Suni still remembers the first day of employment, when she went to the client's home with the psychological counselor Zheng Yalan and Brother Wang Hao, she said the wrong thing that day, which provoked the nerves of Mr. Luo, who went crazy when he drank, and was almost beaten by him.

If it weren't for Brother Wang Hao's quick eyes and quick hands and saving Suni's life, it is still unknown whether Suni would have the courage to continue in this industry today!

Later, Suni carefully recalled the whole process of Mr. Zheng's entrance to Mr. Luo's house to the confrontation with him, and found that she was sometimes gentle, sometimes tough, and even showed the appearance of a shrew scolding the street, so she asked Mr. Zheng, why did there be so many changes in the attitude of mediation? When "dealing with" Mr. Luo, Mr. Zheng is simply like a drama spirit!

Teacher Zheng laughed when he heard this, and replied to Suni that the work of mediation varies from person to person, and there is no one-size-fits-all formula that can be applied, but based on the factors that affect human psychology, there are several major frameworks that tend to be the same, so it provides the direction for mediators to trace the source.

This is why counsellors and social workers need to investigate the background of their clients. In Mr. Luo's case, Mr. Luo, who was violent to his wife after drinking, has always had a deep-rooted prejudice against women due to the influence of his original family.

Mr. Luo feels that women are realistic and untrustworthy, and this thought stems from the profound damage caused to him by his mother who abandoned her husband and children and ran away with others when he was young. After that, his father drank heavily, and when he drank too much, he would pour anger on him, beat him, and curse his mother for all kinds of nasty things.

Mr. Luo was influenced by his father, and although he later married and had children, however, because he was afraid that his wife would run away like his mother, his desire to control became stronger and stronger, and finally in the passage of time, his behavior evolved into a cycle of the original family.

He condensed his weakness and anxiety into his fist of resentment, and at the same time he added to his wife, he treated his friends in a very different way.

Because he has been favored by friends and has received a lot of real care from friends, Mr. Luo has obvious "righteousness", as long as he is a friend recognized by him, he can indeed stick a knife in the ribs and go to the soup for others.

This is not only the reason why Mr. Zheng was not afraid of being afraid of Mr. Zheng when he was tightly tied by Brother Wang Hao when he was tightly bound by Brother Wang Hao, scolded Mr. Zheng for betraying him, and united with wild men outside to play him, Mr. Zheng was not only fearless, but also more fierce than Mr. Luo, who was drunk and unconscious-

To put it bluntly, it is the right medicine. Comprehensively understand the psychology of the client, follow his weakness, move with affection, know with reason, and "disintegrate" the other party's firm knot little by little.

Although Suni has not been Mr. Zheng's assistant for a long time, Mr. Zheng is not a stingy person, usually for all kinds of problems in mediation, as long as Suni asks, Mr. Zheng is generally willing to teach, and she will also introduce all kinds of practical books to Suni, so that she can read and learn by herself.

On the other hand, Suni specializes in psychology, and more or less, she also has gains.

Therefore, in the face of this day, Uncle Yan, who was not angry as soon as he came up, Suni knew that he could not rush in.

Uncle Yan told them to get out, but instead of rolling, Suni sat down with a smile.

If you do what they do, you can't be thick-skinned. Many times, because what you do is a thankless job, if you want to overcome difficulties, you must make yourself "exquisite".

Suni said to Uncle Yan, who continued to shave the old man: "Uncle, don't talk so ugly, what is 'breaking incense'?" I see that you gave birth to a son and a daughter, obviously a good thing comes in pairs!

It's so hot today, and I've come all the way here, not to be angry with you. Look, my hair is long, can you cut it for me? ”

Uncle Yan took a clean towel, helped the old man wipe his face at the end, and then took off the cloth on the other person's body, and shook it off with a "bang", and then replied to Suni: "Don't give me a hippie smile, I don't do your business, get out!" ”

Suni pursed her lips: "You are such a strange person, you don't make any money!" ”

"I'm not rare to earn your money!"

"Then if your children grow up and want to work for the capitalists, will you not let them go because you know that the capitalists exploit people?"

Uncle Yan was speechless and glared at Suni.

The old man who had just shaved his beard smiled, and while paying Uncle Yan, he said, "Little girl, your mouth is quite sharp." Okay, I also advise you, don't get involved in this matter. Master Yan is for the convenience of our neighbors, you see, the store is here, and we are a few steps away from a small community.

Besides, you know how much it costs to shave your head outside, right? In the nearby shopping mall, the storefront shop on the side of the road is the kind of small, and it costs 10 yuan to wash your hair. But I was on Master Yan's side, washing, cutting, blowing, and shaving, and he only charged me a total of 5 yuan.

Even those aunts dye their hair and perm their hair, and it won't exceed 100 yuan. So, don't say that Master Yan refuses to demolish it, and we are reluctant to demolish his barber shop. People are doing a business of conscience! ”

After speaking, he patted the P shares and walked away.

Hearing this, Suni pursed her lips, lowered her decibels, and said to Uncle Yan: "Uncle, just say it to that grandfather, I also respect you." However, everyone has their own difficulties, so please understand that I am just a part-time worker. Today, you can help me cut my hair, so I can go back and talk to the leader and I have a set of arguments, okay? ”

Uncle Yan glanced at Suni and saw that she was a little girl in her early 20s, dressed very plainly, knowing that this was just a child from an ordinary family, who came out to eat.

So he changed into a new towel, patted the chair where the hairdresser was doing, and asked stiffly, "Do you wash your hair?" ”

When Suni heard this, she immediately smiled and said, "Wash!" ”

Went and sat down in a chair.

So I also talked a lot with Uncle Yan, and talked about how she didn't use her homework to study in the past, and she knew how to skip class to chase a star, which was why she "fell" to the point where she is today!

Besides, how miserable they are, she was almost beaten on the first day of work, and so on.

When it came to the leader's dislike of her, Suni pouted and said sadly: "You really like to come to your community, to be honest, uncle, your community is the most difficult!" But it was because I spoke straight before and offended the leader, so he threw the hardest bone to me. If you don't believe me, you ask this colleague of mine? ”

Facing the mirror, she winked at Tang Xiaofei, who was sitting on the sofa behind her, and Tang Xiaofei took it and immediately agreed: "Well, yes, the leader doesn't like the two of us the most." I will only die to do things, Xiao Su, you will speak straight. ”

"Isn't it?!" Suni raised her voice as if talking about cross talk: "So, honest people suffer!" Uncle, you are also an honest person, if you weren't an honest person, you would have made a fortune a long time ago! ”

The words of "Heh......" finally amused Uncle Yan.

So after this haircut, Suni got Uncle Yan's invitation to "come back next time", and this step of the heart door can be regarded as open.

After that, Suni ran to Uncle Yan with Tang Xiaofei every once in a while. Uncle Yan didn't bother, but in the company, someone started gossiping.

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