"How much money do you make? And a smile? His wife asked.

"I didn't make much money, and if I did, would I still live here? It's like a slum. Also, if I had money, I wouldn't have traveled by bus. You and I are married, why? Ji Conan asked.

"It's not because you're going to lie. Rhetoric, coaxing me, looking for me every day, dead skin, can't bang out, just like a leper dog. His wife said

"If you feel comfortable scolding me, just scold it, I will never scold back, and I won't fight back." Ji Conan said. Ji Conan thought to himself, he has no money anyway, and if he doesn't have money, he will be angry, and if he is angry, he may have resistance and progress. Not all families are happy, and each has its own misfortunes. Happy families are almost the same, and the days are dull and uninteresting, often listening to scolding, it is also a kind of masochism, a kind of torture, there are no fairy tales in the adult world, and it is not easy for adults to do anything. If you can digest the dissatisfaction and resentment in your heart, let his wife scold, scold enough, and he won't scold when he is tired.

Ji Conan thought like this, as if he had won another game.

The game between husband and wife has never stopped, outsiders seem to be calm and calm, there is no turmoil, but in fact, the dark tide is surging, and there are some small fluctuations from time to time, or big turmoil, and they are always in danger. Because of the subtlety, many things are hidden, secret, outsiders do not know, their hearts are as clear as a mirror, some words are not clear, and some truths are not clear.

Washing clothes is a daily routine, and when he works and lives outside, Ji Conan solves it by himself. As long as you are in the city, you must use a washing machine for laundry, because this is public, free to use, and the laundry detergent is prepared by yourself, if you don't have it, you have to buy it yourself. If you use the public one, you have to pay out of pocket to put in the wooden box as the cost of buying laundry detergent in the future. When Ji Conan arrived in the village, he washed his clothes by hand. Of course, if the landlord invites you, you can also use the landlord's washing machine. Because the places he went to were places where water resources were relatively scarce, the washing machines used were basically not fully automatic, and the landlord's kind invitation made him embarrassed, so he didn't go. The key worry is that the washing machine is dirty and may be cross-contaminated, for the sake of your own health, you would rather do your own laundry, this is not a difficult thing, just get used to it. He is like this, if he is square, he will be round, and it will be smooth, and it is not a difficult thing.

Conan didn't know that washing clothes was so difficult, he didn't like to wash clothes since he was a child, he felt that it was too wasteful of time, and when he was single, he was willing to spend money to buy one, which he used to get married and have children.

When I arrived in Guizhou, I still had to buy a washing machine, which was fully automatic.

For this reason, Conan's wife also kicked the washing machine over, fortunately it was not broken, otherwise it would not be possible to replace another washing machine, the store must have said that this is caused by human factors, not within the scope of compensation, nor in the scope of replacement, fortunately his wife was merciful, so that the washing machine escaped a catastrophe.

Conan's wife also doesn't like to do laundry, but she can't afford to spend money on a washing machine, what should she do? As long as Conan is at home, let him wash, Conan is very annoyed, but there is no way, only washing. Who called you a man? If you need to pay more, you need to feel sorry for your wife.

In order to get the best of both worlds, Conan bought a washing machine, although he was temporarily opposed by his wife, but, over time, he would rely on the washing machine.

Conan realized: People will not take the initiative to suffer, as soon as they have the opportunity, they must find ways to enjoy themselves, enjoy the sweet life, they all want to be relaxed, and they don't want to be heavy.

The person in charge is a person, and also wants to get some benefits, but also to maintain their dignity, the old saying is good, both want to be **, and want to set up a memorial arch. That's what it means. This is where the person in charge is inappropriate, but the person in charge is always right. It's not wrong, it's always the employees who are wrong. Even getting a little benefit is so difficult and not easy to get, and even if you get it, it is a kind of mercy and charity, and you have to be grateful to the person in charge, and you have to praise them a thousand times and ten thousand times for their goodness, otherwise there will be no next time.

Dancing is good without shackles, and even more beautiful without shackles. If you want to sing, you can roar twice, it's beautiful, and if you want to dance, you can dance, which is also chic and elegant. No one is restricted, it is freedom. Freedom, everyone desires. But freedom, not everyone has. Some good things are always long overdue, or there is a traffic jam on the road, or there are other accidents.

