You can't even do small things, how can you do big things?

Any successful person from a poor family from a small family, diligence is his "first step to climb the ladder of life", and strive to do every little thing well, so that someone will dare to hand over the big things to you with confidence in the future.

In the winter of 1849, Carnegie came home from class one night and learned from his uncle that David in Pittsburgh needed a messenger to deliver the telegram. He immediately realized that the opportunity had come.

Early the next morning, Carnegie put on his new clothes and leather shoes and went with his father to the door of the telegraph company. He suddenly stopped and said to his father, "I want to go in for an interview alone, Dad, you can wait for me outside." It turned out that he was worried that he would look short when he interviewed his father side by side, and at the same time, he was also afraid that his father would speak inappropriately and would run into Mr. David, thus losing this rare opportunity.

So, he went up to the second floor alone for an interview. Mr. David looked at the short, high-nosed Scottish boy and asked, "Are you familiar with the streets of downtown Pittsburgh?"

Carnegie replied firmly, "No, but I promise to be familiar with all the streets of Pittsburgh within a week." After a pause, he added, "I may be small, but I can run faster than others, don't worry." ”

Mr. David smiled with satisfaction: "$2.5 a week, let's start working from now on!"

In this way, Carnegie got this errand and took the first step in life. At this time, he was only 14 years old.

In just one week, Carnegie, dressed in a green uniform, fulfilled a promise he made during the interview and became familiar with the streets of Pittsburgh. Two weeks later, he knew even the suburban trails by heart. He was small, but his legs were diligent, and he quickly gained unanimous praise throughout the company. A year later, he had been promoted to head of the messenger.

Carnegie arrived at the office an hour early every day, and after cleaning his room, he quietly went to the telegraph room to learn to make telegrams. He cherished this opportunity to learn secretly, and persevered day after day, and soon became proficient in the art of receiving and receiving telegrams. He was later promoted to become one of the best telegraph operators in the telegraph company.

Because of Carnegie's hard work, he was appreciated by General Manager David. One afternoon at the end of the month, Carnegie was left alone. When he stepped into the general manager's office, his heart was seven. I was nervous, for fear that I would be negligent in my work and do something wrong. But General Manager David patted him on the shoulder and said, "Young man, you work harder and harder than others, so from this month onwards, you will be given a separate raise." Carnegie was so happy that he almost fainted. He received $13.5, $2.25 more than last month. For a poor boy who is only 15 years old, this is a huge amount of money.

Andrew Carnegie later concluded: "There are two basic factors that have made me successful: first. . . I was born in a poor family since I was a child, and when I was a child, I used to eat enough for this meal, and I didn't know where the next meal was. At night, I often hear my parents sighing as they cope with the poverty in front of them. So from a young age, I tried to be motivated and motivated, determined to defeat poverty from me when I grew up. Second, do everything seriously, no matter how big or small. I worked as a weaver when I was 12 years old, and I worked hard to spin the yarn well. Later, I worked as a postman, and I tried to remember the names of every house in my postal district, and the appearance of the houses. Later, I became acquainted with almost every one of them. Strive to do every little thing well, and only then will someone dare to hand over the big things to you with confidence. ”

The heart lock is difficult to open, how to understand the other party's mind

When you're desperately trying to communicate with the other person, but you forget to know what the other person is thinking, there's only one end to it: nothing. People who don't look at the person they talk to, don't know what the other person is thinking, and just talk endlessly, are the most stupid.

Smart people will do more effective communication, and will always understand the other party's mind before communication, know what others care about most, so as to know what they should say and what they should not say, so as to get the best communication effect.

Zhu Yuanzhang, the founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty, was born poor, herded cattle when he was a teenager, worked for rich families, and even became a monk for a time. But Zhu Yuanzhang had great ambitions and eventually became the founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty.

