Don't forget the original intention

Message: The ancients said: "Don't forget the original intention, you have to always." "Some people have lost their true heart of kindness under the temptation of the world, and some people no longer stick to their original dreams after experiencing the blows and tribulations of life. The most rare thing now is that we can still maintain an innocent heart and chase the original dream.

You envy successful people, envy their rich assets, in fact, many of them also started from ordinary obscurity, maybe when they were as old as you, they were not as good as you. Youth is capital, grow in your own way, do today's things seriously, and never forget your original intention.

Hi! Dear Office Girl: Just now, in the bathroom, I heard that you were the one crying in the cubicle. Back in my office, facing the rush of more than a dozen emails on my computer, I suddenly realized that even the best freshly ground Blue Mountain coffee couldn't calm me down, so I started writing this letter to you.

I know in your eyes that I'm busy going crazy, ruthless like a bitch, and boring to death, so you must be surprised to write this letter, but I wrote it because I'm not really that busy, it's not a bitch, it's not boring.

I think today must have been a tough day for you. In the morning, you come to work with red eyes, and I know you must have had another fight with your boyfriend. You answered a phone call in the morning, and your face immediately darkened, it was the landlord who wanted to raise the rent. After spending such a half-day, it's no wonder that during the afternoon session, you did a slideshow that ended in awkward silence. Then, when I was about to give you the report that I had done last week, and you said you weren't done, I told you with a straight face that if you didn't understand what you couldn't put off, the consequences would be very serious.

Then I went about myself. You may not have noticed, I also have my own boss, how to satisfy him is my biggest headache every day, knowing that I heard you crying in the bathroom, I only remembered you. Your crying voice was still so childish, and I suddenly remembered that you are only twenty-three years old this year.

What was I like at the age of twenty-three? It so happened that the clearest in my memory was also a cry. That day, my current husband, my boyfriend at the time, and I broke up on the phone, and I went to a hot pot restaurant alone to eat a big pot of Mao Xuewang, and then found that my purse had been stolen, and all my living expenses and bank cards were in it. As soon as I got out of the police station, I received a call from a college classmate inviting me to drink her wedding wine. Then, I said that it was because I felt sorry for the red envelope, and I was a little embarrassed, but at that time, it was definitely the last straw for the camel - I cried loudly on the winter street, ignoring the surprised eyes of passers-by.

Maybe life should start with a bitter cry for every girl to know what it is really like behind the veil of roses. And every girl, at some point in her life, will be intimidated by such harsh intimidation and lose her fighting spirit. But dear little girl, I assure you that the happiness and suffering of a person in this life are absolutely within the limits of what you can bear. Life knows you better than you do, it is cunning, it gives you bitterness, it will always disappoint you without despairing. And the sweetness given to you will always make you taste and be full of thoughts. All in all, It sucks, but you will love it.

When people are in their twenties, they must always be willing to believe in one sentence: live somewhere else. It's easy for you to give up a job, it's easy to give up a relationship, it's easy to give up a friend, it's not because of this belief. Unfortunately, it will take a long time for people to understand that there is no such thing as the legendary "elsewhere" in this world. All you have is what you have, and what you get in the end is what you miss at the first platform.

So little girl, I want to give you my first word of advice for the day: work hard. Work is everything, and not the only way a girl born a princess becomes a queen. Work is the closest thing to reality of all the illusions of freedom. More importantly, work helps a woman learn how to love herself, so that you can love the world, love others, and be loved.

I know that in your eyes, a woman in her thirties is as old as an overnight dish. A woman in her forties can go to death. It's okay, I don't mind, because that's what I thought in my early twenties. Let me tell you a word: what is cuter than getting old is that you are old and have not yet found your place in society. So my dear little girl, you must hurry, or you will be thirty in the first glance.

Now you are still far from a mature, professional professional woman.

You see, when you come to work in a bubble princess dress, or grab a folder and hold your chin while I'm talking to you, I think you're cute as a woman and a mom, but the next time I'm thinking about a promotion, I probably won't be able to choose you.

