Chen Jie had long expected that he would misunderstand, and hurriedly explained:

"Not being there is not believing, when discussing believing or not believing, people have already established the concept of love."

"But my dad said the concept itself doesn't exist. Once you start to benchmark everything in your life with that concept, it's hard for you to be happy. These words reminded Chen Jie of Lu Guoping, and he understood that his father was alluding to his mother.

Gao Geli had already heard this, and asked in confusion: "If this concept does not exist at all, why should people get married?" What has humanity relied on for millions of years of reproduction? ”

"That's why I warned you not to follow the crowd, but to think for yourself. You've never been in love, you've never been married, and who told you that marriage is sustained by that thing? ”

Gao Geli shrugged his shoulders and said, "That's what everyone says, and that's what it's done on TV." ”

Chen Jie shook his head: "If you only want your marriage to last for a short time, that thing may be useful, but it is unrealistic to live a lifetime." ”

Gao Geli was a little anxious, and urged: "Oh, don't go around the corner, you should say it quickly if you rely on what to sustain it!" Brother, I may count on your words for my future happiness. ”

Chen Jie couldn't help but be a little amused when he saw Gao Geli's appearance, and said unhurriedly: "The essence of marriage is actually an economic behavior, and the original intention of combining two people is to play the synergistic effect of one plus one is greater than two, and it has nothing to do with those two words themselves. ”

"I'll go! If I don't like someone, how can I marry her? ”

"Alas......" Chen Jie shook his head helplessly.

"You're being led by someone else again. You're talking about the mode in romance dramas, so if you have time to watch more documentaries or statistics. ”

"Believe me, many people get married just because they are old, and then there happens to be such a person who thinks it is suitable to get married, and then they get married."

"Even if a person obviously hates another person, but he can't say why, he also got married in a daze under the fate of marriage, this is the actual situation in real life."

"So if you want to talk about the real reason for marriage, the answer of the ancestor is more objective, there is a word called - fate."

Gao Geli was completely disrupted by Chen Jie's words, and was touching his forehead with a frown at this time, Chen Jie saw him like this, so he gave him a gentle smile, raised his voice and said, "But ......"

When Gao Geli heard the word but, as if he had found some life-saving straw, he hurriedly answered: "I'll just say, there must be a 'but', or I'll really collapse, tell me what your 'but' is." ”

"Fate is divided into good fate and bad fate, what you said about getting married because of feelings belongs to the category of good fate, as for the depth of feelings, it depends on the quality of fate, of course, there are also bad fate, that is, the kind of people who have fought all their lives but do not divorce."

"I'll go, what you said is equivalent to not saying it, how do I know which is good and which is evil?"

Yes, who knows if the person waiting in front of you is a good or bad one?

Thinking of this, Chen Jie suddenly smiled, the open-mindedness in that smile didn't look like what a high school student should look like, more like a person who had gone through vicissitudes.

I saw him smile and said: "This kind of thing is indeed unpredictable by manpower, but our national ideology has always disliked fatalism, it is always man-made, do what you should do well, and the rest depends on the will of God. ”

"No, ......no," Gao Geli shook his head and questioned, "Some colleagues in my father's company go out to spend all day drinking, but the wife they can find is also a top beauty, what preparations did they make before getting married?" As a result, the wife I found was also good. ”

Chen Jie replied:

"First, you can't just look at the surface phenomenon, everyone has their own shining point, but they don't show it to you."

"Second, there is a problem with your standards, why do the standards of a good wife have to be linked to beauty? Ma Tianlai's mother is not ugly, but are you willing to marry someone like that? So your argument is not sufficient. ”

"3. Thinking in a pessimistic direction, these people spend all day drinking outside, and after a long time, won't there be problems in his marriage? Two people are domesticated and dynamically adjusted together, even if the wife you are looking for now is very beautiful and the person is not bad, but after a long time like this, the other party will inevitably leave you disheartened. ”

"Fourth, you have a somewhat negative attitude when you say this, and it is always good to have some hope in life."

After Chen Jie finished saying the word hope, he looked at the sky, and his eyes looked like there was really hope in that direction.

Although Chen Jie did not directly answer what the marriage depends on, when Gao Geli heard the points listed by Chen Jie, he probably understood the meaning, but the more he thought about it, the more he felt that the issue of marriage was too complicated and could not be explained in a few simple words, so he couldn't help but have a headache.

After a while, Chen Jie came back to his senses, paused and continued: "The most important thing is ......"