Conan checked all corners of the house, and found that the rats were completely destroyed, and there was no comeback, Conan's method was right, and the places where the house might hide were carefully checked, especially the plaster line gap under the cardboard box and the ceiling, which was the paradise of the rats, and completely closed the paradise was an excellent way to cut off the mice, but I am afraid that the IQ of the rats is not high, but the rats are very diligent and will continue to look for ways to achieve their goals.

What's more, Conan's wife is very sensitive, and the stimulation of the smell makes her crazy, and she must drive all the rats out before she can do it, according to Conan's idea, if the rats run away and don't come back, it may be good not to put the rats to death, and to keep the rats alive and avoid being killed. However, his wife could not do it, and she must be exterminated before she could be had.

If Conan doesn't do it, he can't do it, and after a long time, Conan was upset when he heard it, so he compromised in order to keep his ears clean, and his wife said so, and he did what he did, which was a blind compromise, and when she found that this path was not working, she could prove her mistake, and even if she was wrong, few women were willing to admit it. If you want to maintain the harmony and stability of the family, you must recognize the status of women, know that women are not wrong, they will always be right, and they are all emotionally and intellectually absolutely dominant. Women are wrong, but also because men are wrong first, women are right, that is absolutely right, women are not ordinary people, they are people whose EQ and IQ are higher than men. If they become the person in charge, they will definitely make the man completely collapse, because men and women are not the same, even if they see the sun rising in the east and setting in the west, what they see is not the law, but the beauty.

It is better to obey than to obey, even if a woman's order is wrong, do not be strong, otherwise, you will suffer. The way to compromise is to wisely leave room for it, don't do it completely, maybe the part that is left is right and can be saved. In the world of two, there is no absolute truth, and when you can't reason with them, it's best to shut up, this is the wisest way to do it. After a long and painful period of thought, Conan finally came to this conclusion.

A woman's short-sightedness is doomed, but she will never take the initiative to admit it, even if she is wrong, she will not admit her mistake, she will only make excuses and shirk responsibility. If you want a woman to take the initiative to admit her mistakes, it is more difficult than climbing to the sky, as for some people who say that a woman finds her husband or boyfriend, crying and begging to admit her mistakes, it is wishful thinking, fantasy, it is extremely difficult to encounter on the earth, and it is not known that it may exist on other living planets.

In the battle between the two, the man will not win, even if he wins, he will still lose in the end, and he will lose even worse if he does not take the initiative to admit defeat. Conan's life is bitter, and the person in charge is a woman, and so is his wife. In a woman's nest, struggling, it's really painful. The road of the institution is getting narrower and narrower, there are no rules to follow, cronyism, not meritocracy, mutual protection, mutual covering, there is no institutional constraint, so everyone is unscrupulous.

When Conan arrived at home, his wife was ignorant, and he was-for-tat with Conan everywhere, refusing to compromise, like an empress, who wanted to be in charge of the house, and did not understand economic accounting, and preferred to buy clothes to wear. There are so many clothes at home that it makes people's heads big, and they still shout all day long that they have no clothes to wear, open the wardrobe, full of sadness, I don't know what to wear, choose to choose, or those that are often worn, you must know this, buy clothes idle for a few years, it is better to buy those clothes, so that you don't have to waste money, you don't have to worry about it, open the wardrobe in a daze. Clothes can be dignified and generous, why bother with bells and whistles? Clothing that is different from others may cause jealousy or hatred from others, which is a red flag and a potential threat. It's best not to make too many enemies, so be careful with what you wear.

Because of his faith, Conan liked to live a simple life, and he prepared a few clothes that he often weared, and he just had to change them, so why should he fill his wardrobe? Stuffed wardrobes, those things are not used, it is a waste. Give it away, people don't want it, it's a pity to throw it away, it's difficult to leave and right, I don't know how to be good?

