Chapter 15: Dating
Ever since the last time I heard about this tragic accident caused by drinking, I felt like I had been awakened from my sleep, and suddenly I decided that I had to be good, that I had to find a woman to marry. Only I have to be good first, my children will be happy, my children will have no worries about food and clothing, and my parents can rely on their old age, my daughter doesn't understand this idea, others don't understand, only I understand myself, people, sometimes need to follow their own souls.
I can't get drunk almost every time I get drunk and go crazy and ride home like crazy anymore, and good luck can't always be with a person. I know very well that every time I get drunk, it takes thousands of years for an animal to evolve into a human, and from a human to an animal, it only takes a bottle of wine.
The child was already asleep, I turned on the computer, searched for friends in the same city, carefully searched and checked one by one, like picking and choosing when I went to the street to buy groceries, I was searching for a woman suitable for me to marry, not looking for my love. Love is a luxury, don't want it, but marriage is a real firework in the world.
Marriage doesn't necessarily need love, but love does need marriage. Marriage is nothing but a combination of men and women, an exchange of interests, the mutual exchange and combination of interests can provide the society with a relatively stable social relationship between people, in this exchange, men and women get some physiological satisfaction, people reproduce their offspring with the help of marriage, and people get basic material security, help or supplement in marriage. There is no eternal love in the world, whether it is the East or the West, the so-called eternal love is in "love but not". Western love stories always happen to princes and princesses, how can there be so many princes and princesses in the world, but this kind of beautiful love story has been coaxing countless girls for thousands of years, so that these beautiful and not beautiful girls have a princess dream when they are very young, and even have princess disease when they grow up. With the help of the story of "the ugly duckling becomes a white swan", people have plugged in the ideal wings of those girls who are not very good in appearance or family, so that they can unrealistically dream of being a princess in this infinite reverie. But they don't know that the ugly duckling will never become a white swan, but will only become a big fat duck, and the reason why the ugly duckling can become a white swan is because the ugly duckling itself is not a duck, but a swan.
The beautiful love story of the East always happens in the mythological story, "the White Lady and Xu Xian", "Dong Yonghe and the Seven Fairies", this kind of beautiful love story of people and fairies, people and snakes, this life is a story that makes people "love but can't" and "out of reach" of the foolish dream, but for thousands of years, it has been talked about by people, it is always coaxing kind people for the infinite reverie and pursuit of beautiful love, even if they are a toad, they must have the courage to eat swan meat.
In fact, marriage is also an exchange of interests between men and women. I really admire the wisdom of the ancient Chinese, the ancient Chinese have already given marriage and love the most simple and easy-to-understand saying, an explanation, that is, the love between young men and women is called "dealing with the object" or "engaging in the object", "looking for the object", 。。。。。。 What do you mean by "finding a partner"? To put it bluntly, if you feel that the other party is in tune with you in terms of the values you expect, you can be together, you can get married, it's as simple as that. This simple and clear word "finding a partner" breaks through the sky in one sentence and the essence of love and marriage.
There is no eternal love in the world, people are just "looking for a partner", and marriage is just a combination and exchange of interests for men and women to take what they need. The so-called "love at first sight" is nothing more than "love at first sight"; The so-called "long-term love" is just "hooking up and becoming an adulterer"; The so-called "10,000 years at a glance" is nothing more than a blatant "duplicity"!
Yes, I want to get married, and the premise of wanting to get married is to "find a partner" first, to find a woman who is more suitable for me. With marriage comes a home, a home for my body, and this woman is able to keep my soul from wandering like a lonely ghost in the dead of night.
I was carefully flipping through the marriage and dating information of these women one by one, and at this time, a woman's dating information attracted me. It is a divorced single woman in her thirties, with a short marriage and no children, such conditions are more suitable for me, ten years younger than me, "short marriage without children", so that I will not make my life a mess for the sake of children in the future, and we can have another baby in the future.
In the following introduction, the woman said that she runs a branded clothing store in the city, her parents are retired, she is an only daughter, and her family lives in the city. This condition is very good, parents are retired, there is a retirement pension, with this guarantee, we can reduce a lot of pressure in our future life; She is an only daughter and may have a flawed personality, but since a woman can run a clothing store on her own, such a woman should be a diligent woman who can live a good life.
I am moved, in fact, it is not heartbeat, let alone emotional, but a woman with such conditions is more suitable to marry me as soon as possible.
I sent her a text message according to the mobile phone number left in this marriage and dating message, but I didn't reply.
When it was the next morning, the woman texted back, saying that she didn't see the text I sent her because she had drunk too much last night, and repeatedly said sorry and other kind of polite words. What are you afraid of drinking? Almost all single and divorced men and women love to take two sips, and I know that we made an appointment to meet this weekend.
I wasn't excited or happy about the news, because I knew what I really thought in my heart, and it wasn't what I wanted, but just a desperate choice for me to get out of this terrible way of life quickly, a compromise on my life.
When the weekend came, we met at a café. The moment I saw her, it really subverted my three views, this is a woman who looks older than her actual age, her body is very fat, this kind of fat is not the kind of fat that all parts of the body are balanced and developed, this kind of fat is asymmetrical fat brought about by a bad lifestyle and living habits, the waist is very thick, you can't see the waist, "the waist is like a bucket", this metaphor is very appropriate, the belly is very big, that is to say, the upper part of her body is an exaggerated obesity and edema. If the lower part of her body is also so equally fat, then she should be considered a fleshy woman, and she will not be ugly.
The point is that the lower part of her body is surprisingly thin, not thin, specifically, a kind of smallness that is seriously unequal to the upper part of her body, her buttocks are barely visible, very small legs, wearing a pair of black high heels, I even doubt that her such small legs can support the weight of her fat upper body.
Fortunately, this woman is very wise, maybe because she sells clothes, she wears a trench coat that is not a color I like very much, the color I like is as simple as my life, I like solid colors, I don't like the kind of clothes that are messed up with many colors and many colors, I like simple, solid clothes.
But the woman in front of her was wearing a dress like this, which was made up of many colors and patterns.