Engineering for Life

Volume I

Chapter 33: Dinner

Since there are copper coins, in order to facilitate everyone's use and carrying, copper coins are all square hole round coins, in order to be able to string them together, so a string of small coins is also called a hanging, which can also be called consistent, and it has always been about a thousand copper coins, which are different in the Tang and Song dynasties.

Because since ancient times, everyone's pursuit of money has been different, so many literati and artists have described this kind of copper coin in their works, such as "Brother Kong Fang", such as "copper smell", such as "waist wrapping ten thousand".

The description is both positive and negative.

And in modern times or modern times, I don't know from which period, there are a handful of people in this society who began to worship money, which is what we call money worship, which is understandable.

However, it derives a kind of idea called people to be like copper coins, "round on the outside and square on the inside", advocating that people's behavior patterns conform to the shape of copper coins, in order to achieve a certain fit, produce an inexplicable and wonderful idealistic thing, let's call it a magnetic field, facilitate and "Brother Confucius" to achieve some kind of communication, produce the effect of mutual attraction, and finally achieve the ultimate goal of "waist wrapping".

We can discuss whether the "outer circle and inner square" advocated by these people are desirable or not.

Outer Circle: To be a person to be sleek in the world, proficient in the world, mature and shrewd, old and serious, see people and talk about people, see ghosts and talk nonsense, this is the representative idea of this handful of people.

Inside: Keep your true colors at all times, have principles, morals, scales and good thoughts in your heart, and never do anything that violates national laws and family rules, world principles and morality, but no one knows whether this handful of people have done it or not.

These people feel that "the outer circle and the inner square" are the qualities that people should have in society, the outer circle can ensure that they are not deceived in the complex society, and deal with all kinds of people smoothly, and the inner circle can ensure their own personality characteristics and good qualities, and they are less affected by the outside world.

This is really just a beautiful and ridiculous idea, and there is no possibility of realization.

This is the interpretation of "outer circle and inner square" by this part of the people, and the grandiose entry into the house has become a so-called popular trend of thought, and it is packaged as an ultimate philosophy of life.

According to the philosophical law of the unity of opposites, it looks like that, but in fact it is wrong, and this idea is simply untenable.

The law of the unity of opposites, also known as the law of contradiction, reveals that there are contradictions in everything, within and between things, no matter what the field. The unity and struggle between the two sides of the contradiction promote the movement, change, and development of things.

According to the law of contradiction, things are both moving and developing, and they are always fighting, so the opposing sides must alternately gain the upper hand, so the theory of "outer circle and inner square" is untenable, because it is impossible to achieve that kind of balance between the inner and the outside.

Whether from the outside to the inside, or from the inside to the outside, the outer circle will eventually lead to the inner circle, and the inner side will eventually lead to the outer side, which is the final result of quantitative change causing qualitative change.

Southern Dynasty Song Fan Ye "The Book of the Later Han Dynasty Zhi Yun Biography": "The case is greedy and evil, the outside is round and the inside is round, the friends are traitorous, and they are recklessly harmful."

The first to appear was the term "outer circle and inner circle", not "outer circle and inner square".

In 1936, Huang Daneng, the fourth son of patriotic scholar Huang Yanpei, was about to go to England to study. Before leaving, Huang's father slightly changed the motto he had adhered to in his life, and left a handwritten gift. This is Huang Yanpei's "32-character family motto": "Don't be wasted when you're idle, don't panic when you're busy." If you have words, you must believe them, and if you have no desire, you will be strong. And like the spring breeze, solemn like autumn frost. The image is taken from money, the outer circle and the inner square. ”

The "circle" mentioned here probably refers to "flexibility", which by no means refers to sleek and cunning, but a kind of roundness, generosity, integration, kindness to others, and improvisation;

Therefore, "sleekness" must not become a principle of doing things, let alone the ultimate life state touted by some people to maintain the "tactfulness" of getting along with others and the "squareness" of the heart.

Many people tout "sleekness", "left and right", and "eight-sided exquisiteness", but in fact, it is more of a helplessness about their own situation, expectations or conjectures that they want to do but can't do, or packaging and whitewashing of their own despicable behavior, which is really undesirable and unlearnable.