The origin lies in not cultivating a heart of extravagant comparison, once people are busy, they will ignore many things. Walking on the street, pedestrians will not care about the clothes you wear, in this era of society, everyone is busy, will pay attention to their own needs, pay attention to themselves, will not care about others, good or bad clothes, does not affect the evaluation of pedestrians. Because people pay attention to themselves, they will choose clothes, and when they wear the clothes they choose, they are only what they love, and as for the people who watch, what opinions they have, no one knows, and they don't want to understand. Whether it's clothes or career, as long as it's meaningful, it's worth doing, don't pursue justice too much, and don't pursue perfection too much. Everyone is imperfect, they are all flawed, and to say that good people are only less evil than bad people.

A lot of trouble lies in the fact that you think that people are paying attention to you, but in fact, they already have their hearts, and what they give to others is their hearts, and what they give you is unreliable hypocrisy. Everybody is hypocritical, everybody has a vain heart. In such an era, if you want to be alone, it is even more difficult, and if you don't get it right, you will be in trouble.

Conan's home is in Xiangyang City, it is said that many of Jin Yong's stories take place in Xiangyang, such as "The Legend of the Condor Heroes", "The Condor Heroes", etc., and later arranged into a TV series. However, Conan's poverty alleviation and development work is not in Xiangyang, but in an ethnic minority area, which is more than an eight-hour drive from his home. I can't see anything on the flat map, but in fact it is thousands of rivers and mountains, eighteen bends of mountain roads, the straight-line distance on the map looks gratifying, it doesn't look far, a few times a day back and forth are fine, in fact, it is a three-dimensional distance, a day back and forth to get up early and greedy for darkness.

Conan chose to work as a social worker in rural development and poverty alleviation in the mountainous areas, in fact, he hoped to get a stable income, although he could only ensure food and clothing, but at the moment when there was no relationship, it was already good to keep food and clothing first, and his sacrifice had only one purpose, that is, to let the child have no worries and give the child a not very good but very safe environment to grow up. If it's just for the salary, it's better to find a lucrative job in Xiangyang, but it's not easy to say. In today's society, everything has to be about relationships. Civil servants attach more importance to relationships, and during the New Year's holidays, gift-giving has become a trend, which has become more and more intense, and it is impossible to stop the car.

Conan made a short stay at home, preparing to go to Jiangcheng for a meeting, and then go to work at the project site, that is, to return to the state. Guizhou is the place where Conan cultivates his self-cultivation. The ravine is remote, but there is no better place to match it. The ravine can cut off contact with the outside world, and also allow oneself to think about past transgressions, correct oneself, and then live a better life.

This arrangement has become a habit, and sometimes Conan is also worried that he will become a boiled fish if he is in warm water, like a fish, and slowly warms up? Quite possibly! However, if you are poor, you don't know what to do? Changing jobs is a big decision, and it takes a lot of courage to take that step.

Conan is not often at home, somewhat similar to opening ***, always lively for a few days, and then everything returns to calm. There are a few more drafts or laws and regulations, but they have little impact on people's lives. Most of those drafts are based on subjective conjecture and are difficult to implement in real life, resulting in the long-term accumulation of some cases and the inability to sort out the clues.

Those who play mahjong still play mahjong, those who walk still walk, those who sing and dance, each doing one line, and there is nothing to do with each other. Worldly entertainment is not related to Conan, but it does not mean that everyone will abandon entertainment, but will carry forward the trend. People's lifestyles do not change due to the change of people in charge, they are still the same. If it changes, it is also a temporary obedience, which is the case on the surface, but in the heart it is still unconvinced, and over time, it will still return to the original stage.

Conan left this time without his family, because he was going to Jiangcheng for a meeting. It's not enough to let his mother and son attend the meeting, right?

Then I turned to Guizhou, the weather is hot, it is difficult to go out, and it is not as convenient as carrying luggage with children. Even if the child likes to sleep in the car, it can't be, Xiangyang, in the long run, is still Conan's home, many places, are places to travel, Conan is a traveler, including Guizhou, Jiangcheng and Xiangyang, and even for the whole earth, Conan is just a traveler, hurrying by.

Travelers are destined to be lonely, always gathering less and leaving more. The relationship with family members also affects the space. Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, and this is born. The lonely traveler walked with the sun and the moon, only no one spoke, with the wind, and the wind blew on its own.