Seeing that everyone had completely entered her topic, Xue Langjing continued, "But suddenly one day, you have to live with this family of people who are complete strangers, become their family, eat and live with them, because this is the place where you will live for the rest of your life, they are your family, but..."

But what?

But people are a family that has lived together for a long time, they are familiar with each other, they are blood relatives to each other, just you are suddenly added, you are an outsider, if you want them to accept you as a sudden stranger, you must integrate into the family as much as possible, let yourself be a part of it, right?

Right.

If you want to fit in, you naturally want to gain the favor of everyone, you need to please them, please them, or please the people you feel need to please.

On the one hand, you have to fit in with other people's circles, and on the other hand, as far as you are concerned, you will suddenly be in an unfamiliar environment, and you yourself will be nervous and need a process of adaptation. Do you need a medium to integrate you into this strange family? At the same time, in an unfamiliar environment, I want to rely on my heart.

So there is one person who can meet both of these conditions at the same time, and that is the person you think will spend your life with having children with you?

Husband.

It's your husband, he will be the closest person in your in-law's family, or even the only person who has a direct relationship with you, because you will have children in common, everything else is nothing, only the children are really tying you two together, and then everyone else is through your husband, tying you and them into a family.

Therefore, before you have no children, your husband is the only one in your in-law's family, only by pleasing or serving your husband well, maintaining a good relationship with him, and letting him stand firmly with you, you can have a foothold in this family.

There is no one in this family who is closer to you than your husband, he is the most accepting person, and if you don't even want your husband to see you, no one will treat you.

Therefore, at this time, your life will inevitably be centered on him, if there is no him, you will be isolated in this family, just like grandma to grandpa, mother to father, aunt to uncle, each of them has to carefully care about their husband's food, drink, Lazar, and care about everything about him, right?

Yes, suddenly I arrived at a completely strange in-law's house, and the only thing a woman can rely on is her husband, and her husband is your heaven, although you have to serve your good father-in-law and mother-in-law to please them, and let your sister-in-law and brother-in-law accept you, but they are not as important as their husbands, this is what they know.

After giving them time to think, Xue Langjing continued to analyze for them.

What do ordinary people want to do when they marry a daughter-in-law? It is nothing more than letting the daughter-in-law give birth to children for her own family, pass on the family lineage, and take care of the housework for them to maintain the stability of the family.

Let's talk about the problem of children, as mentioned earlier, only children can completely bind you and your husband together.

After you enter the door of your in-laws' house, the next step is that your father-in-law, mother-in-law and husband are all waiting for you to continue the incense for your in-laws and give birth to children, only if you give birth to incense, they are happy, and you yourself are happy.

Having a child means that you are completely integrated into this family, because you gave birth to the incense of your mother-in-law's family, and for yourself, this family finally has someone who is connected to your blood.

Your child is the incense of your mother-in-law's family, you are his mother, from now on, even if you don't have your husband's support, you still have children to rely on, and you are blood relatives, sometimes he can even let you rely on you more than your husband, and your husband may still mess with flowers and grass outside, or like the new and hate the old, or gradually get worse and worse for his wife, a yellow-faced woman, and feel that you are not as good as the woman outside. In short, anything is possible.

But your child is your child, you are his mother, and if he treats you badly, he is unfilial, and he will be scolded by the world, so he says that the husband is dead and obeys the son.

Your husband is no longer your only one, and a large part of your focus will be shifted to your children, and the daughters-in-law who marry into their mothers-in-law are passed down from generation to generation.

But what if you can't conceive and can't give birth?

Your parents-in-law and husband have been staring at your belly, but you haven't moved, will they be disappointed in you?

Will your mother-in-law look at you unpleasantly, or even complain that you can't have children?

In the face of all kinds of pressure, are you anxious and disappointed, eagerly looking forward to the early arrival of this child? Will it?

Yes, as a daughter-in-law, not being able to have children is definitely the most desperate thing for you.

But fortunately, your luck is good, after you wait, wait, wait, finally wait until you get pregnant, aren't you happy and looking forward to it?

Of course, you finally have a child, you have finally made a great contribution to your in-laws' family, passed on their incense, and you finally have something to rely on.

Not only you, but the whole in-laws are very happy, they are staring at your belly, you have been married for a long time, and you are not young, your husband is the only incense in the family, if you can't give birth, their family will be doomed.

Your mother-in-law is anxious to hold her grandson, and you can't give birth, she is anxious, the more anxious she is, the more she looks at you unpleasantly, scolds you for being a hen that can't lay eggs, and then in a hurry, she pries your husband to divorce his wife and remarry, anyway, you have no children.

So this kid came at the right time, and everyone was happy.

Then, you gave birth, but unfortunately, you gave birth to a daughter, your parents-in-law were disappointed, your husband was disappointed, you yourself were disappointed, everyone was disappointed.

Your mother-in-law also condemned you for not being angry and unable to give birth to a son, so that her family cut off the incense, scolded this for being a girl, and wanted to get your husband to divorce his wife and remarry, your husband told you that he was very embarrassed, but he couldn't be a bad descendant and let his family be the last child, so he had to agree.

At this time, for you, it is tantamount to the sky is about to fall.

Are you disappointed in this daughter? If she is a son, everything will be fine for you, he will be the baby bump of the in-laws, and your status will suddenly rise and take a place in this family.

But because of her, she's not a son, she's a useless girl, and she makes you lose everything you should have enjoyed.

Do you hate this daughter? Annoying? Will she be to blame? Will you not like her?

Maybe now you think you won't, it's all out of your own belly, how can you hate her!

Xue Langjing asked everyone again, and several sisters felt that they would not dislike or even dislike their daughter, after all, as she said, this is a child born in October when she was pregnant, how can she hate it.