62, Zhang Lili's exchange (2)

Hearing Zhang Lili say this, my heart suddenly returned to its original place.

I was a little curious and said to Zhang Lili, "Lili, I always feel that your ideas are different from our ordinary young people, your personality is very cheerful, your knowledge is also very wide, you know more things than us, you have your own opinions on many things, I see you live so chic, I am really happy for you from the heart, I have a very private question, can I ask you?" ”

Zhang Lili said to me with a smile, "You don't need to ask this question, I know what you want to ask, do you want to ask why you don't take advantage of your youth to have a vigorous love?" I think so, now is still very young, there are many things that we need to learn, fall in love prematurely, indulge in kissing me, I am such a heavy emotional person, I am afraid that it will affect my quality of life, now have a good time, especially those of us who learn foreign languages, if you don't take advantage of this stage of freedom to go abroad for a turn, wouldn't it be a loss? In fact, learning a foreign language is the same as you learning Chinese, reading thousands of books, traveling thousands of miles, opening books is beneficial, we who learn foreign languages, if we do not go to the mother tongue country to experience the language environment, the teacher in the classroom is not so lively. The reason why we took such a long time to come to the United States for a free trip is to fully enjoy the language environment of the country, and I want to go to the United Kingdom when I have time in the future, and also take a trip around the island there, and seriously experience the native English environment. ”

Zhang Lili's open and honest thoughts shocked me a little in my heart, such a cheerful, smart girl, I know in my heart that it is not necessarily a good thing to encounter love too early, but I still persuaded her, "Lili, your idea is really good, while you are young or free, play the world all over again, it is a kind of enjoyment for people, but also a kind of accumulation of knowledge, and it is more suitable for girls who learn foreign languages, but I hope you don't be too mechanical, don't refuse when feelings come, A lot of things go with the flow, may achieve more unexpected results, feelings do not set the place to set the time, to feel with your heart, when a boy makes you feel excited, I hope you grasp the opportunity, talk about a vigorous love, there will be no regrets on the road of life. The sweetness of love, the power of love, you will have surprising feelings when you experience it, like you are a girl with rich feelings and very sensitive, love will definitely give you greater strength and make your life more colorful. ”

Zhang Lili saw that I said so sincerely, and said to me with a smile, "Bang Bang, my good sister, you are the person I have met who knows me best, don't worry, when my heart moves, I will definitely grasp it, I have never refused feelings, I have always longed for the sweetness of love, no matter where, no matter where, no matter what time, if my boy in Xiyi comes to me, I will definitely seize the opportunity to seize happiness." ”

Zhang Lili said, a feeling of happiness has appeared on her face, I said to her affectionately, "According to your cheerful character, your love must be a romantic, in a foreign country, when the scenery is picturesque, there is a favorite young man walking to you, that full of romantic love is really unimaginable." ”

Zhang Lili looked at me strangely, "How can you have such a sense of picture?" Don't look at me as learning foreign languages, but my thinking is still very conservative, I don't want to engage in a foreign love, but want to find a handsome Chinese boy, talk about a love with Chinese cultural traditions, let our love have classical, modern, and future, so that the elements of Chinese culture are fully reflected in the process of our love, that is the real romance. There are a lot of problems in long-distance relationships, and I am not unacceptable, but as far as I am concerned, I still have no feelings for foreign boys, and I think that our Chinese boys are more reliable. ”

Zhang Lili, who is open-minded and cheerful, has such a tradition in her bones, which is completely different from what I imagined, "How can you still have such a traditional concept?" In fact, I think it doesn't matter which country he is, it doesn't matter if he is Chinese, the important thing is that two people have the same interests, there are endless love words, and endless romantic things, so that life is perfect, such love is touching, such a life experience is what we expect now, don't have this kind of thought, you are now in contact with such a wide range of people, contact with so many foreigners, maybe the person you like is a foreign boy. ”

