middle of the election, a small rumor spread: three or four years ago, at an education convention in the state's capital, he had "had a little bit of an affair" with a young female teacher. This is a big lie. The candidate was very angry about this and tried his best to justify himself.

The university president, unable to contain his anger at this vicious rumor, stood up at every subsequent rally to try to clarify the facts and prove his innocence. In fact, most voters have never heard of this at all, but now people are more and more convinced that there is such a thing, and it is really getting darker and darker. The public rhetorically asked, "If you are really innocent, why do you want to defend yourself?" Fueling the fire, the candidate's mood became worse, and he became more angry and hoarse, and he washed himself away on various occasions and condemned the spread of rumors. However, this only makes people believe the rumors even more. The saddest thing is that even his wife began to believe the rumors, and the intimacy between the couple was ruined.

In the end, he failed, and he never recovered.

As long as there are people, there may be rumors, and when some people encounter them, they immediately take measures to stop the spread of rumors, while some people are busy defending themselves. As a result, those who defend themselves are swayed by rumors, which leads to the more the rumors are justified, the more expressive they become, and they have to fall into pain.

There is a popular saying among the people: "If you see a strange thing, it will be self-defeating." "Gossip is a weapon, they can stab your self-esteem at any time and make you "incomplete". But as long as you ignore him and turn yourself into a "deaf person", then it will never be useful.

Min Yifei of a certain company is very beautiful, and her ability is also outstanding, and she is an eye-catching dark horse in the company. A year later, she was promoted to department manager for her outstanding performance.

Her rapid promotion aroused the jealousy of certain other staff members. As a result, rumors began to circulate that she had such a good opportunity because she was beautiful, and that she had a chance to be promoted because she had a warm relationship with the general manager. After hearing these rumors, Min Yifei felt very uncomfortable, but she didn't find the source of the rumors and didn't find a way to stop the spread of the rumors.

Later, Min Yifei's boyfriend also heard these gossips. The boyfriend muttered in his heart, and then began to distance himself from Min Yifei. Min Yifei explained to her boyfriend many times that she couldn't let her boyfriend go. She asked her boyfriend aggrievedly: "Why do you trust others and not me?" ”

But my boyfriend said, "There is no wind and no waves." ”

Due to a lack of trust, Min Yifei angrily broke up with her boyfriend.

However, as Min Yifei is still calm and comfortable, how to live or how to live, as time passes, the rumors are self-defeating.

In life, everyone encounters all kinds of groundless discussions. When it comes to being a human being, it is impossible to completely avoid being talked about by others. Because as the saying goes, "No one says behind anyone, and no one says anything in front of him." However, we should not be swayed by gossip and allow rumors to spread everywhere, nor should we be busy trying to explain rumors, but should quickly cut off the channels for rumors to spread, and then use our own words and deeds to expose the true face of rumors.

"Right and wrong exist every day, and if you don't listen to it, there will be nothing." So said a great wise man. Where there are people, there will be rumors, and once you compete with the rumors, you will only have endless idleness. The more you talk about it, the more you describe it, the blacker it gets, and it just adds to the information that people "talk about in black and white". Why bother stirring up the water that is already turbid? The more you stir it, the darker it becomes, and the harder it is, the harder it is to clarify. When things are already black and white, be silent! Unless you can identify the source of infection, explanation will be the ideal condition for the virus to spread.

What should we do with all this gossip? Silence is the greatest indifference.

"The turbid ones are self-turbid, and the clear ones are self-purifying", since all the rumors are rootless and unfounded, the fake ones can't be true after all, for those irrelevant rights and wrongs, it's better to let it go, and time will naturally give you justice.