Showing satisfaction with an existing relationship means giving up the relationship with the ideal initial lover. Type 4 people should learn to be satisfied with their existing lives and notice the difference between their true feelings and their strong emotions. When their habits change, they may find themselves experiencing the following reactions:

★ I tried all kinds of solutions to the problems in front of me and tried all kinds of ways to solve them, but I was unwilling to take substantive actions to move things forward.

★ I don't like to be categorized, I don't like people to see their problems as ordinary problems. Believing that others do not understand the uniqueness and gravity of the situation.

★ Hope for a panacea for the problem. In the process of meditation, hope is "taken elsewhere".

★ Tired of bland ordinary emotions. Wanting to re-solidify one's emotions through loss, fantasy, or art.

★ Always with regrets. "It's too late to change" or "It would be nice if I had chosen a different approach".

★ Suicidal thoughts or actions. Hungry for help. "If only they could understand my feelings" or "I'm gone, they'll know what I'm suffering" are special considerations.

★ Desire for a life of luxury. "I'm not supposed to do the laundry."

★ Compare yourself to others and be jealous of the good in others. "She's prettier than me." "He's better dressed than I am."

★ Temptation and rejection. Find out the flaws of the other person before they reject you.

★ Strong self-criticism. I have a wrong judgment about my own image and feel that there is no merit. I always feel that I am too fat, and I often have symptoms of anorexia or hunger.

★ Sharp language, sarcastic to others. Feel that someone else's fault is causing your pain.

★ Seek advice from others and then refuse to adopt. Reluctance to give up the image of the victim.



Isolated from the world and free from emotional problems.

While others are actively engaged, they are like bystanders, indifferent.

Personality 5 is like a fortified castle inside, with only a few tiny windows open at the top. The owner of the castle rarely left, always hiding behind the high walls of the fortified city, secretly watching those who came to knock on the door.

Type 5 people feel that they have been violated as children; Cracks appeared in the walls of the castle and their privacy was stolen. Their defensive strategy is to retreat, minimize contact, minimize their needs, and try to protect their personal space.

Type 5 people say that they have invented many ways to maintain a safe distance between themselves and others, because if they get too close to others, they lose their primary protective ability. The outside world is full of danger and aggression, and they are reluctant to go outside, preferring to stay in their castle, even if nothing is found.

An observer can become a hermit. They live a spiritual life of seclusion, locking themselves in a small room and going anywhere except the library and the seaside. Of course, they can also interact with society, but often from a distance and remotely. They ask others to complete positive contact with society and then report back to them over the phone. When personality number 5 is in a public place, they hide their true selves and minimize their feelings.

Number 5 always avoids contact with society, they prefer a state of non-interference, non-involvement, and non-involvement. Financial transactions are dangerous in their eyes. Responsibility is compulsive. Anger and competition need to be controlled. Emotional relationships are a drag.

Number 5 can also feel pressure from the positive expectations of others. For them, safe distancing means "not being included", and unless they are given intimacy that guarantees their independence, they will find ways to escape or isolate that intimacy from their lives.

Type 5 people are particularly sensitive to the contact that puts them in plain sight. Recommending oneself to others, competing with others, or showing love or hatred to others can make them feel controlled by others. Number 5 always stays away from activities that are subject to judgment by others. They will give themselves habitual self-protection, creating a sense of superiority for themselves that they are superior to those who seek recognition and success. They believe that lust and strong emotions represent a weakening of self-control. They feel a sense of accomplishment when they see how easily they are able to say no to those needs that dominate the lives of others.

That's right, that's what they are. They are very independent. They are able to live happily alone. They have few needs, they find great pleasure in their spiritual life, and they don't waste time and energy on trivial matters. What makes them so independent is that they are able to distract themselves from their emotions and instincts and force themselves to live in their own minds.

Loneliness is the basis for them to gain a rich personal life.

When the 5 becomes isolated and untouchable, their favorite intimacy becomes solitude. When the desire for contact is awakened, Number 5 will find it difficult to get close to others, and they will often stand there and watch their lives pass by.

They live in a state of inadequacy because they believe that "independence" is more important than satisfaction. They are always reminded that their desires may lead them to contact others. They have an empty heart and nothing to ask for, and they rely on what they already have – souvenirs to fill space and some precious ideas to fill their hearts.

"When I have a desire, it's like being hungry at a table of feasts, and I crave the affection that others have. But my hand was stretched out, but I couldn't get food, and I couldn't take it back. I'm just frozen there. "Personality 5 people who are detached from their emotions and crave connection will spend a lot of time and energy hoping to establish a spiritual connection with their nature. They will look for this connection through special knowledge.

Observers are particularly interested in those esoteric sciences, especially systematic knowledge that can explain human behavior. By mastering a systematic discipline, such as mathematics and psychoanalysis

Li Hailin spends his energy in the pursuit of worldly things. If they inherit a large fortune, they will save it and continue to live an independent and frugal life. If they were born with little money, they would not work for others in order to earn money. Number 5 will devote all of his time and energy to spiritual study and pursuit.

Type 5 people say that their feelings are more abundant when no one is around. If there are other people in the room, it will be difficult for them to show their true selves. Loneliness is the basis for them to gain a rich personal life. They say that they