Gao Geli had the heart to beat Chen Jie at this time, and hurriedly said: "You are here again, can we not always talk and pant for breath, what do you want to say at one time, don't always pause in such a critical place every time!" ”

"Hehe, the most important thing is that we really don't know what awaits us in the future, but now there is a way to improve your happiness index in the future, although the success rate is not 100%, so are you willing to wait, or willing to change. Waiting is actually a bet, betting that you may have a good marriage in the future, but what if not? My dad told me not to gamble on life, to do things that have a big chance of winning, and to try to improve the success rate of a thing before it happens when you are unsure of its success rate. Even though the end result wasn't too good, I tried my best and I had a clear conscience. But this effort must be the right way and method, not nonsense, otherwise many things you think you are working hard, but in the end, on the contrary, you overdraft happiness. Gewu Zhizhi, Gewu Zhizhi, so my dad explained that reason is too important. ”

Gao Geli suddenly envied Chen Jie at this time, and hurriedly asked, "Is there still such a father?" I'd like to have a dozen, too! ”

Chen Jie gave Gao Geli a mysterious smile and said:

"After talking so much, in fact, it is all to provide theoretical support for my final opinion. We discussed the issue of early love before, and my opinion is very simple, if I have the financial means now, as long as I am of legal age for marriage, and I have a girl who wants to marry back, there is no problem in falling in love now. But according to the current social structure, even during college, we basically have no source of income, and I am a bit like my father, and I am a little arrogant in my heart, so even if I go to college in the future, I will not use the living expenses given by my family to fall in love. And even after graduating from college, if my income can't stabilize for the time being, then I won't be in love. Although I don't know who my other half is, whether it is my enemy or fate, but I always have good intentions towards her, so if I go to college, then I have to fall in love around 30 years old, so this kind of thing is insulated from me. Sorry to disappoint you for not being able to give you any gossip information. ”

"Alas...... It's boring. Gao Geli said with some interest after hearing this reply.

"But since you said before that I would share some experience with you, then I will pass on my thoughts to you, don't fall in love until you make money, because I think you are also very kind in your bones, and I am afraid that you will cause trouble if you talk too early."

Gao Geli was born with a programmed ape mentality, and he always wanted to discuss every logical branch of a thing, so he asked the bottom of the question: "But many people also get married when everything is unstable?" ”

It depends on everyone's temperament and fate, and different people react differently to the same situation. If you are very demanding of yourself and emphasize your sense of responsibility as a man, it is better to talk later, this is your own planning thinking. But if the plan can't keep up with the change at that time, for example, there is a girl who looks at you right, and doesn't care if you have money or not, and even her joining is very helpful to your career, so that you suddenly have the ability to fulfill your promises, then it's another matter. But it's always necessary to figure out your own temperament first. I think people are generally very accurate, and you are a suitable person for late marriage. ”

Gao Geli finally asked something about himself at this time, and he didn't praise Chen Jie for so long in vain, so he nodded and said, "Hmm...... Finally, it's a bit of a gain. ”

But when Gao Geli wanted to ask something more, he suddenly heard someone in the family area calling his and Chen Jie's names.

Of course, Chen Jie also heard it, he immediately realized the problem, took out his mobile phone to look at it, and exclaimed: "I'll go!" It's half past eleven, 6 missed calls! The family must be in a hurry! ”

Gao Geli stood up and listened for a while and said, "It seems to be my father's voice, it should be your father who called your name, right?" Speaking of which, we've been neighbors for so long, and we haven't crossed each other's doors yet. As soon as these words came out, he found that Chen Jie was inexplicably in trouble.

"That...... Actually, my dad wasn't a hospitable person. ”

Gao Geli looked embarrassed at Chen Jie, and he didn't plan to continue to embarrass him, and said with some interest: "No wonder your father has so much knowledge, it is estimated that he spent all his time reading books." Why is your dad's temper a bit like Qian Zhongshu? I don't like people to visit my house either......"

"Everyone has their own temperament...... Chen Jie smiled bitterly and reluctantly explained.

Gao Geli glanced at Chen Jie, shook his head and said, "Okay, okay, it's not difficult for you, I won't go to your house?" Listening to this voice, the family is probably in a hurry, so let's go, my emotional expert. ”

As they spoke, Gao Geli and Chen Jie ran quickly, and Chen Jie thought to himself as he ran: "Emotional expert? When did I become an emotion expert? ”