Zhang Lili shook her head at me and said, "Bang Bang, you are so naïve, love is romantic, but the problem of love is extremely realistic, we were born in different countries, grew up in different environments, our thoughts are branded with the brand of the nation, who wants to change who is impossible, this kind of exotic love in addition to one party's clothes, the other party, two independent people are impossible to have good results, how many facts have proven this, I will not rely on men like others to live, So this can't happen to me, and I don't want the rest of my life to be miserable, and I don't want to change everything about me because of a foreigner. Because I have more friends around me and know more things, I really don't want to do it, and I refuse it in my heart. ”

I don't know what will make Zhang Lili feel a little hindered in her heart, he said it so firmly, I was embarrassed to continue this topic, so I sighed softly, "I originally wanted to share your romance, but now it seems to be out of play." ”

Zhang Lili looked at my expression and asked strangely, "Is it because I don't approve of having a long-distance relationship, do you look at me like this?" Wouldn't I be able to share the romance with you if I found a Chinese boy? Bang Bang, the tragedy of foreign love abounds among my friends, the attitude towards marriage, those young people abroad are very open, divorce is a common thing for them, two people's thoughts are slightly inconsistent and propose to break up, and some foreigners in order to avoid the interference brought by marriage, simply live together all their lives, and never get any marriage certificate, how terrible is this kind of romance, it is irresponsible to the family, to the individual, to the children, among so many foreigners, who knows which people have a family concept, Who doesn't have a sense of family? ”

I stared at Zhang Lili with big eyes, and asked in surprise, "How can it be as serious as you say, many foreigners also attach importance to family, the divorce rate abroad is relatively high, and now the divorce rate in our country is not low, you can stop thinking from the beginning, two people have different concepts, different life paths, disagreements, and to the point of breaking up, this is a manifestation of social progress, how did it become this kind of thinking in your mouth?" I think you have gone a little too far in your research on foreign countries, and you still have to take life happiness as the goal in life, and don't pay attention to those negative things in the old government. ”

Zhang Lili looked at me a little helplessly, and said to me seriously, "Bang Bang, I am very in favor of foreign countries in other things, especially in the concept of family, I am particularly disapproving of them, social progress does not mean the disintegration of the family, it does not mean that people can be irresponsible, and it does not mean that the divorce rate will inevitably increase." Do you know? Now the international community is seriously sick, Europe is sick, the United States is sick, their society is really terminally ill, and superficial prosperity cannot cover up their social problems, you know? Now in the corner of Capitol Hill in the United States, there is a small park that has been opened up by the Americans, just to let those poor people, walk, demonstrations to vent their emotions, 1% of Americans have accounted for 90% of the wealth of the United States, the poor are growing, the middle class is shrinking the financial oligarchy, Wall Street capital is controlling the American society, populism has divided that country under the guise of democracy, which is one of the reasons why I want to experience that society, in our previous generation, They are listening to a heaven-like story every day, that is, the American dream, and now look at the United States, it is not us outsiders who say that the Americans themselves feel that every day is not as good as a day, and the social populism in the United States is prevalent, and the left-wing extremist and right-wing extremist are really too harmful to society, especially the right-wing extremist forces, which have become a kind of harm in American society, and this harm may endanger the entire American society during the next US presidential election. Do you think about how people's minds can not change in a situation where populism is rife and society is torn apart? Will there be any responsibilities to the family? They are too self-righteous, they think that the moon and the sun are the best and brightest in the West, in fact, they are now facing a huge crisis, and the direction of development in their hearts is extremely confused. The family is the most basic cell of society, and the contradictions of society must and must be reflected in the family contradictions, which are sometimes irreconcilable, how dare I find my other half in this society? ”

Zhang Lili depicts reality, how serious it is, in fact, I don't know, but Zhang Lili's thinking is completely correct. The family is the basic unit of society, the contradictions of society, the contradictions of the country are inevitably reflected in the family life, each member of the family has its own cognition of the society, the country and the development, and has its own ideas, then the mainstream trend of thought in the society will definitely affect the thinking of the individual, and these factors are incorporated into the family, then the family will be divided into 4 and 5, just like the so-called democratic crisis faced by Western countries now, they do not talk about democracy at all, and their democracy is always a double standard. From their point of view, the world is all created by them, and they have no disdain for other human civilizations, and the paranoid thinking has been ingrained in the idea that the West first, the American first idea is expanding, when will the society be further flooded by this extreme populism and what kind of effect will it achieve? No one knows.

