When such tragic news reached my ears, my friends only regarded it as an accident and did not learn any lessons from it, they got together and talked about it, and even squatted on the ground to draw a sketch of the route of the car accident, analyzing in detail and trying to restore the tragic car accident scene at that time. At that time, I had a spasm all over my body, a chill came straight to my heart, and I couldn't breathe for a long time, and when I got off work and came home, my mood was still so unexpectedly low, this incident hit me too hard, or should I say that it touched too much.

After my efforts, my daughter has been promoted to high school as she wished, I didn't want to love anymore, in the past three years, except for a short relationship with Hanhan for about five months, the rest of the time I was both a father and a mother with my children, although before or after there were always people who tried to help me introduce my girlfriend, but I always refused. During this period, there were also several times when Ye'er, a woman, pestered me and sought money, but each time it was basically resolved satisfactorily. Since this woman was forced to quit her job because of gambling debts, away from bad people and bad things, my life has basically been on the right track. But when I was lonely, I would inevitably get together with these friends on the weekend and get drunk to death, and I really liked this kind of drunken life. But ever since I heard about this drunken tragedy, my heart began to spasm and ache.

I originally knew that I was an easy-going person with a bottom line, but I was not strong in principle, and I always couldn't withstand the persuasion of others. Being single for a long time will make my cognitive and behavioral judgment decrease, and this decline will be directly related to my children's happy life in the future.

I look at my daughter, who is coming home from school and eating, who is in her first year of high school, the cost of three years of high school, and the cost of going to college in the future. When I think about this, my heart is inexplicably sad and sad. It's good to have a father's child, even if the father has a new wife in the future, but in addition to the father's new wife, in this big family, the rest are family, "no matter how bad the uncle is, no matter how good the uncle is, he is an outsider". And if a child lives with his mother because his parents divorced, if his mother gets married, except for his mother is a relative, the rest are outsiders, such a child is very pitiful, known as "drag oil bottle", when the child arrives at a completely strange new home, it will be disliked, the key is that this woman is often extremely irresponsible to her own children in order to please her new love. After divorce, a father's love and responsibility are far better than a mother's in dealing with their children. Because a woman has no home, whoever treats her well will be her home. And for a man, the blood of the family that has flowed in his bones for thousands of years, and the nostalgia for his homeland, make this man even if he wanders thousands of miles, when he is clear every year, he will try to go home to find his roots and worship his ancestors. Men have roots, while women are duckweed, and whoever marries is her home; A man can marry three wives and four concubines, and he can divorce and remarry many times, but a man has only one home, and a woman often forgets the way home。。。。。。

This cramp and labor pain made me have to change! A mature man should never capsize in this low-level desire, which includes eating, drinking, prostitution, gambling, affection, love, etc., which are directly obtained by the senses, a mature man should live in his own love, love for children, parents, work and career; A mature man should live in the sublimation of the self, who can see the world with his eyes full of wisdom, so that he is not disturbed by everything.

This fear came from the last time I volunteered to send that friend home after I was drunk, only to be able to get him off my motorcycle unscathed that night. I can only say that this time can only be a surprise, but no one can guarantee that this kind of surprise will accompany me for a lifetime.

I want to get married, and marriage is a combination of necessity that can guarantee this kind of stable relationship between people.

If I don't get married, I'm bound to get together with them for a few weekends in the future, and then get drunk and rotten to death. The more I think about it now, the more scared I am of drunken self, usually I ride a motorcycle to and from work, the speed will never exceed 40 kilometers per hour, and my colleagues laugh at me for riding not a motorcycle, but a bicycle. However, when I got drunk, I immediately staggered like I had been injected with chicken blood, and the speed of the motorcycle instantly increased to 100 kilometers per hour.

I was scared out of a cold sweat, I really thank God for protecting me, so that I can return home skillfully and safely every time I ride at such a fast speed after being drunk.

But I know that all this may be just a fluke, often walking around the river, there is no one who does not get his shoes wet, luck is often associated with self-discipline. If you don't discipline yourself, there will come a time when you will lose. A mature man in charge should first of all be a self-disciplined person.

I want to get married, not because I want to get married, but in the face of the current situation, I only choose to get married, I have to have someone to take care of me and restrain me, although I am used to this kind of life, and even say that I am now obsessed with this kind of life. However, I am not alone, "father's love is like a mountain", I still have my children, and my father is the Buddha who can protect his children for a safe, healthy and happy life! I have to be responsible for my own children, and with my father here, my daughter is the proudest princess in the world, and she will be fed and clothed, and she will be very happy; But if my father is gone, I don't want to continue to finish my studies, I guess it's just three meals a day to eat a full belly, which is a luxury for my daughter.

If I don't get married, and I'm still alone every day, the result will only be that I will still get together with these dog friends every weekend, so that I will get drunk again and again, and then in a drunken state, I will ride a motorcycle all the way home with a roar, but who can guarantee that I will be able to return home so skillfully and safely every time in the future. If I get married, at least I have a reason to reduce the number of such gatherings, and also let me reduce the number of such drunkenness, because there are people in the family who remember it, and that is my best excuse and my best shield.

I want to get married, not because I want to get married, but because I have to get married for the sake of my children.