Rejection is a common phenomenon, but how to refuse without embarrassing people and give people a step down is a certain skill.

Here are a few ways to say no that are just right and not rude:

In the most friendly and enthusiastic way possible, he refuses to allow a young writer to make friends with a professor at a certain university, with a view to working together in literary and artistic creation and theoretical research in the future. The writer said enthusiastically: "At 6 o'clock tonight, I would like to invite you to dinner at the Haitianlou restaurant, and we will have a good get-together, would you like to?" As it happens, the professor is busy preparing for next week's presentation, and he really can't find time. So, he smiled affectionately and said apologetically: "I am very honored to invite you, but I am busy preparing the speech, and I really can't get out, I am very sorry!" His refusal was polite and pleasant, but so crisp.

Avoid targeting just one person

A salesman at a paper mill went to a university to sell paper, and the salesman approached the general affairs director of the university, whom he was familiar with, and begged him to place an order. The director of general affairs said politely: "I'm really sorry, our school has signed a long-term purchase contract with a certain national construction paper mill, and the school has stipulated that it will not buy paper from any other unit. I should do the same. "Because the director of general affairs is talking about any unit, not just this paper mill.

Let the other person understand that you are sympathetic to him

Ms. Huang works as a conductor in the civil aviation ticket office, due to the development of the economy, the number of passengers taking the plane is increasing day by day, Ms. Huang often has to refuse many passengers' booking requests, Ms. Huang always with a very sympathetic mood to the passengers said: "I know that you need to fly very much, emotionally I am also very willing to serve you, so that you can get your wish, but the tickets have been booked, there is really nothing I can do." You are welcome to come back next time you fly with us. Ms. Huang's words made the passengers no longer able to raise opinions.

For a difficult and troublesome opponent, you may wish to deliberately forget his name, suggesting that you call him by name, indicating the closeness of the relationship between the two parties and the degree of respect for the other person's personality. If the two parties have met, but the other party has no impression of their own name at all, it indicates that the other party has not taken themselves seriously at all.

If you don't want to agree to the other party's request, but the other party is begging for nothing, and you don't care too much about politeness. It's okay to deliberately pretend not to know the other person's name, implying that his affairs, including him, are not important to you. It is a practical psychological technique to deliberately ask, "Ah, I forgot, what's your name?" "But be careful with your use, this kind of questioning will definitely give the other party a considerable blow.