Square is square, circle is circle, to be a man, not round is square, it is impossible to be square and round.

You see the boxy bricks on the construction site, it's useless, right, but to build a house, you must also use it, square each other, right to the right, edges and corners to edges, and finally to be able to rise from the ground. The round stone, slippery and not slippery, hum, watch and play with it, it is impossible to make a foundation and build a wall.

So, being a man and doing things, being square, and keeping a little edged and cornered is not a fault, but it is a rare quality!

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At the end of the road is a three-story courtyard, all the front and back of the house are hardened into a concrete floor, because the thickness is controlled according to the county road 20 cm, so it is no problem to get on the bus.

After parking the car, the two of them got down, there were already many people in front of and behind the house, there were more than a dozen or twenty tables behind the house, and the simple telescopic tent-style umbrella of the food stall was also opened.

The fathers and villagers in front of the house, there are people Lin Yun knows who don't know, men and women, old and young, because Lin Lao Er is at home all the year round, most of them know Lin Lao Er, and from their appearance, it can be inferred that they should be Lin Lao Da, that is, Lin Yun.

Whether you know each other or not, greet each other, greet each other, and tell me about the past, those who should hand out cigarettes and those who should be called elders are called elders, but most of these sixty or seventy-year-olds are equals, because Lin Yun's seniority is high, but some little children are calling Lin Yun's grandfather, the grand duke and the like.

Lin Yun thought to himself, now he can find the reason for his old age, that is, let these people call it, the person who passed his birthday is one of Lin Yun's father's brothers, that is, Lin Yun's uncle, but the Hakka people are not called like this, they are called masters, and the first few are called masters, single words, not double words, double words are grandfathers, not uncles.

We are busy, we are rushing, we are leaving our hometown to beg for life, but we can't forget our origins, we can't forget this, the Hakka people are also a relatively large group in our country, and the distribution is relatively wide, but there are not too many in Sichuan, for generations, the Hakka people have migrated everywhere, and they have long forgotten the earliest birthplace, so they are called Hakka.

Lin Yun is a Hakka, and most of these old and young people in their hometown only know that they are from Huguang and Sichuan, but they don't know that they are actually descendants of the Hakka people, in fact, they are all Han people, there is no need to distinguish this way, but if you know, you should not forget that this is our tradition, at least it can explain where we come from.

Because of the displacement, the Hakka people are united, and the clan concept is relatively strong, which is engraved in the bloodline.

Lin Yun finally managed to deal with this large wave of middle-aged and elderly brothers and sisters and their juniors outside, and entered the house with Lin Laoer.

greeted the second master and the second mother, and each handed over the filial piety money wrapped in red on the second car.

The second master who has passed his 80th birthday, respecting the old and loving the old is the tradition of our Chinese nation, and then said that the big birthday, or 600 or 800 filial piety money, this is also a tradition, plus such a big family, are self-fraying for a living, and no one mixes an official or a half-job or something, so a little gift money is not illegal, this is also a conventional, there is nothing to say.

After accompanying the second elder to talk, Lin Yun went out to find the show by himself, in fact, Lin Lao Er had already run away and didn't know where he went.

After coming to the house, there were people sitting at the tables everywhere chatting, and it was estimated that it would take a while to start eating, so Lin Yun looked around for cousins and cousins who were more familiar with him, and chatted about old things.

Why don't you have a sister or brother, there really isn't, because Lin Yun's father is the youngest of their brothers and sisters in that generation, so in Lin Yun's generation, except for Lin Lao'er, there is no one younger than Lin Yun.

Chatting, it's nothing more than how it's going, work, life, marriage, gossiping, which makes Lin Yun a little tired.

I knew that I would take a mobile phone and go anywhere to a cat, and when I had eaten, I had to go up to find this sin by myself, and naturally I would inevitably suffer from it.

In fact, it is understandable, they are all brothers and sisters, and they naturally care about these, but everyone turns over and over these sentences, no matter how good the words are, I feel tired, but you still have to suffer with a smiling face, answer what you can answer, and hehehehe, hehehe, this is Lin Yun's principle.