Originally, I thought that Zhang Lili's thinking was a bit conservative, but now when I analyze the world pattern and the current situation in Europe and the United States, this idea is really of practical significance. I said to Zhang Lili, "It seems that you are still amazing, our current motherland is incomparably prosperous and powerful, our economic strength, our social development is the best period in history, our great rejuvenation of the Chinese dream is becoming the dream of all our people, there is a lack of observation of the complexity of the surrounding world, you are learning foreign languages, you have insight into the world situation and the situation abroad, so your ideas are of practical significance, and simple people like me may not understand for a while, After you told me this, I really put myself in their shoes, and if it were me, I would think the same way. ”

Zhang Lili then said to me, "In fact, these are also the result of my calm observation and careful thinking, most of the people of my father's generation who went abroad did not come back, they lived in the United States, after living in the United States for decades, they suddenly found that the society could not stay, they returned to China to start a business, after the development of the motherland for a period of time, they felt that there is no motherland anywhere, the superiority of the Western society they enjoyed, now compared with us, nothing exists, our motherland is now stable and relieved, The economy is developing rapidly, the people live and work in peace and contentment, everything the government does is what the people want to do, there is no election quarrel, there is no democratic ability, and there is no extremism in the ability, and the goal of the people of the whole country is the same as that of a well-off development, so they have become the most patriotic group of people after they come back. ”

Zhang Lili went on to say, "Former U.S. Secretary of State Dulles once said that he pinned his hopes on the next few generations of our China, and this conspiracy of peaceful evolution, he hoped to realize it with the help of those who lived in the United States, and now his prophecy is completely bankrupt, because these people know more about American society and know better about the current situation in the United States, so the development of the United States is now going downhill, democracy is completely hypocritical capital rampant, and oligarchy is the wealth of society seized by a small number of capital tycoons. The poverty of the masses of the people is more and more dependent on the expansion of the middle class, more and more shrinking of the real economy, and the higher the cost is getting higher and higher, and the American dream they depict is long gone. Obama's biggest political legacy is pinned on his health care bill, this health care bill is just to give some fair treatment to ordinary people, it is such a bill, it is also difficult to pass in the US Congress, the next president will come up, maybe the first thing to overturn his greatest political achievement, between them is now a two-party politics, the interests of the two parties fighting above all else, is this the ideal democratic system they portray? Is this still the American dream that everyone yearns for and everyone wants to experience? Only by feeling it can we truly understand that those who have lived in the West for twenty or thirty years have already seen through and seen through the hypocritical masks of the West, so it seems more cordial to return to the motherland, and patriotism is still born. ”

Zhang Lili said angrily, "After the development of capitalism, the first thing they did was to use force to rob the whole world, they invaded everywhere, colonized everywhere, and adopted a policy of partitioning our China, so that we had more than 100 years of humiliation, our most beautiful Old Summer Palace was burned down by these robbers, and now many Chinese cultural relics in the British Museum were robbed at that time, and they also put these strong antiques in the auction house in a grand manner, and they were not ashamed at all when China claimed. Aren't you saying that such a powerful industrial revolution is not aiding and abetting? ”

I listened to Zhang Lili's discussion, deeply agreed, and nodded, "The greed of the West and the aggressiveness of the capitalist powers cannot be erased by anyone in modern history, and their so-called modern civilization is gunboat politics and power politics. ”