I don't need you to work overtime after work, little girl, and I don't need you to close the QQ page the moment I walk in. We are a foreign company here, everything is result-oriented, and hard work does not count points. But I still advise you to work harder, and you can see where a person's time is spent. Don't follow those old men and little men to complain about society, you can't change society, and you can't choose a new father, right? The only thing you can change is yourself.

But you're not really that bad. How, do you feel this way? Oh, sorry, that might have been intentional on my part. In fact, when you explain your new model in a meeting with a trembling voice, the dead silence in the conference room represents not disdain, but shock. Because the back waves of the Yangtze River push the front waves, we feel life together and are afraid of dying on the beach. So of course we can't let you find out we're being pushed.

Now, let's talk about love. Since we're all heterosexual, let's just call it a man. When I was twenty-three years old, I mistakenly fell in love with an unworthy man, which led to my breakup with my now-husband, then-boyfriend. Luckily, I had another chance to turn back.

And you, dear little girl, I have to say, you are clearly in a wrong love. I know this from the number of times you come to work with red eyes.

Yes, it doesn't matter, every girl's twenty-three years old is simply a waste if it is not wasted in the wrong love. After a while, you will definitely understand like me back then: love, in the final analysis, is for happiness. Although there is a popular word called "sadomasochism" now, life is not a TV series, and you can't get paid if you blindly entangle with Mr. Wrong.

In fact, most men don't understand that although there have been nonsense such as "men are not bad, women are not loved" since ancient times, but pickling girls still has to rely on sincerity. The structure of a woman's mind is as follows: the outermost layer belongs to the heartfelt impulse brought to us by hopeless seekers; The middle layer belongs to the bad men who will break our hearts; But the deepest and most precious corner of the soul will always belong to the man who can make you truly feel loved.

Am I right? Feel your current boyfriend carefully, he has broken your heart many times, but while you are crying, you faintly feel that he has not touched the depths of your heart, the most delicate and sensitive place. Don't doubt it, you deserve better. If you are compared to Ikra in "Avatar", he has never completed the "connection" at all.

Finally, there is money. Congratulations, you're starting to realize the importance of money! Please be very clear about this: life is not harsh until you graduate from college, but it is your parents who are paying the bills for you. And now, you have entered society, and you consciously regard many desires as your responsibility.

You graduated from a nice university, a nice major, you are articulate, you are good-looking, thank goodness you still have big breasts! I think you can really be considered a very lucky girl, don't you think? Actually, I think I'm very lucky to be able to hire you at such a salary, but of course I won't tell you. Wait until the day you find out for yourself, and I'll give you a little more salary.

You are so lucky, but you envy my house, my car, my diamond stud earrings. I don't even know what you're envencing. The years I have will bring you with me, and I will never go back to what you have. You really don't need to feel upset that your clothes aren't as good as others, your bags aren't brand-name, or your savings are less than five figures. For each and every one of us has come this way, and there is nothing more justified than poverty at the age of twenty-three.

On the contrary, you don't know how beautiful it is to have a little sweat on your young skin in the eyes of us old guys.

I'm not saying I envy you, because my own twenty years old is dazzling enough. Actually, I like who I am now. I love myself at every stage. There are often female celebrities on TV who say this when they are interviewed, don't doubt it, it's true. When I was in my twenties like you, I was like a short-sighted person without glasses, the world was chaotic before my eyes, and the only thing that was clear was my youthful and beautiful body.

But now, the world is clear to me. The road in front of me, the people in front of me, and of course you.

As I write this, I suddenly realize that if I had the chance to go back ten years, I wouldn't change a single thing, because I can't bear the memories that every choice brings me, even if it's not entirely good.

So, dear little girl, although life is dark and the wind is cold for you today, maybe drinking cold water will stuff your teeth. However, I would love to let you know. Everything will eventually turn into a knowing smile. Please enjoy your twenty-three years old, work hard and effortlessly, and wait for the years to reveal the answer for you.

You see, life always surprises us. One of your cries in the bathroom made your boss, the old woman, understand herself at the age of twenty-three. For that, I want to thank you. At the same time, it was decided that I would only save this letter on my computer's hard drive. Because you, dear stranger, have the right to grow in your own way.