People came one after another, relatives and friends, local villagers, brothers and brothers in their respective circles, or childhood friends who were close to their hometowns.

Finally relieved, because there is an acquaintance, so there is a reason to get out of the sea of suffering, Lin Yun hurried up from afar, handed a cigarette and chatted, chatting between young people will not touch some embarrassing problems, it is much easier for Lin Yun to deal with.

There are not so many constraints between young people, they are all some childhood playmates, or relatives or with a reason, nothing more than asking each other where they have made a fortune recently, the person who asked smiled, and the answer was also deliberately low-key to answer the truth, and then the one who asked said, yes, it is good, and then the person who answered, generally, where can it be compared to your brother and other routines.

Then there's the mutual praise or the mysterious revelation of a little bit of self-esteem life and work, and then another burst of mutual praise, which is how we socialize, vulgar, but extremely effective communication.

This is also Lin Yun's favorite way of socializing, because they can satisfy each other's vanity and pass the time, so why not do it.

It was getting dark as we chatted, and then the lights in front of and behind the house came on.

The protagonists are also back, and Lin Yun's three sons are also coming back one after another, because this is the first night of Zhengshou, in addition to his own family, he is a relatively close friend and a native villager.

Greeted a few cousins, in fact, among these cousins, there is a person who Lin Yun and Lin Lao Er are more afraid, and it is not afraid, it is probably equivalent to awe, at that time, when the two brothers were rebellious, they were also scolded a lot by this cousin, and Lin Yun was also in his cousin's construction company when he graduated from university, and everyone still respected this cousin very much from the heart.

And this cousin, who started from scratch, step by step, slowly mixed from a worker to today's tens of millions of net worth, can be regarded as a legend, and everyone knows it.

In the nineties, there were a group of people who were illiterate or illiterate, and who dared to fight with their steadfastness, dared to fight, and gradually accumulated a part of their wealth, and gradually took off the nouveau riche label on their bodies with the times, embarked on the right track, and became veritable entrepreneurs, while most of them gradually lost their nouveau riche nature because of their unlasting nature.

And Lin Yun's cousin is the CEO of a construction company and one of the shareholders of a local real estate company.

A fool can be a boss because he can inherit from his parents, but a fool can't become a boss from scratch, because his own IQ is not qualified, let alone become a boss from scratch.

For the vast majority of successful bosses, they have a high level of IQ and emotional intelligence, and they will never be as foolish as some employees think, if you think the boss is a fool, in fact, you have already exposed your own intelligence level.

For example, now bosses or businessmen are habitually called businessmen, which is actually a wrong name, but it is also conventional, so we don't dwell on it.

The origin of the Shang is the general name of the Yin Shang tribe in ancient times, and the Yin Shang tribe who drove ox carts around to barter gradually accumulated a large amount of wealth, and established a relatively unified early Chinese dynasty in a loose tributary way.

This is the origin of the merchant, "Mozi Chapter 47 Guiyi" "The use of the body of the present soldier is not as prudent as the use of the businessman." What do you mean? It means that the old man Mozi said: "Nowadays, scholars are not as cautious as merchants when they use a coin." ”

Scholars are scholars, and this now refers to the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, this sentence is the highest evaluation for merchants through the ages, although the main body of this sentence is to advise scholars to cherish their future and life.

Not all people can be called merchants, otherwise there would not be so many unscrupulous businessmen, and people are now accustomed to calling those people profiteers, which is actually insulting the term businessman.

Merchant is not a profession, it is the name of a group of people, it is the collective name of the Yin Shang tribe, so thousands of years, continuous ethnic integration and reintegration, no one dares to say that there is no merchant blood flowing in their body.

Since it is the ancestor, then we should not insult the ancestor, after all, the businessman at that time was based on integrity, and the things of the ancestors could not be all lost, so the integrity can really stay, always wipe diligently, do not make dust!

Back to the topic, in fact, Lin Yun, a cousin, still has a good reputation for doing things for others, otherwise he would not have today's achievements.

After saying hello, since the people were almost back, it was naturally time to eat, and everyone looked for their own seats, each found a familiar person, or sat down according to the arrangement of the host's house.

