Xiao Xia, today my mother wants to talk to you about something. Hopefully, you won't learn about it from other people's words, but from your mom. Mom also wants you and mom to look at it correctly and not preconceived.

The word we're talking about now, this definition, is a period of time that you and I, maybe it's long, or it's short, we're going to go through. During this time, Mom is a divorced woman and you are the child of a single-parent family.

What does it mean to you to have a child from a single-parent family? In fact, it's your mother, me, who is not by your side, who does not live with you, with your father, and with your grandmother.

There are many such children, and of course there are many parents living together, maybe half and half. For you and other children in a similar situation to you, the categorical term is called a child from a single-parent family.

Xiao Xia, mom isn't sure if you'll notice this, maybe your time and space are different from mom, and you won't feel anything at all. Mom wasn't sure if it would have been if you realized.

But Mom wants to talk to you about it first.

When my mother was a child, my cousin was such a child. My mother's uncle and my aunt at that time divorced, and they are like this with my parents now. My cousin lives with my aunt, who left their former home alone. My uncle's situation was the same as my mother's situation now.

The relationship between my cousin and my mother was not good, when we were children, we both lived in my mother's grandmother's house, and my cousin and my mother both wanted to compete for grandma's liking, and my cousin always won. Adults and adults in the eyes of mothers always say that children such a competition and such a hate for each other will disappear and become inseparable family affection when they grow up. But my mother and cousin have not been in touch until now. Probably we are the exception.

My mother now recalls that my cousin was a diligent girl, and her attitude was different from that of my mother, and she had a sense of intimacy. When she eats with her family, she will serve vegetables to her father and the elderly. Back home, she is also very considerate of her mother.

Children like their mothers were very arrogant when they were young, or in their hearts now. So I used to think that my cousin's appearance was a bit sycophant, even a little pitiful.

When I grew up, for no particular reason, my mother and cousin almost didn't contact each other.

After that, what thoughts my cousin had in her heart, and what she thought of her uncle and aunt's choices when she became an adult, my mother had no way of knowing.

Is there anything different about my cousin from my mother?

My cousin was and is very happy. When my mother was a child, she used to hear her say that she understood her aunt very well and understood why she left her uncle, so she thought it was good, and these arrangements were right.

In my mother's childhood memories, except for the double arrangement that she sometimes had to go back to accompany her mother for a meal after eating at her grandmother's house, I didn't feel any difference.

Maybe the only thing that makes my mother feel different is that my mother knows that my cousin and my mother are not the same kind. My cousin is a child of a single-parent family. Mom is not. The names are different.

Speaking of my mother, when my mother was young, she was very shy, and during that time, my mother felt that it was not pleasant to live with your grandfather, because they wanted her to be a generous child.

My mother remembers very well that my grandmother once cut her mother's hair very short and asked her not to go out to play in her blouse, because there was another girl who was not shy to do it. At that time, my mother felt very sad. And after doing this, I actually met the girl mentioned by my grandmother on the road, and she was wearing a top.

Later, my mother started to go to school, and her grades were very good, and the relationship with my grandfather became much better, which can be said to be like a honeymoon period. But during that time, the relationship between grandma and grandpa was not the same as when my mother was a child.

That's when their relationship deteriorated. Mom often heard them arguing, and sometimes they would say that it was because of Mom that they didn't separate. My mother didn't like this statement very much, and until today, my mother has learned more and more truths, and she has become more and more aware of what is wrong with this statement. How can the underage children be held responsible for the affairs between two husbands and wives, and between two people who are two years old.

My mother remembered that she once said to her uncle that she hoped that her grandfather and grandfather could be separated and not forced to be together because of her mother. At that time, my uncle was taken aback and immediately said, don't separate. He told his mother as a passer-by, hoping that his mother would not take this matter lightly. At that time, my mother didn't understand why she was so painfully together since she was so unhappy and had such a different way of thinking.

Now, Xiaoxia, my mother has lived for more than 20 years compared to that time, my mother has experienced love, work, having a cute and pure child, and has also experienced marriage and divorce. Mom felt that she felt a little bit of the fear of her former uncle. And what he was going through was exactly what his mother was going through now. This feeling turned out to be bone-chilling, and it was also full of social loneliness. Together, it is the consequences of becoming a child of a single-parent family that your uncle and mother can't personally experience, cousin and Xiaoxia, who are going through.

Time has also proved that what my mother thought when she was a child may have been just a momentary lie. Because grandpa and grandpa actually went through that period of time, they are now two people who coexist together, and they have become two people who are in love with each other. But unfortunately, no one can foresee the present in that distant past.

Xiao Xia, her mother can't know if she and her father hadn't divorced, many years later, they would have become two old people living happily together. Mom actually chose the easiest way in the most difficult time, and Mom ran away from Dad. This practice saved my mother then and now. And the aging backs that support each other and walk together also dissipate, and it is no longer possible.

Xiao Xia, if your mother does all this, you can also say that she is responsible for the results, then the influence that your mother has on you is completely hegemonic and selfish. You passively accepted life, and you passively accepted parting. Mom can't give you another choice. Every step is not good, in the palm of your young hand, if it used to be the choice of father and mother, then now mother let go.

But did you find out? In fact, my mother didn't know if it would have been worse or better if things had been the other way. In that distant past, my uncle and aunt didn't know, my grandmother and my grandfather didn't know, and my parents didn't know either. On both sides of the coin, we don't know which side is better.

And in that childhood, my cousin sighed that everything is the best ending, and the young mother sighed, why bother to get by. And we can't predict how to choose the best choice in the end.

And my cousin, my mother, became what she is now, the master who went through it all. In the time we slided, we were still blown by the wind and couldn't open our eyes.

Xiao Xia, the child of a single-parent family, or a single-parent family, is the other side of the same side. We can't see whether there are happy smiles or tears on the faces of our loved ones and us in a universe where this choice has not occurred.

Then in reality, we face the real choice, the people who accept the real results, the past them, the present us, the future you, the unknowns we face, are the same.

Xiao Xia, Mom will always love you.