After Zhu Yuanwei became emperor, one day, one of his childhood friends came to Beijing to ask for a meeting. Zhu Yuanzhang really wanted to meet his old friend, but he was afraid that he would say something unpleasant. hesitated again and again, but he couldn't let people say that he was rich and responsible, and he didn't miss the old feelings, but he still ordered someone to pass it on.

The man knew that Zhu Yuanwei had been a face-loving person since he was a child, so as soon as he entered the main hall, he bowed down and shouted long live, saying, "Long live my lord!" Back then, Weichen swept Luzhou Mansion with his car, broke Canzhou City, Marshal Tang was on the run, took General Dou, and the red child became a soldier, thanks to General Cai. Zhu Yuanwei was very happy when he heard him say it eloquently and subtly, recalling the situation when everyone was hungry and cold, sharing happiness and hardship, he was very excited, and immediately rewarded this old friend. Since then, because this person knows Zhu Yuanwei's temper well, and he can always speak to his heart, he is very appreciated by Zhu Yuanpi.

Later, the news came out that another partner who was herding cattle together also came to Beijing to face the saint, and when he saw Zhu Yuanwei, he was very happy, for fear that the emperor would forget him, and pointed at the golden palace and said, "Long live my lord!" Do you remember? At that time, we all herded cattle for other people, and once we were in the reeds, and we put the stolen beans in a crockpot and boiled them, and before they could be cooked, everyone rushed to eat them, and broke the jars, and scattered the beans and soup on the ground, and you just grabbed the beans from the ground and ate them, and ended up getting the mangrove root stuck in your throat, or I came up with the idea to ask you to swallow a handful of greens, and then swallowed the mangrove root into your stomach. ”

After Zhu Yuanwei became the emperor, his biggest heart problem was that he was afraid that people would mention his humble past, and when he saw that this childhood friend actually said this in front of hundreds of civil and military officials, Long Yan was furious and shouted the order: "Where is the madman, come here, drag him out and cut him down!" ”

Those who know how to observe words and emotions are rewarded with gold and silver, but they do not know how to take care of the face of others, and they offend the death of others and invite death.

My mother often said that when dealing with people, you have to find out their temperament before you can speak. Don't pick what people don't like to hear, what good can it be?

Finding the heart lock (the psychological taboo of the other party) is the beginning of good communication, only by knowing what others care about most, can you understand what you should say, and everything can be in the palm of your hand. Once you find the key that opens someone's heart, you can often use that key to open his other heart locks over and over again.

If there is a secret to success, it is to put yourself in the shoes of others and understand their attitudes and opinions. And blindly arguing for one's own views and propositions will often only lead to a situation of raising the bull's head.

The American philosopher and poet Emerson one day wanted to herd a calf into the pen with his son. But they made a mistake, they only thought of what they wanted, Emerson pushed the calf in the back, and his son lifted the calf in front. But the calf also has its own wishes, and it props its two forepaws on the ground and does not act according to the wishes of their father and son. The calf did not wear a nose rope, and it stubbornly refused to leave the pasture. The Irish maid of their family was amused when she saw this, and she fully understood the calf's wishes. She had just been working in the kitchen, and her fingers smelled of salt, so she put her salty hand into the cow's mouth like a cow feeding, and let it suck into the pen.

Animals have their own wishes, let alone people. If you don't understand the other person's wishes, you just want to do what you think, which will inevitably lead to social failure.

If you want to persuade someone to do something, it's a good idea to ask yourself before you ask: How can I get him to want to do it?

This tells us that in the process of interpersonal communication, no matter who the other party is, as long as you can find his heart lock, you can easily open his heart, so as to be invincible in communication.

Therefore, no matter how busy you are, you should also find time to observe and ponder the other person, and give him a psychological perspective. It usually doesn't take much time, but you'll get more than you put in.

You will find that almost everyone has their own habits and some differences, once these habits of the other person are taken into account in the conversation, your conversation will be twice as effective with half the effort, will bring you more opportunities, and is an indispensable driving force on the road to success in the workplace.