Zhang Lili said, "Since the beginning of the anti-colonial campaign in the fifties and sixties, the invasion of large areas of land has become independent, and they can't stop the trend of this world, so they have changed their methods to depict a hypocritical American dream, so that the best young people in the world can come to their country and create wealth for them, but the idea that those capitalists want to obtain the greatest benefits will never change their politics, and we new immigrants have been discriminated against by them since they arrived in that country. Now they have finally woken up, given up their treatment there, and resolutely returned to the bosom of the motherland, never believing in the deceitful American dream again. ”

It was a bit eye-opening to hear Zhang Lili analyze the world situation like this, it turned out that he was thinking so deeply, "We are in the embrace of the motherland, enjoying the care of the government every day, our principles and policies are completely for the people, although we have also made rapid progress, but we still have some places that are very poor, and those Western politicians are taking advantage of our backwardness in development, so they can just make up the American dream, let so many of our elites serve them, and give them scientific and technological innovation, Let them enjoy the world's first-class scientific and technological achievements. ”

Zhang Lili nodded at me and said, "Only by thinking diligently can we see the world clearly, in fact, why many young people abroad are so interested in Chinese culture and Chinese civilization is because our country is now the center of the world. In this case, do you say that you can find a foreign guy in a foreign country? ”

Zhang Lili's analysis is particularly reasonable, Zhang Lili's idea is also completely correct, in order to persuade him to say what he just said, I feel that I really lack a comprehensive understanding of the world, not as comprehensive as his understanding of the problem, no how high he is, and no personal experience of him. "Lili, this incident shows that there are too many things to learn, not only lack of understanding and judgment of our current situation, but also ignorant of the situation of the world, a little bit of sitting in the well and watching the sky, a little whimsical, do you think I am too simple?"

Zhang Lili put her arm around my shoulders and said, "Bang Bang, it's a little cute, it's okay to be simple, why is it simply because you live in a beautiful world, you are surrounded by sincere people, and kind people are not so complicated, so you are simple, but we can be simple when we are young, and at our age, we need to look at the problem more objectively and comprehensively, and look at the world at a higher level, look at the world, look at the society, and look at the surroundings, so as not to lose our way, so as not to wrestle in real life." The reason why I can think about these problems and see these problems is mainly because my surroundings are too complicated, it turns out that living in my mother's university, there are too many colorful things, too many people of all kinds, and too many strange things, so I have to be careful to look at the world seriously, look at everything around me, and have to analyze the world situation and the domestic situation, so that I can keep my eyes open, so that I will not lose my way, and I will not be stuck in real life. Young is our capital, but also our disadvantage, because we don't have so much energy, we haven't met so many people and so many things, so we want to simplify the problem, and simplify the problem, these are some hidden dangers, good sister, I hope you also have a good eye to see the world, look with your mind, look with your heart, observe carefully and analyze carefully, I think you are such a smart person who can see through it better than me, and the conclusions drawn are more wonderful than me. ”

Zhang Lili said, I am also a little excited, "Lili, young is not wrong, young is our capital, as long as we have an attitude of humble learning to understand the world, know our surroundings, I think, there may be greater benefits, there will be a clear direction." In fact, our biggest advantage is not because of how clever we are, but because we are in this great motherland, and now the development of our country is the best and fastest country in the world, and the whole world is paying attention, we should cherish this country, cherish this situation, promote this development, and let our country rejuvenate again. ”

