Xiao Xia, my mother is sitting at the dinner table now, and suddenly I feel that marriage doesn't seem to be interesting, and this thought suddenly popped up when my mother was chewing chicken pieces.

Now the food on the table has a familiar taste for my mother. In our family, grandma can hardly eat chili peppers, and grandpa is not spicy or happy. Grandma accommodates grandpa's taste all year round. And there is a reason for this accommodation, that is, grandma has no decision-making ability, no big or small things, and even to the point where she is unwilling to make decisions about how much seasoning to put in cooking. gave up the right for half her life, and correspondingly, let her eat slightly spicy food for half her life.

Mom thinks that marriage is not interesting, probably because she suddenly realized that if she is a grandmother, then there is no sense of existence in this life. If she relies on the existence of her mother and grandfather as the meaning of her life, then this philosophy of life is also very passive.

Look at the dishes on this table, they have a spicy taste everywhere. This spicy taste has accompanied her grandmother for most of her life, and now she occasionally asks if this chili pepper is particularly spicy, and when the chopsticks are clamped down, she looks hesitant.

Run-in with something that you don't fit into, and it's a protracted run-in, many people say that this is marriage. And this is indeed the marriage of grandparents in the eyes of my mother.

Of course, marriage is definitely not only about running-in and compromise, on the contrary, marriage is also compensating for many other things on the basis of sharpening people's hearts.

Is a person afraid to go to a party, the attitude of friends is sometimes good and bad, not to mention the company of a two-sided knife, then your partner may accompany you because of your tireless nagging.

A person does not have any idea about the big events that will happen, and if they are in a marriage, they can discuss it together.

I have a conflict with other people, and I have nowhere to vent my emotions, and there is still a pair of ears in the house, whether I buy it or not, there is always a secondary source.

From time to time, I feel that I am fat and ugly, and at least there is one other person who is always around whether he is lazy or not to chase better.

Finally, if life fails and is boring, then there is someone around you who can shirk the responsibility of smashing this life drama.

In conclusion, the existence of a marriage partner, even if interpreted negatively, still has some benefits.

Mom just listed bad examples. In other words, it is what my father once said, the marriage of ordinary people should be what it should be.

But there should always be some marriages that can promote mutual growth, and there are always some marriages that can understand and encourage each other, and even be as good as sincere friendship.

Although my mother is now a divorced woman in the social sense, she still has hope for love and a good marriage. Past experiences do not make my mother completely lose faith in love and marriage.

But today, my mother is sitting here, munching on chicken pieces, and suddenly I think, can the advantages and disadvantages of marriage really cancel each other out? The cumbersome marriage of ordinary people has been glorified like a fairy tale or a prophecy. All the nagging and disgust with each other is called the truth of marriage, called ordinary love. A whole bunch of marriage and psychologists have come forward to say that in marriage, how much we want to strangle each other, is normal and should be overcome.

Is this kind of practice and tribulation really an attribute of marriage itself? If so, then how can you give your heart a preventive shot when you swear or are sweet. After all, the later story may be cruel and impossible to link with the previous memories, and they will be completely dizzy by the cold marriage.

But if you don't think about marriage at all, life may not be easy.

When people reach middle age, in their leisure time, they need to bite the bullet and set aside groups of couples and couples, as well as a large number of families of three and four, in tourist resorts, to enjoy a beautiful scenery or a delicious food.

When you have a cold, when all your organs pretend to be bad, you have to hold on and don't cry.

Mom is at home by herself now, and there is nothing to do, just because there is no one to hug her, or the hug she once had has passed, she will suddenly cry.

Then in the future, there may be music in the bedroom and living room, maybe there is even a small fountain installed in the home, and you can hear the sound of the water sleeping in the stream at night.

Spring Festival, Christmas, New Year's Day, and her birthday, my mother can think that Xiaoxia may be so busy that she can't even take care of her father's family, and it should be logical that she can't take care of her mother as a single person.

When I was abandoned by my father this time, my mother's bitter and embarrassing holiday and birthday experience, I don't know if it will be better or worse at that time.

If you look at it this way, a person who will never get married again should also have to face a lot of problems.

If you get married, behind closed doors, you need to run in on the inside and outside of another person. If you don't get married, it may be the time to open the door, and you need to be firm inside and out.

Now it seems that none of this is easy.

But my mother now thinks about the next determination that she can handle everything, which includes nailing, screwing bolts, and solving her introversion and loneliness.

Even if you are alone, you are not afraid to go out to do things, you are not afraid of the dark, you are not afraid to travel alone, you are not afraid to work and live in an unfamiliar city, and you are not afraid of having no one to talk to you at a party.

Xiao Xia, mom is about to start this journey now. In the final analysis, whether there is marriage or not, mothers have to accept their own choices and the impact of the sudden future.

In fact, it is almost the same as the current state, getting along with my father, I feel that it is not as good as I want, so I chose to live by myself. Then all the things that this kind of life brings, naturally have to be accepted in turn. And if you live alone and don't follow your heart, then you have to accept it. Maybe it's just that no situation is perfect, maybe it's just all practice and suffering. Then that's all there is to it.

In retrospect, Mom now tries to remember the hugs and stability she experienced in the marriages she once had. At that time, when I gave everything I had, my mother felt at ease. And now, the past self no longer exists, and my mother also deeply understands her own changes, so different, my mother seems to have completely changed a person. Maybe whether you have a marriage or not, your mother's experience has advantages and disadvantages, and whether they can cancel each other out, my mother can't tell, but in the end, these things that may sound negative make my mother feel a lot of emotion, and perhaps the most important thing is that I have experienced it, and I don't distinguish between good and bad at all.