The more anxiously we search, the more we can't find what we want, and only by calming down can we hear our inner voice.

Learning is the driving force for sustainable success

Learning is an eternal theme and the golden key to success. The whole world is improving, and if you want to succeed and want to have more than 10 million people who are willing to be mediocre, you have to keep learning. Learning is the driving force for sustainable success, "sailing against the current, not advancing or retreating". It's the same with life. In today's rapid development of knowledge, if we do not strengthen our study and improve our self-cultivation, we will not be able to adapt to the rapidly developing society, let alone do a good job. Professor Hua Luogeng once said: "Diligence can make up for clumsiness, which is a good training, a hard work and a talent." "Yes, it doesn't matter if you're not smart, as long as you study diligently, you can make up for it. As long as you study diligently and make a little progress every day, you will one day become a seagull flying across the ocean.

Franklin, an American physicist, was the youngest of 12 boys in his family. Due to his poor family, at the age of 12, he went to work as an apprentice in a small printing office opened by his brother. He took typesetting as a good opportunity to learn and never complained. After reading many books, he practiced writing under a pseudonym, until Franklin's articles were often published in newspapers and praised by people, and when he became famous, his brother realized that this "famous man" was actually his younger brother. "Drip your own sweat and eat your own food. Do your own thing, do it yourself. This is what Zheng Banqiao said. Learning is your own business, and only if you are diligent and studious, you will gain something.

Learning is your own business, it is to replenish your own energy, and you can only output if you have input. Especially in the era of knowledge economy, the cycle of knowledge renewal is getting shorter and shorter, and only by continuous learning can we continue to absorb energy, adapt to the development of society, and survive. Be good at thinking, good at analyzing, and good at integrating; Learning from people with good grades and high experience and asking more questions can form knowledge. We should also bow down to people with good character, strong ability, and affinity.

Fate is never predestined

I just finished watching the American blockbuster "Destiny Planning Bureau", which is based on Philip Brown. K. Dick's short story "Adjustment Team".

David, the male protagonist in the play, fell in love with the heroine Elise at first sight, and they could have been together smoothly

But their fate, seemingly drawn by a mysterious force, prevented them from being together

Thus began their ill-fated life, the road of love

The male protagonist, David, and Elis got separated, and in order to meet her again, he took the same bus every day for 3 years, and finally they met in an alley.

Many things seem predestined, just as we will meet many people, with whom and at what time

Actually, it's not, it's just whether you are willing to change it, whether you want to try it or not

Daivd did it! He did not hesitate to leave Elise for love, and later had to leave Elise for love

In the end, he found out that none of this was what he wanted, that there was no love, that his life was empty and colorless

Determined to break free from the shackles of fate, he began a series of struggles

Elise also fell in love with this man without hesitation and did everything for him

I think this may be the power of love, love, can always create many miracles

Many people are reluctant to change, unwilling to try, and always feel that everything is fate

In fact, fate is never predestined, fate can be changed,

The emperor has given you free will, so that you can follow the path you think is right!

Come on, life is always going the way you want it to,

Whatever you want to become, you will become.

Give yourself a hope every day

There is a doctor who is known for his excellent medical skills and has a thriving career. But unfortunately, one day, he was diagnosed with cancer. It was a slap in the face. At one point, he was depressed. Eventually, not only did he accept this fact, but his mindset changed, becoming more tolerant, more humble, and more appreciative of what he had. In addition to working hard, he never gave up fighting his illness. In this way, he lived peacefully for several years.

Some people were amazed by his deeds and asked him what magical power was supporting him.

The doctor replied with a smile: "Yes, almost every morning, I give myself a hope, I hope I can treat one more patient, I hope my smile can warm everyone. This doctor is not only a skilled doctor, but also a very high level of life.

