When we meet people who are not convinced, reason can not be done, when the move is emotional, with affection, with affection, with affection, it is easy to conquer people's hearts.

People often make the mistake of thinking that the other person is a friend, relative, or acquaintance, and that they take it for granted that they are doing things for you and helping them! No need to thank you.

You squeeze the bus to work, and someone else gives up their seat. For example, if you go shopping on the street and have insufficient money, an acquaintance will give you a ...... There is no need to give gifts or feasts in return for this kind of communication, a word of gratitude, a word of praise, is enough to express your wishes. But be careful not to have too many compliments. Sensual compliments can only make people uncomfortable.

Thank-you must come from the heart, and whether the person is a stranger or a friend or relative, it must be expressed, which many people overlook. In fact, whether it is a general relationship or a relative or friend, they are willing to hear words of gratitude, although their contribution is insignificant, but the beneficiary's hot and appropriate words are undoubtedly a kind of psychological compensation for them.

Young worker Xiao Liu away from his family to work outside, once he asked the workshop director Lao Zhang's lover to knit a sweater, the style is novel, the handiwork is fine, he came to the door to praise Lao Zhang's good fortune, and then he praised Mrs. Zhang's good craftsmanship. Xiao Liu's language return is undoubtedly decent. indirectly praised Lao Zhang's good fortune, but actually said that Mrs. Zhang was virtuous and capable, and said a few words inside and outside that Lao Zhang's heart was warm, and he said that Xiao Liu was sensible behind his back.

It is also a way to give material rewards to those who are enthusiastic about helping each other. Although material communication is not the main way of interpersonal communication, it exists in real life after all. We advocate the dilution of material exchanges, not to cancel material exchanges, but to make such exchanges more true and less coppery.

Sometimes the right amount of material reward is a special need for cultivating good relationships. For example, if someone has selflessly helped you many times, and one day when he is sick and hospitalized, you bring a gift to visit, which is undoubtedly a great comfort to him. In short, material rewards should follow the principle of moderation, and the appropriate amount of "reciprocity is more important than coming". But don't give bribes in the name of reciprocating for utilitarian purposes.

When verbal rewards are not enough to express one's intentions and material rewards are out of place, behavioral rewards can be a decent way to reciprocate. Xiao Wang, a cadre in a certain unit, had an unfortunate death of his father when he was a child, and it was his uncle in the city who provided him with high school and college. Recently, his uncle has been frail and sickly, and Xiao Wang often uses his free time to help his uncle with housework. He also often took advantage of the opportunity to go to the countryside to seek medical treatment and medicine. Uncle listens in his ears, sees in his eyes, and rejoices in his heart.

Behavioral rewards are not as pleasant and conspicuous as verbal and material rewards, but they are priceless. See the truth in the subtleties, and good actions don't need to be proven in words. When a young man with real talent and practical learning is finally hired by a wise "boss" after experiencing setbacks when looking for a job, the best reward is not good words or generous gifts, but hard work.

A Greek philosopher once said, "Gratitude is a virtue that ultimately brings benefits." "Men who are good at asking for help often have words of thanks, because it often becomes the lubricant for human interaction, and business goes smoothly because of it.

In fact, there's no one who doesn't like to hear words of thanks all the time. Therefore, the word "thank you" needs to come in handy at all times, and there is no simpler and easier to use than this.

So, how do you say thank you? Expressing gratitude can be said in many ways. However, no matter how it is dressed, such as flowers, lunch, return, or other means, the word, or a variation of it, must be said or written. Here are some ways to spread this obscure but absolutely important message:

Say how you feel. Tell her that what she has done for you is important to you and in what way she has helped you: "I really appreciate the help you gave me in programming that computer program, which saved me at least three hours of work." ”

Give praise. Let him know that what you think he did for you is special and worthy of recognition: "Thank you for the coffee!" It's rare to see a boss as considerate as you. ”

Tell the person that you thank him for what he has done for you, and that you are ready to repay the kindness: "I appreciate that you can call me back during meetings, and please call me whenever it is useful to me in the future!" ”

Write it down. Saying thank you is useful, but writing it down is even better. Write a note to express your gratitude.

Make a phone call to show appreciation. "I'm just making this call to thank you for ......"

(6) Give a gift. Send a gift and include a note. As long as the gift you give is a very appropriate expression of your appreciation, anything will do.

Convey gratitude through others. Tell someone how much you appreciate what he has done for you. In the end, these words will surely reach the ears of those who have given you help: "What a good man this man is! He helped me arrange that meeting. I don't know what I would have done without his help. "When your thanks reach someone's ears through their mouths, it adds a lot of color.

(8) Take the initiative to help. Be with them and offer to help them in their work. "I'll do it for you. You're welcome, you've helped me too many times. ”

(9) Treat yourself to dinner. When you invite this person to a Chinese dinner, be sure to show that you are thanking him for his help. If you are inviting a married person, you should invite his spouse as well.