"My dad said that our generation matured late because of a problem with the starting point of growth."

"The normal growth of children should directly understand life, but because of the existence of fairy tales and love, we have entered the wrong path of an illusory world."

For some reason, Chen Jie always feels toothy when he mentions the word love.

Chen Jie continued:

"From the perspective of Eastern values, both of these things are illusory, and the reason why we mature late is because time is mostly spent hitting the south wall."

"Both of these concepts were originally the product of Western values, and it's good that we don't have Christmas, otherwise there would be another Santa Claus, and all three of these are fictional."

"I don't think the West has subjective malice in bringing these two things, but there is no subjective goodwill either, it's just a part of their lives."

"Because the national character is different, our understanding of the same concept is completely different. Because of the misreading, the two concepts have objectively caused great harm to our nation. ”

"Throughout my childhood, my dad used fairy tales as forbidden books."

"When I was in elementary school, I borrowed a copy of "Grimm's Fairy Tales" from my Chinese teacher, and my dad saw it and threw it out of the window for me, and the next day he ran to the school and had a big fight with my Chinese teacher.

"My dad's reason is also very simple, in the end, fairy tales are deceitful, it overemphasizes the beauty of life, does not emphasize the difficulty of life, you think of yourself as Snow White, but there are not so many princes charming in the world, when you think you have met, that person is often a liar."

"My dad thinks that if parents set up a dream for their children that is divorced from reality, once the dream is shattered by the real predicament in the future, the damage caused by this psychological gap is very great, and he thinks that it is a great dereliction of duty for parents not to provide correct guidance to their children."

Gao Geli disagreed, and retorted: "It's better to have a dream than not to have a dream, at least work towards a beautiful goal, and people can become better and better, right?" ”

Gao Geli's point of view Chen Jie disagreed, and immediately retorted:

"When people go to the world, they are originally here to improve themselves, this is the task of being born as a human being, why do you have to find a goal to lead?!"

"It's like a girl, you give her a dream of Prince Charming, out of the yearning for love, she studies hard, is positive, and is excellent in all aspects. As a result, I paid wrongly, I met an emotional liar, and within a few days, I learned to smoke and drink, and there are countless examples of this, right? ”

"That's the risk of tying one's job to an unrealistic goal. People are born to be good, and there is no need for a reason. If you have to say a scene, that is, you are worthy of heaven and earth, and worthy of your parents. ”

Seeing that he did not refute, Chen Jie continued:

"My dad said that it is easy for people to fall into the trap of lies, but it is difficult to climb out again. So his education to me has always been the same as Zengzi killing pigs, and I am very grateful to him for that. ”

"Of course, this kind of education also comes at a cost, because I see different things, so I basically don't have a common language with my peers, so I have very few friends."

Gao Geli raised his hand and said leisurely: "Please allow me to interrupt, there are also tragic stories like "The Little Match Girl" in fairy tales......"

Chen Jie smiled and said without thinking: "Then what do you think is the author's purpose in writing this story?" ”

"Inspire compassion in your child, right?"

Chen Jie shook his head and said, "I read this story in junior high school, from "Hans Christian Andersen's Fairy Tales"...... Hehe, it wasn't until junior high school that my dad allowed me to read fairy tales. In this story, the little girl's parents are alive, as a mother, can you watch your daughter go out to sell matches in a pair of slippers in the winter? ”

"Maybe their family is so poor that they can't even afford a pair of shoes......

"Do you think the vast majority of Chinese parents can do this kind of thing? Chinese parents have to feed and clothe their children without food or clothing, so this story is not valid in China at all! But my dad said that this story can actually reflect some problems. ”

"Oh? What's the problem? ”

"The author's own family of origin problem." Chen Jie said:

"The so-called little match girl is just a projection of the author's own experience. Born in the city of Odense, Andersen lived in poverty as a child, his father was a shoemaker, his mother was a servant, and he had no financial means to study in a charity school when he was a child, and his life has been very miserable. ”

"Western society has always been a commercial society, and commercial civilization does not pay attention to our set of poverty and happiness, but Maslow's hierarchy of needs, no money is discriminated against, that is, unhappy. That's why my dad said this book was Hans Christian Andersen's soothing thing. ”

"My dad also said that if I really sympathize with the characters in it, I will take the civil service exam in the future and solve these problems of lack of clothes and clothing for them."

"If the ambition is not here, then what I can do is not to let my children become like little matches in the future, but isn't this a problem for men to have skills before starting a family, isn't it going back to the old way of the ancients?"

"That's why my dad said that fairy tales are all deceptive things, especially for children who are not fully minded."

Gao Geli didn't agree with this, so he said: "But Andersen is known as the 'Sun of Children's Literature in the World', there is always some truth, right?" ”

"The 'world' in this title is the world of Westerners, not the world of Orientals, and my father doesn't recognize this title at all, he is not the kind of person who believes in authority."

Gao Geli smiled when he heard this, and teased: "It is said that Ma Bao's mouth is full of 'my mother said' and 'my mother said', and your mouth is full of 'my father said' and 'my father said', dare you to love you as a father treasure, haha." ”

"I'll listen to whoever makes sense, but unfortunately, what my dad said does make sense."

"And what did your uncle show you when you were a child?"

Chen Jie replied:

"Enlightened books, what three-character scriptures, hundreds of family names, thousand-character texts or something, it is basically the old set of the ancestors."

"My dad said that comprehension requires experience, I didn't have much experience in my childhood, and I couldn't understand reading very difficult books, so first of all, I cultivated my memory, and he forced me to recite the whole text of these enlightened books, and my memory was practiced in this way."

"Memory needs to be practiced, but what to remember is very important, the articles of the ancients are the words of sages, and every day I am exposed to it must have an impact on temperament, you feel that I don't look like a 15-year-old person, maybe that's the reason."

"That's it......" Gao Geli nodded thoughtfully, he had seen these old books in the bookstore, and it was the first time he had heard of someone reading them.

"But......" Gao Geli wanted to ask a question about love, but as a 15-year-old freshman in high school, he was always a little ashamed to say these two words, so he had no choice but to change his words, "Didn't you say that there are two things that affect the starting point of growth?" What ...... the latter? ”

Chen Jie didn't miss those two words very much, and after understanding Gao Geli's meaning, he muttered, "Oh, that...... My dad said it didn't exist. ”

"No offense." Gao Geli tentatively said, "That...... Did your dad suffer any emotional injuries? ”