Xiao Xia, I told you about the cycle of life yesterday, so do you know what the meaning of life is?

This question is very complicated, and my mother can't give you an answer right away, because everyone's meaning in life is given by themselves. Therefore, for you, the meaning of your life also needs to be found by yourself.

But this topic is worth discussing, and my mother hopes to use this opportunity to give you a few examples and let you judge for yourself what the meaning of life is.

Mom, let's start with herself.

In the past, when my mother read books, she often said that if she wanted to know how she should live, she should imagine how she wanted to summarize when she left. Then the summed up story of our own life is the meaning of our life.

But my mother felt that this vision, which pulled her life to the end in one go, was a bit difficult to control. Whenever my mother imagines the picture of the final chapter, there is only an abstract hope that my mother can be remembered by her relatives at the end of her life, and she can also feel everyone's love at that time. Mom always wanted to have a lot of love. This scene made my mother understand that the meaning of her life is to get a lot of love in life and get inner satisfaction. But such a distant and vast definition is difficult to apply in the present, and it is difficult to use it as a guide for making choices in the present.

So my mother shortened her vision a little. From the ultra-long-term to the medium-to-long-term and the short-term, the question has changed from how I want to leave and what kind of summary I want to make to what kind of person I want to become.

And what this mother wants to be will bring to herself and others is the meaning of her mother's life in the near and medium and long term.

What kind of person my mother wanted to be at first was also a vague idea. But every time you face a choice, you will find that there is a vague shadow that affects you. As my mother grew older and experienced more things, this force became stronger and stronger, and the image of the person my mother wanted to be became clearer and clearer, and finally it became my mother's current life goal.

So what kind of person does mom want to be?

Here's what she looks like. Fashionable and capable, with a tasteful and kind character, while at the same time keen on environmental protection and sports. Becoming such a woman is a way for the mother herself to achieve inner peace and self-confidence. And for others, there will be a friend who is full of kindness and positive power for the world.

In summary, a mother's life is to experience love and self-confidence, and to be able to help others and maintain the environment.

In the past, when Mom and Dad were still together, there was a long time and they discussed this issue twice, once probably just when they were together, and the other time, it should have been a time when there was no love. The first time was to understand each other's life goals and enhance understanding, while the second time was to prove that they were really different from each other. However, the two times that Mom and Dad discussed, there was no essential change in the idea itself. Mom's female perspective is still very different from Dad's male perspective. Dad's pursuit of self-emotion is relatively plain, and he hopes to achieve personal contributions. At that time, my mother had not set a short-term goal, and she still focused on pursuing a vague life for love.

Xiao Xia, the meaning set by her parents for life, can almost be said to be the mainstream idea of this society. The slight difference between men and women does not make us special people, on the contrary, my mother guesses, almost all of us have similar goals in life.

In fact, life is completely unlimited, and everyone wants to live their life as they want, there is no good or bad, right or wrong, and almost all of them can be achieved.

However, in their own lives, everyone may not have thought of a plan from the macro perspective of life in advance.

We may have thought about our career plans, or even love plans, but sometimes life is too long-term, and we may not be able to think about it in advance. In addition, there are always new things happening, and they will change the trajectory of our lives to a great extent. Dealing with new changes is often tricky enough, and we often don't have time to revise our life plans.

But once we figure out where our hearts are, the possibilities in life are infinite and active. In other words, no matter what kind of meaning you want to achieve in life, you can do it, and you don't have to passively accept the arrangement of fate.

Dad and mom struggle to live in the mainstream sense. But meaning itself is not right or wrong. Many people are mavericks and are not even understood for the rest of their lives, but as long as they feel that they have achieved their goal, then it is good. There are still many people who have been misunderstood for a lifetime, but they can still be affirmed by the world many years later. It can be seen that for the ego, the meaning of life lies in whether you are happy or not, what others think, and how you look at the current era, you don't have to care.

My mother has a very favorite person named Xiao Hong, who is a writer who lived a hundred years ago. She's a very interesting woman. As a bystander, my mother felt that she had lived so unwillingly, but she also felt that she had actually been doing what she wanted, and the life inspiration that burst out as a result turned into complex and excellent words, which made her talent overflowing. She has been evaluated for being bohemian and uninhibited, and she has also been judged to be talented, which is really a life full of contradictions.

Mom talked about her because the meaning of her life, even in turbulent times, should be considered very deviant. If my mother didn't know about her life and work, she would inevitably comment that she was such a failed person, such a waste of life, so meaningless. But not so.

Xiao Hong's life is so sensual, but elegant and advanced. She is so poor, but she has the heart to get by. Most importantly, her talent was recognized not only in that era, but also in history now. It is really a typical life, which is disagreed with by the world, but full of meaning.

Xiaoxia, the meaning of life needs us to experience it in stages. What goals we live to achieve in the short term, what are our goals in the medium and long term, and what kind of people we hope to become and what kind of stories we hope to leave behind throughout our lives, are all topics that we need to think about while living seriously. And these seemingly serious topics are actually the secret to making our lives easier. Only when life has a purpose and meaning in life can we walk lightly and feel relieved. Life will give us many trials, and as long as we know the meaning of life, we can endure them.

Finally, I would like to give you a quote from Nietzsche, those who know what they live for, can survive.