"Old driver, since you are honored as an old driver, do you dare to answer me a question?" The kitchen knife god teased.

"No poison, say."

"Listen, if your wife falls into the lake with your mother, who will you save first?" The kitchen knife has come up with a trick, this question has stumped many people, a cross-century problem, because no matter how you answer it, Wushuang didn't expect that there would be people here who thought of this problem.

The authoritative standard answer is that you must save your mother first, because if you don't save your mother, you will break the law, you will commit the crime of abandonment, and you will not save your wife, but if you don't break the law, you will be called a scumbag by all women, this is a question of torturing human nature, who do you save first? It can be described as a contemporary and seemingly unsolvable "problem", and not long ago this question was debated in the media here, and the answers are varied.

Some answered from a technical level, saying who was close to whom to save whom; Some start from helping the weak, thinking that they must save the one who can't swim first; Some have a strong sense of family hierarchy, thinking that of course they must save their mothers first; Some also moved their "economic minds" and calculated to save their daughter-in-law who had been with them for a longer time; There are also people who believe that it is not right to save anyone alone, either the two of them will be rescued together, or they will die together......

This seemingly entertaining "moral dilemma" is interesting if it is limited to ridicule. But if you think about it carefully, if you dig deeper, you will find that it actually reflects a universal value dilemma of contemporary people, and even hides a terrifyingly serious discourse trap.

First, it sets the situation of the problem as follows: the right or wrong of an act depends entirely on the motivation of the actor, and does not consider the actual conditions and processes at all. Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law have no ability to save themselves and help at all? How did they fall overboard at the same time? What is the water situation...... Without examining and explaining, these are all directed at people's hearts: "Who do you save first?!" ”

Second, its presupposed purpose is to force the "either-or" answer into a desperate situation of "you can't do it right". For example, when a man says to his daughter-in-law, "Save my mother first," the daughter-in-law says, "You don't have me in your heart"; The man said, "Save you first", and the daughter-in-law said, "If you don't even save your own mother, will you care about me?" Definitely not sincerely! ”…… Isn't the man at this time desperate?

Third, judging from the various answers it elicites, this kind of questioning actually takes advantage of the weakness of traditional values and strengthens a certain kind of discourse hegemony, which is nothing more than two values: one is utilitarianism, which relies on the calculation of gains and losses; The second is moral normatism, which relies on the pursuit of existing moral norms. Sometimes there is an irreconcilable conflict between the two, and it becomes a dead knot in this case.

So what are the weaknesses of the two traditional values? Utilitarianism pays attention to utilitarian calculations, and in the view of moralism, it must sacrifice the ethical norms, which seems ruthless and unjust; Moral normativism pays attention to human feelings, but it is biased towards the "superior" specially prescribed in the moral order, so in the view of utilitarianism, it is necessarily unfair to the majority, especially the "inferior".

This conflict between the two traditional values is the cause of the "dead knot", and their common defect is a key to untie the dead knot, and their common defect is that first of all, they regard the person concerned as an abstract symbol that only has obligations and no rights, and is not a real person with flesh and blood, personality and conditions, and his own role positioning, so he is intentionally or unintentionally deprived of the legitimate right to make independent choices based on reality.

Think about it, on the premise of satisfying the conditions of the question, do you have to think about what principles to follow before you go to save people? If you are in a hurry, you will save whoever you catch, is this unreasonable? In the case of being able to save, "post-rescue" is not the same as "not save". So is it still that important to "who to save first"? It can be seen that it is an overstroke to make this issue "infinitely elevated" to the extent that it is difficult for people to do so.

Think again, if something misfortune happens, only one person will be rescued in the end, and you have to watch the other die. So, what a trauma and guilt it will be for the man in question! In this case, someone is not here to offer condolences, but to ask, "Why don't you save ...... first", isn't it an excessive unreasonableness and cruelty? Who has the right to treat others so domineeringly?

It creates a situation or psychological habit in which someone can pretend to stand on the commanding heights of "truth and justice" and judge and guide others with their own rules at any time, without taking into account the facts and feelings of the person concerned. With this privilege, you can do what others "do not do right", and "do what you do reasonably". This kind of self-confident and domineering psychology and thinking habit is called "value authoritarianism" in philosophy, and it is a seriously pathological value.

So Wushuang smiled, this problem is like defusing a bomb, cutting the blue line and cutting the red line bomb will explode.

So what to do?

In fact, the problem itself is a trap, a false proposition, and you can't solve it with linear thinking.

For example, if someone asks you, "Do you like to eat steamed or braised it"?

You certainly won't choose one or the other, and you won't answer whether he's "steamed" or "braised in a bite."

Because you don't know how to eat, you suddenly feel that this "problem" itself is a problem, and you will also think that this person is sick, and you will even scold him: you only eat, your whole family eats.

"Old driver, sit back and wait for a reply."

Countless sailors kept popping up the screen in his live broadcast room with a funny face.

"This is a good saying, there are many answers, if you can only save one, the other rescue is not timely or may die as the premise, there is no doubt that the mother, no matter how loving she is with the wife of the wife, is not as good as the biological parents, the wife is gone, you can find another one, and the mother is gone, it will be gone forever, I just hope that my child will be the same question when others ask him the same question in the future, the answer is also the mother, then my current wife is pleased, as the so-called, only the mother in the world is good, the child without a mother is like a grass, Mom, I came to save you, Jumped into the water with a thud. ”

"Ahem....."

"I don't like it, and, of course, my wife and my mother fell into the water, of course I have to save my wife first, I think that in order to make my dear beauty laugh, the princes of the beacon fire opera, I don't even want the country, and my own life is also given up, let alone my mother? Love is deep and rainy, my love for you is very deep, daughter-in-law, I came to save you, and jumped into the water with a plop. ”

"Besides, I'd rather call me to bear the world, Hugh let the world bear me, it doesn't matter if it's my wife or my mother, as long as I don't fall into the water, I'll go gently, just as I come gently, I wave my hand, don't take away a cloud."

"Uh-uh, positive answer."

Where did the kitchen knife god think that Wushuang could go around so much, it was completely as if he was ridiculed back.

"Okay, if I ask you a question, you can answer it, and my answer to this question will come out, excuse me, if I fall into that lake, wife and mother, who do you say will come to save me without life?"

Wushuang finished speaking.

The kitchen knife god was stunned, including the water friends in the live broadcast room, if I fell into that lake, my wife and mother, who do you say will come to save me?

"Kitchen knife god.. Speak. ”

The kitchen knife god never thought that Wushuang could kick this question back, so embarrassing, there is no doubt that if you don't have to save your life, it will naturally be your mother, I have to say, Wushuang's answer is very wonderful, and it takes a rhetorical question, which makes people wake up and make people think deeply, the kitchen knife god blushed, and took the lead in applauding for a moment, maybe this is the best answer.

Some things, when you turn around, are a lifetime.

It's a rare touch, Wushuang got off the live broadcast in advance, just lay in bed and think about life, in fact, it's good.