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Under normal circumstances, the market will maintain its healthy operation with its built-in mechanism. It is mainly based on the principle of rationality of homo economicus in market economic activities, and the rational choice governed by the rationality principle of homo economicus. These choices have gradually formed the price mechanism, the supply and demand mechanism, and the competition mechanism in the market economy. These mechanisms are like an invisible hand, which dominates everyone in the dark, consciously operating in accordance with the laws of the market.

Readers, I don't know if you have noticed such a phenomenon: the friends of doctors are usually doctors; Friends of taxi drivers, who are usually taxi drivers as well; Millionaire friends are usually millionaires as well; The people who are the bosses, their friends are usually the bosses too. Because people inherently influence each other, especially the contagion of words and thoughts is extremely amazing.

Why do you smoke? Because your friend gives you cigarettes to smoke; Why do you love to play cards? Because your friends often ask you to play cards; Why did you buy a Mercedes Benz? Because your company's supervisor or colleague also buys a Mercedes; Why did you go for an MBA? Because your siblings or friends are also doing MBA; Why do you aspire to a million or tens of millions of dollars a year? Because you see people around you who do the same job as you, but have such dazzling results.

When everyone finished discussing the "financial situation of the 10 closest friends to everyone", Robert said: "If you want to improve your financial situation, you should do a review at least once a year, and rewrite the list of your 10 closest friends every other year, because how much time to spend with others is up to everyone, but everyone's friends are also chosen by themselves, think about it, if you have 10 friends around you, they are either worth hundreds of millions or tens of millions, then after 5 years, What will your net worth be? ”

You may ask: "I'm so unattractive, I'm just a small character, why do those billionaires who are worth tens of millions or billions have a relationship with me?" "Yes, most people are not used to being around people who are more successful or richer than him. But if you want to change your financial situation, then you will find a way to make more friends with people who can make money and plan their finances, usually an entrepreneur or billionaire they want to make the most friends, in addition to other entrepreneurs, are lawyers and accountants or financial advisors, or doctors, because rich people will like to be around knowledgeable and professional people, because then rich people will become knowledgeable, and knowledgeable people will become rich.

Guinness World Sales Champion holder Joe Girard said: Everyone will have about 250 friends in their life, they appear on two occasions, one is your wedding, the other is your funeral, and 80% of these friends are not helpful to you, they usually do not give you a positive, positive influence, when you are eager to make a difference, they usually pour cold water on you, tell you all kinds of bad things and all kinds of failures. There are 20% of friends who are more positive and will give you a positive influence, and only 5% of friends will really help you, significant and can change your life, so you should not be the same in choosing friends, you should spend 80% of your time with those 5% of friends. An important friend will change your life. Take the time to find your noble person and follow him.

Robert, author of the global bestseller Rich Dad, Poor Dad, has run a money management course in Singapore. Robert's first class was impressive.

Robert asked each person to write down 10 of their closest friends, and asked everyone to write down everything they knew in detail, including: the size of their company, their financial situation, whether they have a house, a car, etc. More than 300 students present began to write their homework seriously, and finally finished writing all the information of these 10 close people, Robert asked, "Now everyone knows why, right?" ”

Puzzled by what he meant, Robert continued, "Do you find that you are in the same financial situation as the person you write about?" It was only then that everyone suddenly realized that this was indeed the case! For a person with assets of 500,000, his friends are also about 500,000; A man with 5 houses, he and his friends also have about 5 houses; And the person who uses the revolving interest on his credit card, almost all of his friends are on the verge of debt. Then Robert asked everyone to discuss what he had just written in groups, and it turned out that the first important concept he wanted to convey was an important ancient Chinese thought: "Things gather by like, people by groups, those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black." ”

From the above short stories, we can see what kind of friends we should make in the struggle of life. We make friends like falling in love or reading a book, it is also a kind of investment. Since it is an investment, it needs to have a certain amount of return.

In our career, we need friends who are stronger than us in terms of status, ability or knowledge, because only such friends can help us move faster to the road of career success and bring us greater benefits. But in our lives, we also need sincere friends, and perhaps someone's sincere friends are inferior to him in ability, status, and knowledge, or are inferior to him; Many, he can't help him in his career, but, when we are in danger, when we are down, only sincere friends can stick in the ribs)), save us from danger. Making this kind of friend is less invested and can greatly reduce our sunk costs during critical periods.

There are many friends who have helped us in our career and life. For example, from primary school, middle school, university, to graduate school, those classmates will be distributed to all walks of life after joining the work, and many of these classmates can become our friends, because the relationship between classmates in school is very pure. Perhaps, at a critical time, our old classmates will be of great help and promotion to our career and life.

Therefore, no matter how long we have been separated from our past classmates, we should cherish that rare fate. After we decided on our own career, I beg; We should make friends who will help us in our career according to our profession, because these friends can provide him with a lot of information that is beneficial to his career. With these foundations, there are more opportunities for advancement within the industry. In short, we should make friends based on things and life, and we should make friends who are conducive to our career and life success.

Different friends have different advantages and strengths, and when we get along with different friends, we can learn their strengths and: strengths, supplement their knowledge and ability deficiencies, and save their own learning time. A friend can in turn introduce his friends to us, thus expanding our social circle. Friends can help each other and give us more opportunities to get rich. The help of friends can reduce our risks, reduce our costs, save our time, improve our learning and work efficiency, give us more opportunities for work or promotion, and soothe our wounded hearts. People are profit-seeking, and we make friends to maximize our own interests, and all these friends who can help us in all aspects of our study, work and life should be made.

In interpersonal interactions, many people have a preference of one kind or another, that is, to judge a person by their own set of pre-set criteria, and to decide whether to make friends with him or not. However, subjective judgment often produces errors, especially the misleading "halo effect", that is, under the beautiful aura of a friend, only his strengths are seen, and his shortcomings are not seen. The photobad effect has a certain negative effect, and under this psychological effect, it is easy to be exploited. Therefore, we must learn to evaluate others objectively and evaluate friends rationally. In other words, when making friends, we should try to avoid incomplete information misleading our subjective judgment. Because, under the condition of incomplete information, we ourselves are in a disadvantageous position, and our interests are easily lost. But this is not to say that we look at people with colored glasses, be critical of our friends, or be reluctant to make friends for fear of being deceived by others. Instead, we should be more rational when making friends with each other, not be rash, see both the advantages and shortcomings of our friends, try to avoid the losses caused by their shortcomings, and carry forward their advantages. In this way, you can minimize the risks associated with making friends yourself.