In this world, there are many things that we can hardly predict. We can't control our circumstances, but we can control ourselves. We can't predict the future, but we can grasp the present; We don't know how long our lives are, but we can arrange our lives in the present. We can't control the vagaries of the weather, but we can adjust our mood. As long as we live, there is hope, and as long as we give ourselves a hope every day, our lives will certainly not lose their lustre.

To give yourself a hope every day is to give yourself a goal and give yourself a little confidence. What is hope? It is the fuse that detonates the potential of life and the catalyst that stimulates the passion of life.

Give yourself a hope every day, and we will live a vibrant, passionate and surging life, where is there time to sigh and mourn, and waste our lives on some boring little things.

Life is limited, but hope is unlimited, as long as we do not forget to give ourselves a hope every day, we will be able to have a colorful life.

Find true love

God is fair because He has a guardian angel by everyone's side.

In adolescence, we always look forward to a love that does not belong to us, even if we are scarred in the end, we are willing to pay stupidly, and we are destined to spend our time in pain! Life may be like Shakespeare said: When you like me, I don't like you; When you fall in love with me, I fall in love with you; When you left me, I fell in love with you. Is it that you are walking too fast, or that I can't keep up with you.

Life is rushing for decades, it is lively and powerful, why should we waste time on love that does not belong to us? Maybe you can give up the so-called favorite in order to get real happiness!

When lost, when sad, when happy...... On our side, there will always be two "fools". It is our eternal safe haven.

On a certain street corner, there are still some memories that I can't look back on and don't want to forget!

When the dream was shattered, I tried my best to pick up the pieces, hoping to put them back together, but no matter how hard I tried, the pieces were like water, cutting through my fingers. It turns out that it's not about trying everything hard to start all over again.

We are young and ignorant, and we are ignorant. When the Ferris wheel of happiness is spinning, close our eyes, and we may be able to find the person we love the most.

People should not live just to earn that breath, there are more important things

Lin, the girl I shared in the dormitory with in college, was born in a rural area and worked hard in college, but she didn't dress up and did things to save money. I've always thought that this was the right thing to do, because I also came from a small county. Until one day, a new roommate arrived, the new roommate is very beautiful, mainly because he is very good at dressing up, willing to spend money on things, his family background is ordinary, but he is especially willing to buy big names. Lin often complains to me, if you look at her, she watches TV dramas at home every day, she doesn't study, doesn't exercise, doesn't socialize, she only dresses up, she has a boyfriend and is very rich, and she often shows off because of this.

I remember Lynn's complaint to me: "Why is she so happy? I never have to pay anything, when I was serving tea and pouring water for people in the restaurant and working as a waitress just for 70 yuan a day, she posted photos of eating French dinner with her boyfriend in her circle of friends, and my psychology was really a little uncomfortable......"

"It's all girls, people's luck is really good, you see she has a good boyfriend, she is typically rich and handsome, rich and loves her very much, and she will be very happy in the next few decades."

Later, we all graduated, the girl lost contact with me somehow, and Lin found a few jobs and didn't do long, she felt too wronged in those companies, so she later resigned and went to Beijing for graduate school, she said: "I can't even look down on what I chase, and I don't chase me if I like it...... I've been working hard in my life, much harder than she did. A few times when I desperately stayed up late to read and fainted, she was sleeping and watching TV; I was very busy as a cadre in club activities, and she went out to various restaurants to enjoy life. Obviously, I have paid so much, why can't I break free from the shackles of my family even though I am in my 20s? ”

In the past few years since I graduated, I have been writing my own words, and I don't earn much, but it is a job that I like, and I enjoy this life very much. I remembered what a friend who is also a coder said to me: You treat life as a bitter hatred. You are bitter and hateful to others, and you are the same for yourself, and it has little to do with whether you are good or not. Even if you don't have this comparison, you compare yourself to yourself, and you lose.

