Zhen Zhen heard sadness and worry in Cheng Jiao's story. At such a young age, the family is wealthy, the material conditions are good, and the relatives are pampered, it seems that it should not be like this.

She was still eagerly waiting for Cheng Jiao to continue, but Mrs. Cheng was impatient: "Oh, look what kind of messy story you are making up!"

Zhen Zhen pressed Mrs. Cheng's hand and said, "Madame, don't worry, it's okay to let the child finish speaking." Listen to your child first, and then it's not too late for you to speak. ”

Cheng Jiao didn't want to say any more, lowered her head again, and Zhen Zhen clearly saw a watermark on the ground.

"Look at what a person! Crying again! What's the use of crying! Mrs. Cheng also found that her daughter was crying, but she was very unhappy.

Zhen Zhen seems to understand why Cheng Jiao is so untalkative. She called Hongyun: "Take Miss Cheng to wash her hands and eat some snacks."

Hongyun came in from outside the door, took Cheng Jiao's hand and walked out.

"Hey, that's heartbreaking." Mrs. Cheng looked at her daughter's back and shook her head.

Zhen Zhen said to Mrs. Cheng: "I can feel that Mrs. has put a lot of effort into the child."

"Can I not care? If you don't have some ability, how can you survive comfortably in this deep mansion compound. ”

"It sounds like Madame has a lot of emotion."

"Well, it's hard to put into words. When I was a child, I watched my mother's housekeeper, big and small, no matter how big or small, I didn't have to take care of everything. Later, when I married into Chengfu, I realized that if I wanted to manage such a big family, the water in it was so deep that I not only had to have three heads and six arms, but I wanted to become a fish. Mrs. Cheng said.

"Madame's analogy is really vivid." Zhen Zhen didn't say much, mainly to guide Mrs. Cheng to say.

"Take care of the accounts, you have to be literate and arithmetic, and if you don't pay attention to the steward in the Zhuangzi, you will lie to you without discussion. I played this abacus until midnight, which is a monthly thing. To assign various things at home, you have to know people and use people effectively, that is, you get twice the result with half the effort; If the wrong person is used, it is the incompetence of the general to exhaust the three armies. ”

"Hmm." This nod in agreement, indicating that you will listen again.

"Miss Zhen, you are still young, you may not be able to realize this, what is the most important thing about a housekeeper?" Mrs. Cheng asked suddenly.

"Please also ask Madame for advice." Zhen Zhen was very humble and didn't want his views to affect Mrs. Cheng's thinking.

"I guess you're about to get married, so it shouldn't hurt to talk to you about it." Mrs. Cheng hesitated for a moment before continuing: "The most important thing for a housekeeper is to control a man's heart."

"Oh, I want to hear about it."

"This man is a natural hunter and likes to chase his prey. It's never too much to marry a family woman, as long as they can afford it. Where there are many women, there must be many right and wrong. Everyone wants to find a good way out for their children, there are so many good things at home, and if you want to get more, you can only grab them. I am the main room, and my children are sisters-in-law, and no one can take this away. What can other women snatch? It's a man's heart. ”

Zhen Zhen nodded several times, but did not speak.

"You manage the accounts well, you can govern the people, and you are filial to your parents-in-law, this is nothing in a man's heart, and it is not irreplaceable. Only how he feels with you, whether he is comfortable or not, happy or not, that is the most important thing. As long as his heart is with you, it doesn't matter if you can't manage your home or your in-laws don't like it. Therefore, since I was a child, I have taught Ah Jiao to observe words and feelings, and to be able to speak well. Who knew she would be like this! I'm so! Mrs. Cheng was a little moved as she spoke.

"After talking for so long, drink saliva to moisten your throat." Zhen Zhen lifted the teapot as he spoke, and when Mrs. Cheng drank the water, she continued some more.

"Good sister, last time I heard Sister Chen say that my daughter actually doesn't have much time to be with her mother, so I have to treat her well. I felt like it was in my heart. Even if she wants to marry someone else's family, it is a piece of meat that has fallen from my body, and she must not be bullied! But you see that she is so weak, I don't worry about who she marries. Do you have the heart to teach her more things, and you also want her to have the heart and ability to learn? ”

"Well, yes." Zhen Zhen noticed that Mrs. Cheng had changed her title and called herself a good girl, she wanted to get closer to herself.

"Good girl," said Mrs. Cheng, "what good way do you see it?"

"Madame, have you ever embroidered?"

"Of course."

"When I embroider, I like to embroider the same way. I wonder if my sister has such a habit? ”

"Yes, too." Mrs. Cheng's tone was a little skeptical, she didn't know what Zhen Zhen's intention was, how could she get the embroidery?

"Then Madame must know that if the appearance is wrong, or if it is not good-looking, then the embroidery will also be flawed, right?"

"It's nature." Zhen Zhen is going to discuss this with himself? Mrs. Cheng was a little discouraged.

"So at this time, do we need to change the appearance, or do we need to change the embroidery?"

"In order not to make mistakes in the future, you have to change the appearance, and the embroidery must also be changed, right? That's how it is consistent. ”

"Yes, both of them have to be changed to get better and better." Zhen Zhen said, "Parents are what children look like. When a child has a problem, the root cause is often with the parents. ”

"You're saying we have to change as parents?"

"Parents are the most important teachers of children, and many of children's behaviors come from parents' demonstrations. Are you right? ”

Mrs. Cheng quickly reflected: "Although I have a loud voice, I haven't taught my children well?"

"It's not up to me to decide whether it's good or not. But you do have a number of ways you can try to help your child. Zhen Zhen said.

"Say, what can I do?" Mrs. Cheng finally waited for Zhen Zhen to "prescribe a prescription".

"You see, you've been criticizing her before, and if your criticism is useful, you won't come to me. So if it's useless, can you use another method? ”

"Okay, you say, what's the method?" Mrs. Cheng's voice was excited and restrained.

"It's just about listening to your child. When your child is talking, do not interject, do not interrupt her, and make her want to speak. Zhen Zhen said.

"What? What do you say? "Mrs. Cheng thinks that today's words are so strange and why can't she understand them?" Do you want me to be dumb? ”

That's pretty much what it means, of course, it's not that you don't talk at all, and you should have the necessary response. You have to let your child know that no matter what she says, no one will laugh at her or hit her before she is willing to say it. ”

"You're saying it's because I'm the child doesn't like to talk loudly?"

"Children feel psychologically safe and naturally have a desire to speak. But if she is always worried about whether she will be criticized after saying this, she naturally does not like to speak, let alone speak loudly. Because she has no confidence. ”

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