The second child was let go, and this time it was busy with my parents, my in-laws, and my seven aunts and eight aunts. In recent years, many people around me have joined the camp of second children. Not a few days ago, the ferromagnetism of the university, and showed off her achievements with me, Fangfang is a native of Anhui, white complexion, weak figure, the first time I see always gives people an illusion, this is a gentle and weak southern girl, but when you hear her loud voice, see her drink the boldness of the second pot head, and play football with the boys, is there a feeling of being born wrong. That's right, this is the last one we thought must be the last of the six people in the dormitory to get married, but the first to marry a wife, the first to be a mother, and now she is a mother of two sons. is still fair-skinned, still in power outside the family, not only tender like water, but also the backbone of the family's big and small affairs. The second child not only created a mother, but also created a superman, in her words, since she had two sons, she has been working hard to make money, after all, the son's future expenses are really terrible. But looking at the smile on her face when she spoke, I knew that she was satisfied, and although she was running around for these two children, she was still happy.

However, when it comes to having children, many young people living in Beijing and Shanghai choose not to have children, one is that the pressure of life is really heavy, and the main thing is that there is no one to take them. Not to mention the second child, there are many people who have no one to bring the first one. So when it comes to giving birth to a baby, everyone envies having a mother or mother-in-law to take care of the child. Speaking of this, I suddenly remembered a question, who was the second child born to?

A few days ago, I met a friend who I haven't seen for many years, her first daughter is now more than three years old, her parents come to bring, live with them, she works in a stable unit, the income is not much but not busy, her husband is a project personnel, going back and forth between Beijing and Xiong'an New Area is said to have a lot of income, her mother has cared for her since she was a child, so she is the most enviable of our group of friends, graduated from college, the work arranged by the family, and then introduced the object, it is logical to get married in Beijing, give birth to a baby, and then the parents come over, One helps with the children and the other with the housework. So the child is a bit like a little toy for her, she gets off work every day, spends a while on the weekend, and doesn't care about the rest of the time.

I don't remember how we talked about the topic of the second child, at that time she said that her mother-in-law and her husband still wanted her to have a second child, I asked her what she meant, she said, it doesn't matter, one is to raise, two are also to bring. Because I knew about her situation, I blurted out, "Do you want to ask your parents for their opinions?" She looked at me with a particularly surprised look: "I have a second child, why do you want to ask my parents?" ”

At that moment, I was silent, and another friend hurriedly found a topic to divert the discussion. I really want to say: girl, your children are all brought up by your parents, they are in their 60s, even if you don't ask for their opinions, have you considered their bodies, they have been around you all their lives. Now you can easily say that, but what if one day they disappear?! This is a classic case of a Chinese-style family, where parents and children get along. As a parent, I feel that I have an obedient child, which is very good, and I live according to their arrangement completely, and as a child, I also enjoy all this with peace of mind. But he ignored a problem, there is no banquet in the world. We don't comment on their lifestyle, just be happy. It's just that if her parents heard this, what would they think in their hearts?

Women are always easily carried away by fantasy scenes, and my other friend, Nana, after experiencing a breakup, had a strong desire to get married, prompting her to quickly go on a blind date with a local young man, and it took less than 1 month to get the license. At that time, when they got married, they said very well, the two of them lived in a house in Beijing, and went back to their parents' homes in the suburbs to visit their parents on weekends, 1-2 times a month, and later had children, and their mother-in-law helped to bring them, so she didn't have to care. Later, when I got married for about a year, my husband suddenly said that he was too far away from his parents and wanted to go home to work nearby, so he applied for scheduling with the company, and my mother-in-law discussed that she would let her go back together, and then rent out the house in the city, and the rent of that house was estimated to be as much as 4,000-5,000 yuan. Then her father-in-law promised to let her hold on for a while and arrange a light job for her near home. Nana can do it if she wants to, the overall score is strong. But when they returned to their home in the suburbs, Nana began a long commuting life from Miyun to Guomao, four or five hours round trip every day, and the rent was not in her hands, she could only insist on working, but because of the time problem of the commuter car, she must not work overtime, fortunately, Nana is smart enough, and the sales position is still flexible. I persisted like this for more than half a year, found out that I was pregnant, and for the sake of the child, I resigned and waited at home to give birth. I still remember those days when she said that she was really not as good as living alone, because her husband didn't earn much, and her savings were not much. Those who live in their in-laws' houses and eat and drink their in-laws always have to show something, so they don't dare to spend any money. Spending a little more is not quite right in the eyes at home. But she has a big heart, thinking that after ten months, she will be born well.

The moment Niuniu landed, her mother-in-law had angina pectoris, heart disease, and she couldn't stand it with the child alone, so let her take care of it together, how could it be until the child was one year old. On the one hand, Nana really wants to accompany the child, on the other hand, she also feels that it is good to wait for the child to go to kindergarten, during which her father-in-law did find her a nearby job, which is not easy to talk about, but she finally has an income. I also got off work early, at least I didn't delay taking care of my children and working, but the income was far lower than the job she had before she gave birth. Seeing that her hard days are coming to an end, I still remember one day, I was still discussing with her on WeChat, after the child went to kindergarten, came out to work, just when she was full of busy yearning for work and new life, she suddenly said: "It's over, I won the bid again!" My first reaction was, "Ah! You're not going to get pregnant again! "I really guessed it, the eldest is just about one and a half years old, and the second is more than 2 months old.

Nana's mother-in-law heard that she was pregnant again, and suddenly changed her previous attitude, and she cared for Nana very much, I don't know what it was, but after some persuasion, Nana was naturally waiting to give birth again. Time is still very fast, the second child also landed quickly, looking at the two girls, it is indeed very likable, the sign of the eldest student, the second child has a fresh personality, they have inherited the advantages of their mother, but now, money is the most important thing for a family that has to raise two children. So when Nana was half a year old, despite the opposition of her family, she had to start working again. At first, the in-laws and husband were all kinds of crooked, but later Nana held a very serious family meeting with them, explaining their economic situation and her husband's income one by one, as if trying to convince a difficult client. I thought of a big set of theories. also said that if she didn't agree to go to work, she would divorce and have one child per person. This made her husband, who had always only known comfort, anxious, and he promised to go home as soon as possible after work every day to help his parents take care of the baby, so that Nana could work with peace of mind. Fortunately, the family did not have a worse temper. When Nana held the gift she bought for her in-laws with her first month's salary, the old man also took it. It is still four or five hours a day round trip, although there are cars, but in order to save parking fees, Nana is still the main subway bus. While going to work, I take care of my children at the same time. So she has also become a superhuman mother who was created by her second child!

Their days are still enjoyable, everyone chooses differently, but the result is the same, live hard, work hard to live. I wish every family with two babies well. Maybe this is the power of Chinese mothers. There's no problem mom can't solve.