Zhang Lili looked at me and said, "Bang Bang, in fact, I really want to communicate with you, every time I see you so simple and kind, I can't help but want to remind you, although our great motherland is strong, is prosperous, and our social environment is also very good, but our society is not without problems, the pace of our society is too fast, for people have a certain ability to bear, if you stretch this tense nerve for a long time, it will also cause a lot of harm to people, it is undeniable that our country is developing rapidly." But this high speed can not replace people's nervousness, many of us in this tense society, in this tense situation also has some problems, my experience tells me, several classmates around have it, or have depression, what is depression? It is the deviation of the cognition of this society, the problems of the society have caused depression, not the problem of the people themselves, nor the problems of the society, but the society is sick, and people are also sick, we must pay attention to these problems in life and work, to maintain the health of the body and the health of the mind, the health of the spirit, the society is in the transition period is not particularly stable, so we need to adapt to it, solve the problems in our thoughts, psychological problems, so that they can develop normally, You can't be like some people, it's easy to get this disease, it's hard to cure, it's hard to cure. Therefore, we should use the traditional ideology and Confucian doctrine to slow down the pace of our lives, improve our quality of life, and make our physical and mental health healthier. ”

For Zhang Lili said about this social problem, I also have deep feelings, the current rhythm of life, the pace of learning, the pace of work is too fast, especially in an international metropolis like Beijing, if you slow down, you can't keep up with the rhythm, one wrong step, many people release the beautiful ideals, but what they get is nothing, how can the body be healthy, how can the heart be healthy?

Zhang Lili just said that the West is sick, the United States is sick, and Europe is sick, but this disease is also eroding our society, although our major policies have been set, our government is more people-centered than them, and serving the people is our high purpose, but some social problems are not transferred by people's will, and in the face of these problems, we need to think calmly, take them seriously, and take some concrete measures.

If we can't, pay attention to social responsibility, pay attention to human contributions to civilization, then this pursuit will be evil, and there will be evil aspects behind the good results, what we have to do is to try to develop those positive things, positive things, guide people to start from good, and avoid those evil consequences. Avoid those social ills that cause greater harm to our society.

Needless to say, the fast pace of society has brought a series of drawbacks, for example, the problem of depression is not only Zhang Lili's classmates and friends, but also my friends and classmates, as far as I know, there are some people who are very uncomfortable, they struggle in their own entanglements every day, the society lacks their cognition, their cognition of society is also lacking, most of these people are young people, in the face of the rapid development of society, in the face of people's fast-paced life, they hesitated, Inadvertently, something went wrong in my heart.

Therefore, we need to use our patience to accompany them to comfort them, use us to adjust the rhythm of life and work, and develop healthily and steadily so that they can better adapt to this society, have a correct understanding of themselves, and will be able to adapt to this society, and healthy development will be cured in their hearts.

Zhang Lili said to me, "Bang Bang, we should all thank our government from the bottom of our hearts, thank our country for leaving us such a perfect penetration, we are now in the best period of development, although there are some unavoidable problems and difficulties, but our motherland is beautiful, our country is strong, our people are happy, we live in this land, feel extremely proud and happy, cherish it, let us enjoy life better, cherish it, Let's work harder to create a better life. ”

Zhang Lili said something that touched me very much, the exchange between Xu Fengqin and me a few days ago, coupled with the exchange between Zhang Lili and me today, from the overall situation, history and reality, let us have a clear understanding of this international environment, our current development is not what some people in the world want to see, the continuation of 200 years of prosperity of the Western capitalist society, very reluctant to withdraw from the stage of history they will continue to raise fish, save their prosperity, and are not willing to let our prosperity further expand, they will unite, to launch an ideological struggle, to create all kinds of obstacles for us, to hinder our development, just like Japan after the Meiji Restoration, did everything possible to see that we, a powerful country, have adopted so many despicable means, just like these Western powers and their ancestors, you will not be reconciled, we must always be vigilant, their gunboats may still show off their might in front of us, but it is no longer a decisive matter, they will definitely be ideologically, ethically, and in human rights, We should have the determination to pour dirty water on us on any kind of moral high ground they think of as a kind of moral high ground, we should not care about their gossip, do our own things well, use our powerful ancient civilization to let the world accept a harmonious but different motherland, and use the ancient Confucian culture and Chinese civilization to embrace the world.