Many of us, like Lynn, live not because we love life, but because we live bitterly and hatefully. "If you suffer hardship, you will become a master", "You want to glorify your ancestors", "Fight for your family", isn't this what we often say?

In the early years, when we watched some educational themes, I often saw that this teacher and that leader were still working with illness, and finally died of exhaustion. When it was over, there was a sentence of praise, "Although XX is dead, his spirit will remain in the world forever!" Such an example is still vigorously publicized here in our country, and it is rarely seen abroad.

Actually, if you think about it, should it be like this?

It's better to take good care of your illness, get well of your illness, and fight again in the future, maybe you will make a greater contribution to society. Many people are like this, living is holding their breath and waiting for the day when they will come out. For them, that's what it means to be alive.

Actually, it's not necessary. Life is life, you work hard, not because you want to get ahead, want to be like XX, I advise you not to be like this, it is good for others, good for yourself, it is not good.

It is easy to be angry with oneself and jealous of others. You work hard because you feel that the life of hard work is meaningful to you, and you are happy to do it.

For example, reading is because you like to read, so you forget to sleep and eat, and work day and night. And not because "I study to surpass you, you wait", in this way, you are going in the wrong direction.

Life is a long-distance race. To put it cruelly, most people will not be able to realize their ideals in this life. Many people are like you, holding their breath to live, so they shout "tired" every day, and there are many people who stop eating before they reach the finish line.

Are there few such examples in history? The successful people we see are all rewarded in the end. There are many more, they also have their own dreams, which have not yet been realized, they are still on the way, and they are hanging, and there are countless of them. It is precisely because there are so many losers that the winners appear so dazzling under the halo of history.

The Van Gogh we see today is probably also a loser in his time. But will he live a resentful life? I don't think so, otherwise he wouldn't be hungry to do his own painting. In the letters he wrote to his brother Theo, he saw his love of life throughout. It's better to choose something you enjoy to do as soon as possible, whether it's painting or making money, enjoying itself is the most important thing.

In my opinion, when Lynn climbs to the position of that classmate one day, she will finally get through, but she will not be satisfied. Because the world she sees with her eyes is "their lives are good", and in fact, the rich also have a lot of troubles in their lives, not inferior to the poor.

The poor have the poor way of living, and the rich have the way of living of the rich, although the poor suffer a little more materially, but there is no need to be bitter and hateful, after all, you have not yet reached the point of starvation. It's just that no one else can live as much as they want.

First of all, we have to admit that people, by birth, are not equal. Aside from family factors, physical fitness, intelligence, family upbringing, and appearance, these alone determine the difference in their future life paths. People, there are some things that cannot be changed, you can only accept fate. But some things can be changed, we live, we still have to recognize our fate, but we still have to work hard when we should work hard.

For example, you may be born with poor growth, but you can cultivate your own temperament. You may have a worse IQ than others, but you can rely on hard work. You are born poor, but you can earn it by your own efforts. There's nothing to complain about.

Life is not about holding a good hand, how to play. It's about holding a bad hand, and you have to finish it carefully. I've seen a lot of gifted people who are born with a good hand and often lament that the world makes people miserable. But it is rare that a girl who loves life, works hard, and never complains, what injustice will fate have for them.

People are inert, no matter what kind of work we do, one day we will feel bored because of the boredom of the work, and one day we will lose confidence because of the hard work of being busy but still achieving nothing! Therefore, in the workplace, what we need is to constantly encourage ourselves, cheer ourselves, give ourselves confidence, and cheer ourselves up. One of the effective ways is to read a classic inspirational story every day, understand and experience from the story, and find your self-confidence from the inspiration of the story! Next, please learn some classic inspirational stories with the editor of World Factory Network, I hope it can help you!

Inspirational stories in the workplace tell us that all the gains and losses in the workplace are small, and no one will regret that they didn't spend more time working in the office when they are dying. The pursuit of happiness and peace and happiness is the most important thing in a person's life.