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In a sense, both good and bad deeds are, in essence, part of humanity!

Sometimes, however, not all good deeds are humane, and not all evil deeds are inhumane......

The so-called humanity, in essence, contains all the emotions that all human beings should have......

All acts, whether good or bad, are essentially part of the humane order!

Just like the act of revenge, revenge itself is actually a manifestation of negative emotions, but from a humanitarian point of view, revenge is a very reasonable behavior......

Even a sage like Confucius once said, repay virtue with virtue and repay grievances with straightforwardness!

Because this is a cognition and behavior that conforms to human nature!

On the other hand, if a person is burdened with a sea of blood and hatred, but chooses to give up for various reasons, such an act itself is actually an inhumane act, and in the eyes of others, it will also be a very cowardly and incompetent performance!

In the humane order, kindness and tolerance are not necessarily the right and humane behavior, but on the contrary, indifference and hatred may sometimes be more compatible with the humane order......

In the final analysis, it is a person's behavior that must be in line with human nature!

Kindness and friendliness, benevolent care for animals is a manifestation of human nature, and the revenge of retribution is also a manifestation of human nature!

The two themselves are not contradictory, many people who seem to be difficult to get along with, are very strict in dealing with people, always have a blank face, subordinates do wrong things, and always blame mercilessly, but in the face of their own pets at home, the expression is very gentle, and they are full of love and patience for pets......

In the final analysis, this is also a manifestation of the two-sided nature of human beings!

The so-called revenge and revenge are in line with human nature, and on the contrary, if you are always habitually forbearing, then it is not in line with human nature, and you will only hurt yourself in the end......

Just like many patients with depression, in essence, they are actually this kind of forbearance character, so when they encounter things, they always bear it silently, and when they bear a lot of negative emotions, they will naturally have a tendency to self-destruct......

Patience and tolerance are often seen as virtues, but in reality, sometimes these virtues are not necessarily right in themselves!

Whether it conforms to the humanitarian order itself is not directly related to whether a thing is good or bad!

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To give you a simple example......

Since ancient times, many parents have believed in the so-called filial piety under the stick......

From the perspective of modern people's ideas, this idea itself seems to be biased and not the best way to educate children......

Educators always say that the best way to educate children is to communicate with children as much as possible, understand what they need, and then guide them to get what they want, rather than simply using violence!

However, even in modern society, there are still many people who believe in this idea!

Even, from a humanitarian point of view, this kind of behavior is not actually a mistake!

In this world, there are all kinds of children, and different children are often adapted to different education methods......

It is true that there are actually some children from other people's families who can work hard to complete their studies without too much supervision from their parents, but no one can deny that sometimes, for bear children, beating can be said to be the simplest and most brutal but the most practical educational behavior......

In a sense, some children are born with a more casual personality, or do not have too much reverence for the rules, such people, most of them are more adventurous in character, and they do not like to abide by the rules and regulations in the school......

In fact, such bear children are often the most headache type for teachers and parents, and to deal with such bear children, a simple and rough beating, in fact, in a sense, is the best way to educate!

People always like to be reasonable, but reasoning can only be done to the object of reason!

And in this world, there are always bear children who can't communicate in a reasonable way, and the number is even very impressive!

In fact, not to mention bear children, even in the adult world, there are many completely unreasonable fools and mentally retarded people!

In reality, there are many people who will not restrain their smoking addiction in public......

However, the vast majority of people, if they smoke in public, must know in their hearts that their actions are wrong, so when they encounter dissuasion, they will also take the initiative to extinguish the cigarette butts in their hands and show a certain amount of apology......

This is the normal reaction of a normal person to good and correct counsel......

However, there are many people who often like to put on a posture of a dead pig that is not afraid of boiling water when they are obviously at a loss, and even ridicule those who give well-meaning advice, such people are the grown-up version of bear children!

Generally speaking, the vast majority of such people are hooligans who lacked sufficient education when they were young and mixed in society since childhood, because they have no so-called image to speak of, so they never care about their own image, nor do they care about what other people think of them......

Just like the broken window effect, they have long been accustomed to other people's strange contempt for themselves, so they have long been accustomed to being despised for themselves, and even subconsciously, they will be proud of their vulgar and despicable behavior, and feel that only in this way can they be regarded as pulling the wind in the real sense, and can they be regarded as having face in the real sense!

In the final analysis, the values of this type of people themselves are fundamentally different from ordinary people!

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In many underworld groups, the Crazy Boy and ordinary people often have a large degree of cognitive difference, ordinary people regard crime as a shame, but for the Crazy Boy, any sense of criminal behavior, for them, is a manifestation of glory, hurting, intimidating, blackmail, blackmail, murder, and even imprisonment and other experiences, among them, all belong to a kind of seniority and glory!

In fact, in a sense, the most fundamental reason why many Troubled Boys become Crazy Boys is actually the lack of sufficient discipline when they were young!

Because when they were young, they were one lawless bear child after another, so when they grew up, they naturally became bear adults......

There is nothing wrong with children being naughty, but if parents can't give them the right values, then children's naughty behavior may become bad behavior, naughty and bad are essentially two completely different concepts!

Naughty is just a lively and active character in a simple sense, but bad is a tendency in the direction of evil at the level of character......

In a sense, for this kind of misguided bear child, any verbal advice is actually meaningless, because their concept has already been deflected, so it cannot be reversed at all......

And the simplest, most direct and crudest way to reverse their concept is undoubtedly to beat them hard!

Fight every time you make a mistake, fight every time you make a mistake, and if you fight too much, you will naturally not make mistakes!

After all, the truth is not something that everyone can necessarily hear, but pain is something that everyone can feel!

It is because of this that the so-called concept of filial piety under the stick has been passed down to this day!

From the perspective of probability, the stricter parents manage their children when they are young, the higher the probability that children will become talents when they grow up......

Of course, this is only from the perspective of probability, from the perspective of individuals, any way of education may produce outstanding talents!

Parents beating their children, from a legal point of view, is naturally an illegal act, and even in foreign countries, abusing their own children is actually a very serious charge, but, from a humanitarian point of view, as long as it does not exceed the standard, then this kind of behavior itself is not actually inhumane, but just a behavior that is in line with the humanitarian order!

And on the contrary, in the same situation, take a completely opposite example!

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Spoil!

Yes, coddling!

In a sense, it seems like a matter of course for parents to pamper their children!

For any child, being pampered by their parents is a happy thing in itself!

However, if pampering goes too far and ends up turning pampering into coddling, then the situation is completely different!

Parents pamper their children, which in itself is a human emotion......

However, if parents pamper their children to an extreme, even beyond the scale of pampering, after reaching the height of doting, then this behavior itself has become an anti-human behavior!

To give you a simple example......

There was once a news that a star-chasing girl, in order to chase stars, constantly forced her parents to give herself money so that she could follow in the footsteps of stars, hoping that she could see the stars, and the girl's parents also doted on this girl very much, so the girl's father, even if he smashed the pot and sold iron, took on huge debts, and even sold blood to raise money, he had to realize his daughter's wish......

There is no doubt that the ending of this story must be a tragedy!

And the source of this tragedy, in the final analysis, is nothing more than the word doting!

Love itself is cooperative, but doting is not beautiful, and may even bring destruction!

The same old saying, the so-called loving mother has many defeated children, this is the truth......

(To be continued.) )