Lin Yun sat with a few brothers and sisters in their sixties and seventies and a few childhood friends in their twenties and thirties, all of them were brothers and sisters, and they didn't care about so many relatives who were close and far away.

Otherwise, it will be like in "Charlotte's Troubles", "I call you brother, and you call me my dad." "It's embarrassing.

The kinship relationship is indeed a bit complicated because of the cross-marriage accumulated from generation to generation in the local area, and it is a sense of déjà vu that is cut and unorganized.

According to the situation of different relatives, the same person may have three or five names, or even more, this generation is simply a mess, so if you can't figure out the son and grandson, the best way is to pretend to be a grandson.

"Come, brother, you pour you wine."

Lin Yun was pouring wine for an old man in his sixties, and the old man was not happy.

"I said uncle, you can't call indiscriminately, we are all surnamed Lin, and you call me like this to break my life."

MD, this kid is a mistake with one mouth, and he is also drunk, and it seems that he can't pretend to be a grandson.

"Little brother, I'll fill it up for you."

"Xiaolin, you should call me Second Uncle."

The young man was holding the wine glass and correcting Lin Yun, Lin Yun was full of black lines in his head, whether this wine could be drunk or not.

After a circle of wine poured, it was difficult to sort out the relationship, at least to figure out what they should call themselves, and it was even more complicated for them to call each other.

It is three rounds of wine, five flavors of food, some people begin to hold a cup everywhere, and it is rare to see it in ordinary times, so greetings and greetings everywhere, greetings, and toasting should indeed be, more than a dozen tables of people, very lively.

As soon as it was done, many people drank a lot, and when people started drinking, they forgot all about the rules and titles.

Now they are all called by their names, eh, that's right, drinking, there is really no need to go through those old calendars and genealogies to compare.

However, those who are close to their grandfather's room must not scream indiscriminately, and these bottom limits must be kept.

Because Lin Lao Er had to rely on his cousin to contract small projects, he had already gone to the table of his cousin who was the boss, and Lin Yun had also gone to toast at that table, and several of them were cousins' friends, buddies or business partners, and Lin Yun had also seen them and could be called.

At family gatherings, after eating, it is usual to play cards for a while, those who have money play bigger, and those who have no money and love to play smaller.

It was not until eight o'clock after eating, some left, and some stayed.

The people who stayed, those who played mahjong, and those who fought the landlords.

A few relatively rich people are playing poker, Lin Yun doesn't understand the rules, anyway, it is a person sitting in the bank, everyone presses, thirty fifty can also, eight hundred and one thousand can also, after pressing the cards, two per person, as for how to compare the size of the cards, Lin Yun looked at it for a while and found that he couldn't understand, so he was too lazy to look at it.

This product found a corner, can blow a fan, and away from the hustle and bustle, took out his mobile phone, and found that there is a WeChat verification message, nicknamed "The wind comes from the mountain", look at the avatar, this is not Chen Lan.

Through the verification, plus, this woman, whose name is Wind from the mountain, is too earthy.

No, this wind came from the mountain, isn't it Chen Lan's Lan, but it's still soil.

"Lao Lin, I'm Chen Lan."

"Know, it's you who looks at the avatar."

"Did you sleep?"

Hey, this woman, she really treats Lin Yun as Lao Lin, it's just a little over eight o'clock, can anyone in her seventies and eighties be able to sleep?

"No, tomorrow the elders will celebrate their birthdays, I will go back to the countryside in advance, and I will probably not go back at night, and I don't know where to sleep now."

"Oh."

This woman personally demonstrated to Lin Yun how to talk to the sky to death, and there was no sound.

As for Lin Yun, he really didn't think about taking the initiative to provoke her, because after all, this was an injured woman, and it was bitter enough.

No matter how much Lin Yun likes the appearance of this alluring city, he doesn't dare to easily pluck the other party's heartstrings, so he can only follow the fate and dare not take the initiative.

This product is boring, so I can only stroll around this table and look at that table, and the idle eggs hurt.

It was so boring, and then the thing was going to go to Daddy's other brother's house to watch TV.

