I was born in the 80s, and I am known as the post-80s generation. This generation has not experienced a famine of 50 or 60, and there is no preferential treatment of 90,00. In short, the post-80s generation personally feels like a weed that is left to fend for itself, and what they want to grow into depends on their consciousness.

Men should get married, women should get married, in the parents' generation, most of the marriages were arranged or organized by introducers, and the marriage at that time was very in line with the characteristics of that era, everything needed to be supplied by tickets, and even marriage was based on family composition, social identity, and introduction. But it was good at that time, it saved a lot of chatter, and saved a lot of blind date procedures. So the marriage at that time was really a traditional Chinese marriage. Monogamy is strictly observed and carried forward, and there are people who are white to old. For example, my parents, such as my neighbor Aunt Liu, have followed Uncle Liu all their lives, making noise, and even fighting for the sake of their children, and the old Uncle Liu is confused, superstitious about nutritional medicine, and would rather eat a lot of pills every day than let my wife buy some meat to eat. The old couple fought more than once for this matter. It's not that I don't have money, the two of them are the richest of my neighbors in my impression, the children are all working in the south, the old couple are also retired, Uncle Liu is doing the construction budget, although he is retired, but he is not idle every day, and it is said that there are many people looking for him. Aunt Liu is also a regular employee of the Forestry Bureau, and her monthly pension is about 1,000 yuan, although it is not much, but it is already very good in my small place. When I quarreled again, Aunt Liu ran to my house and cried, saying that she wanted a divorce, but it was over. I remember that my mother came forward to reconcile that day. The result of the adjustment is that Aunt Liu's pension is no longer handed over, she has the final say, she buys what she wants, Uncle Liu doesn't like to take nutritional medicine, he spends his own money to buy it, and eats enough by himself! You can't force others.

Later, I asked my mother why Uncle Liu was in charge of the money in their family, wasn't it usually a woman who was in charge of the money, and my mother didn't say anything, just smiled a little proudly. This is the marriage of people in that era, even if it is a big fight, it will not hurt the vitality of the two. Now they have left the Northeast and followed their children to Zhejiang, when my mother left, I called my eldest mother, according to her, thanks to my mother's teaching to Uncle Liu, after so many years, his temper is much better. When I was a child, I was very puzzled, why their days can always be because of their children, because of their grandchildren, day by day, they have survived for a lifetime, and now they are suddenly a little envious. In fact, their marriage is very simple, marriage is a lifetime, for the sake of children, for grandchildren, with marriage, with children is to have a family, so their marriage is a family for a lifetime.

The times have progressed and it is the turn of our generation, and we suddenly found that life is so difficult, there is no assigned work, and the assigned marriage gives us enough freedom, and then we find that it is not easy to work hard in the city, it is not easy to buy a house, and the marriage of my parents can be done with a bed, a bicycle, and a dormitory. Nowadays, we are a generation of reform and progress, and the bride price is a harder hard currency, so various places began to compete for the bride price, and parents began to compete for aunts and daughters-in-law.

In the era of free love, it is reasonable to say that marriages should be more stable, but the divorce rate and single rate are increasing every year. Behind the economic independence is the thirst for marriage. But they are not willing to back down. Xiaojin has been in Beijing for almost 20 years, from study to work, she has worked hard all the way, and she has walked very steadily. is the only one who is looking for a partner, and the matter of falling in love makes her parents feel at ease, so her parents, who are far away in their hometown in the northeast, used all the relationships that can be used to arrange various blind dates for Xiaojin. In terms of appearance, Xiaojin is not beautiful, but in terms of virtuous lady, it must be no problem. Weak character, petite figure. But Xiao Jin has a petty bourgeois literary and artistic heart, and hopes that he will meet a dream prince charming. In fact, to put it bluntly, it is to meet someone who can communicate spiritually. But this request is really as difficult as inviting someone to dinner and the other party saying casually. So in all kinds of blind dates, I missed a lot of good people. Now that Xiaojin is middle-aged and has his own house and car, he is even more reluctant to accommodate the other party's conditions. is even more reluctant to perfunctory some so-called blind dates. So now Xiaojin is alone, a cat, and has begun to prepare to retire with his girlfriends. Although she responded with a smile when everyone mentioned it, in fact, I can understand the desire for a fate in my heart. She has recently become enthusiastic about the rescue of stray cats, hoping that in the days to come, she can find her fate as soon as possible. I have always believed that God is fair to every girl, and there must be a fairytale marriage waiting for her.

Not only girls, but also boys, a big brother I know who is born after 75, is very good, has a gentle personality, is a native of Beijing, and has not met a suitable marriage for various reasons. When I heard him tell me about his strange blind date experience, I was amazed. Is the marriage of the post-80s generation married to a house and a car? No, after all, there are still many happy existences. It's just that there are too many temptations and life pressures to face in this generation, and it is always difficult to establish full trust in someone. How can a marriage without trust last long? Acquaintances without trust are not so solid. Therefore, the marriage of the post-80s generation is a glass of red wine, some people drink sour, some people drink sweet, and some bitter. But after all, this is an old glass of red wine, and the color and aroma reveal the desire for happiness. So we can't help but want to taste it. It's only after tasting it that you know if it's suitable for you.

I have worked with many post-90s children. Their views on love and marriage, I always thought that they would be more pure and dependent on their feelings. But perhaps it is now that various TV series and movies have a deep impact on them. Unintentionally, I had dinner with Xiaohui, a 97-year-old girl, and talked about her latest relationship. I found out that they were more mature than the post-80s generation, and they had just decided to start getting along, and they were already thinking about the future. Xiaohui is a second-generation demolition in Beijing, and I don't know how many suites there are at home, but no less than 3 sets are certain. The boy met at a class reunion and was a civil servant educator. But the family conditions are average, there is only one suite, his parents live in it, and he has allocated a public rental house through the company, and the income is not high, which is similar to Xiaohui. But the person is still quite handsome, and I also met at the door of the company once in a while. Just looking at these points, Xiaohui is much taller than boys, not to mention that Xiaohui is also a little beauty, thin and tall, with long hair, fair skin, and a standard A4 waist. Speaking of which, I'm still guessing that if Xiaohui likes it, it is estimated that the family will not pick this, and it will not be a loss to find a door-to-door son-in-law. But what Xiaohui said later, I was really shocked. She said: "I think Xiaoshuai is not bad, but the conditions at home are a little worse." I can't get married, I don't even have a place to live! I'll have to talk to him and see what he thinks, and if he plans to live in our house after getting married, that's it. "Personally, I still agree with Xiaohui's idea, at least I have to make sure that the other party doesn't want to marry me for our house.

It's just that I really don't know that such a young girl can look at problems so maturely, and she also analyzes the Tao.

Suddenly I don't know how to interpret what marriage is for them, is it really just a companion for each other? Or marriage is no longer the focus for them, and love is their cup of fat house happiness.

In the face of the evolution of marriage and love from 60 to 90, I don't want to draw any conclusions, and everyone lives happily. Because everyone has a different understanding of home and happiness. Now that we are free to choose, perhaps it is a kind of progress. But I don't know why, I'm still a little envious of the simplicity of the past.