Xiao Xia, when his mother and father got married, his income was almost twice as much as his, and it lasted four years, and his parents' income was equal. When two people's incomes are put together, life can be said to be relatively comfortable.

Later, when Mom and Dad divorced, the two of them had to argue over the ownership of power strips, drying racks, and these small things, and neither of them wanted to cheapen each other. In the final analysis, compared with money, both of them are more willing to give up their memories, friendships, and faces.

So what exactly is money.

I don't know if Xiao Xia has the opportunity to occasionally use her own money to buy some snacks or toys. Money can buy us what we want, and those things can often bring us pleasant feelings.

The money of our parents will bring fixed feedback on social roles, which will affect our sense of existence as human beings in an all-round way. It may be a little difficult to understand this. We can start from Xiao Xia's perspective and give an example that will be given between children or classmates.

In the future, when Xiao Xia goes to school, it is likely that there will be a few classmates in the class, who will always get the latest mobile phones or wear the most expensive sneakers. And such an appearance, almost will not be ignored by everyone, on the contrary, will be very eye-catching, we will naturally notice such circles and groups, when we are young, we will know that these children's families, compared to others, are richer.

And such children often show a certain sense of superiority. Some people have more sense of superiority, and some people have less, but most of these students are also self-aware of their own situation and positioning.

In a similar situation, at the age of Mom and Dad, their own income and savings level are almost like a concrete wall, restricting adults like Mom and Dad from accessing different levels of resources. Learning, art, consumption, medical care, education and other aspects will be affected.

Such a large-scale influence has indeed affected the generosity of Mom and Dad about money after the divorce, but in addition, there are deeper reasons why we quarrel over trivial things.

Xiao Xia, mom can tell you about the reason why she did this, and for Dad, mom is just guessing, it is very likely that there is biased speculation, which can only be judged by yourself.

The reason why my mother is unwilling to give up everything and start a new life again immediately, and I am entangled with my father about the ownership of large and small objects, in the final analysis, my mother's inner thoughts are that I think that my father owes herself. Mom even thinks that Dad should be at the beginning, just like the cheating male protagonist written in various online copywriting, and leave the house and start from scratch. Since you have betrayed your family, you should lose everything and never turn over.

But you see, such thoughts, in other words, can almost be said that my mother hates my father, and resents him for treacherous and obscene things for his married female subordinates when the family is stable and the three of them are about to live together as a family of three. Mom even wrote the words that she will never turn over, and there was a moment in her mother's heart, a moment when she hoped that Dad would be unlucky, downcast, and miserable, and life was worse than death.

Since he had such a hatred for him, naturally, his mother was not willing to leave him a little money, and she was not willing to do it at all.

However, what really happened was that Mom's money was gone, and Dad said it was all gone. Mom didn't get a penny. And you and the house are given to Dad, in this case, Mom's arguments are actually selfish, hoping that there will be more things to start a new life as soon as possible.

In many cases, not everything is best to buy again, because buying things is also very energy-consuming. If there is a ready-made one, then mom will take it.

Later, Dad kept saying that Mom was stealing his things. Such an evaluation, the mother said that she scoffed and did not comment, and each other.

As for what Dad thinks, Mom actually doesn't understand.

Because my father actually has a lot of savings, and there is no burden in the family, and with my mother's savings, why did my father put my mother to death, my mother often can't understand. This situation is very different from most of the stories my mother has read.

If the emotions of relatives and family members can be completely abandoned, then is money the most important thing in our lives?

After the divorce, my mother also read a lot of articles about the unreliability of emotions and the unpredictability of people's hearts, so as to prove that only money in their own hands can have the ultimate sense of security. However, human nature is complex, and money itself is very complex like a person or a philosophy, and it is not something that can be generalized by one or several arguments.

Mom thinks that sometimes people and money, money and people, just like the relationship between husband and wife, too tight or too loose, may cause the relationship to break down. And its importance is also like this, if you value it the most, you may lose a lot of important experiences and emotions, and if you don't value it at all, you will naturally suffer setbacks.

In the past, my mother often said that she had no concept and desire for money. Similar expressions or attitudes, my mother has also expressed digital products and financial management. This also directly contributed to the mother's move to hand over all her income, and later when she divorced, she didn't know where her money was going.

It was a mistake for my mother to take money lightly and to want to appear completely effortless. This kind of misleading, my mother can't tell when and from which kind of romantic literature the ideas were implanted, thinking that women who are tall and light, and who are ignorant of the world, are their ideals. So in life, among the grains, I forgot the importance of being down-to-earth, and the loss of money is the evil result of my mother's acceptance. Now my mother still has a job to make ends meet, and if she loses her efforts at work, she is likely to be unable to get back up in the life that this false hint has led her to. Now that I think about it, I'm still very scared.

And what I want to show is that I don't care about money at all, and my life is effortless, but after the twists and turns of this divorce, I have been destroyed at all. My mother not only took away the countless hangers at home undignifiedly, but also had to decorate the furniture by herself and move back and forth under the scorching sun in order to save money. At the beginning, he pretended to be relaxed, which directly led to his passive suffering, not easy, but extremely tiring experience.

Xiao Xia, the treatment of money is often as complicated as the philosophy of life. But please don't be like Mom, for the sake of an illusory character, and forget to take life seriously, and take seriously the money that is indispensable in life, this is the first experience Mom wants to share with you about money.

Xiaoxia, my mother thinks about you every day and loves you every day.