This is Lin Yun's uncle's house, the house is behind the second master's house, about 30 meters apart, up and down are "drying dams", Sichuan is called this, how to call it in other places, Lin Yun really doesn't know, it's the grain dam.

Because the lights were on everywhere, Lin Yun passed in a few clicks, the door was not closed, and he entered the inner room, because he knew that only his cousin was at home alone, so Lin Yun came in directly,

After dinner, Lin Yun saw his sister-in-law and nephew driving back to the city.

"Fifth brother, watch TV."

This person, who is called the fifth brother by Lin Yun, is napping on the bed with the TV on at the moment, and Lin Yun's grandson is indeed not authentic, disturbing people's dreams.

With this call, people wake up, people are prone to napping as soon as they get older, and some people have to turn on the TV to fall asleep.

Fifth Brother Lin Yun, the fifth cousin of the uncle's family, Lin XX, should be almost fifty people, although he doesn't look old in appearance, he is indeed almost fifty people.

"Lin Yun, sit, sit, I'll make a cup of tea"

This product didn't give in, so he sat down on the sofa and waited for the fifth brother to make tea.

"Lin Yun, Lin Yun~"

I don't know who is calling, Lin Yun hurriedly got out of the house, stood in the center of the dam above, and saw a woman in the dam where the table was set up to cook, it seemed to be a cousin in the next room, who lived opposite the fish pond at the door of the second master, and her grandfather should be a brother to Lin Yun's grandfather.

"What's the matter?"

"You call the fifth child out, go to the second master's house to move a few watermelons out, and cut them for these card-playing people to eat."

"Okay."

Lin Yun didn't wait to drink tea, and hurriedly called the fifth brother, and the two went to the second master's house to pick up the watermelon, ran two or three times, and brought out six or seven, which should be enough.

My cousin didn't know where to find two large trays, and cut three or four watermelons, cut them into small pieces, and each tray was full.

Lin Yun and the fifth brother went to these cards playing tables to distribute a large plate.

As for Lin Yun, it didn't take long for him to be assigned to the one where many people play poker.

It's also cheap, maybe it's deliberate.

"Come, everyone eats watermelon, and those who lose money and those who win money come to eat."

Lin Yun handed over the watermelon on the plate, and then said this, most people were happy to come and eat the watermelon, but some people were not happy.

If you are happy, you will win money, you will win red faces, and you will eat melons, and you will naturally smile.

Unhappy why, this fool lost money, unhappy that Lin Yun mentioned what he lost money and won, with an unhappy face, he pushed away the tray that Lin Yun handed over.

"You take it for me."

This is a bit of a bad tone, and I took the opportunity to lose money.

I'll go, this doesn't make sense, this is a loss of money, and you can still rely on me to send watermelons, what kind of bullshit god logic are you, lose to death, you have to lose for a while, Lin Yun remained silent, and continued to look for someone to eat melons.

You deserve to lose, you see, this circle is all about eating melons, don't look at you lively, look at who is lively.

This birdman, Lin Yun knows, is a good buddy when the boss's cousin, but this quality is indeed a bit flattering. I didn't tell you to play the cards, and I didn't let me lose the money, as for it?

It seems to be a hot pot restaurant, what is the name of Dingzong, what is the surname Lin Yun doesn't know, the business is doing well, it is booming, and it is also the reason why everyone cheers, including Lin Yun's class reunion for the New Year's Festival, and friends often go to dinner.

You said that you are a boss anyway, lose some money, and be angry with the little brother who sent watermelons next to you, it is really TMD that you should lose.

According to Lin Yun's thoughts, with your bearing, you have to lose once when you play, this is called Wu Dalang playing night owls, who plays with what birds.

People who are not good at gambling are generally gone and have no return, which is a small gambling pleasure, and if they lose some money, they will be angry with people's goods, and their character is still to be discussed.

After Lin Yun delivered the watermelon, he also ate a few pieces himself, because of the previous episode, this product naturally came over to pay attention to the wins and losses of this table of cards, and drew circles and cursed or something, which is the specialty of this product.

It doesn't matter if you don't understand the rules, whoever pays for it can always understand it, haha, Amitabha, Bodhisattva bless, lose you bastard.