They have a unique sense of perseverance, a willingness to help others through intense emotional trauma, and a willingness to stay with their friends for long periods of time to help them heal.

Personality number 4 says that when their attention is focused on the needs of others, they will not notice their desires.

Grief and abandonment are the main themes in my life, but I don't feel depressed because of them. I am interested in these dark emotions, which also allows me to feel the shadows in the hearts of others. Whenever something dramatic, dangerous, or very disturbing happens to the people around me, I will immediately be there for them.

My husband has an assistant who has been working for him for several years and I was nice to the girl but never wanted to get to know her. Suddenly, one day, I heard that she was 5 months pregnant when she divorced. Because of this news, she suddenly became the focus of my attention. My troubles are often the dullness of life, rather than the things that really bother me.

The quest for deeper meaning often leads Number 4 to mistakenly believe that lightheartedness and happiness are mere passing moments, insignificant and unworthy of consideration. They prefer to pay attention to those who are in the midst of great changes in their lives, and they feel that only this sense of life and death can give them a more real feeling. The following statement comes from a suicide helpline organizer:

Happiness is occasional. Do moths feel happy because of fire? I'm a counselor myself. I feel like I only exist in my deepest emotions. As a counsellor, I am willing to help those in crisis. I started a psychological hotline where I could immediately resonate with strangers when they called me and told me they were holding a revolver or a bottle of sleeping pills.

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Personality No. 4 is well-versed in metaphysics and can become philosophers with deep thoughts, and they seek the higher realms of their hearts. They can thus become grief counsellors, feminists, and animal rights protectors. They were always interested in religion, rituals, and the arts.



。 They say that they will be attracted to someone who can't get it, but will immediately understand that this person is not for them. So they started to dance. "You take a step back, I take a step forward. If you go further, I'll take a step back. ”

Balance is the solution to help them eliminate jealousy and resolve conflicts. Balance dissolves their possessiveness of what they can't get, their boredom with reality. Balance is about recognizing what you really have. As with all high-level touches, balance is more of an expression than a thought, or an idea that exists only within the heart. Balance requires focusing on the present and feeling fulfilled from what you have.

To develop the virtue of composure, one needs to strengthen one's self-observation skills and feel the change in attention. If personality type 4 can detect it in time, return to reality, and feel the satisfaction in front of them when their attention becomes ethereal, they will experience the state of calmness.

So they are always in a competitive position to drive their opponents away. In a relationship, this rivalry is always manifested in two women competing for a man, or two men pursuing the same woman. In non-romantic relationships, competition manifests itself as "striving to gain someone's respect."

I had been a trial advocate for 6 years before my career took off. One day, I overheard a phrase in court. There's a guy behind his back who says I'm just a very ordinary defender. This sentence deeply angered me, and I decided to do better. Defending used to be my job, but now it's a test of my ability. I waited in court for months before finally running into that guy again and impressing him with me.

Social Connections: Shame

Type 4 people are ashamed of not meeting the group's standards.

When you walk into the room, it feels like all eyes are on you. Those gazes are not friendly. It's not because you've done anything wrong, it's because they're able to see that you're not right in your bones.

Self-Protection: Fearless (Reckless)

Type 4 people tend to act recklessly, they are willing to accept the possibility of failure, and they like to feel adventurous.

I followed my husband in the real estate industry for several years. My approach is to mortgage everything I can and expand our business as much as possible. He was cautious, and when he thought about security, I always wanted to throw those papers aside and not think about his ideas, because I felt that great opportunities were slipping away from under our noses, and even if the risk failed, it would be worth it, especially if there was a road to the mountain.

When things or start looking for shortcomings in things that they already have, the tragic romantics need to notice this change and adjust their mentality in time. Type 4 personality can help themselves in the following ways:

★ Acknowledging that your early deficiencies are true; After grief, put it aside.

★ Notice that when a strong emotional change occurs, you are fully engaged in it. Shift your focus to something else and free yourself from that focus.

★ Make it a habit to start and finish well. Treat destroyed or abandoned work as if it were unfinished work.

★ Discover those qualities in you that others would envy.

★ Instead of deliberately pursuing happiness, it is better to accept sadness calmly. Know that such emotions will pass.

★ Let others know that you will be attacked if you are too close, and ask them not to get me wrong. Tell others not to leave when you're angry, so you can be confident that they won't abandon you even if they're attacked.

★ Be proud of your ability to perceive the pain of others, but learn to use your attention freely.

★ Keep your attention in front of you. When your attention shifts, remind yourself. Don't just focus on the negatives in front of you.

★ Cultivate diverse interests, make various friends, and distract yourself from depression.

★ Regulate your mood through physical exercises.

★ Be aware of this when real feelings are masked by strong emotions, especially when you feel that "everything is going to get bad again."

To show satisfaction with an existing relationship means to give up the relationship with the ideal initial lover.



No, just take the enzyme in this life, don't return the urgent telegram of the call, you can't think of it, you have to have it, you have to do