Achieve the goal of conquering people's hearts

As the saying goes: "Know yourself and know your opponent, you will not be defeated in a hundred battles", this chapter will discuss with you the trick of not missing a bullet, understand that the other side should not only observe silently, but also should take certain active reconnaissance countermeasures to stimulate the other party's emotions, in order to quickly and accurately grasp the other party's ideological context and dynamics, so as to follow its train of thought to guide, such a way is easy to succeed.

There are often people in life who close their doors for one reason or another, and there are people who have to knock on their doors for one reason or another. How can you successfully knock on the door of the "thank you"?

For those who are immersed in doing things - hard and soft, feel "sincere"

People who are immersed in doing things are often people who are very ambitious or interested in something, and once they start doing things, they are fully engaged and do not want to see others again. This kind of person often cherishes time like gold, loves time like life, and is ruthless. To knock on the door of such a person, first of all, do not be afraid to touch the "nail", but also have enough patience, and be good at distinguishing between different situations or hard winding or soft grinding, until the goal is achieved.

It was with the soft grinding method that Picasso's son, Claude the Younger, knocked on his mother's door, who was immersed in painting.

His mother, Françoise Gillott, was a fond of painting and could not be disturbed as soon as she entered the studio. Once when she was painting, her son wanted his mother to take him to play, so he knocked on the door, but Gilot had already devoted himself to painting, and when he heard the knock on the door and his son's shout, he only responded with a "fuzz" and still buried himself in painting. After a pause, before the door opened, the son said, "Mom, I love you." The response was "I love you too, my darling." "The door still hasn't opened. The son said, "I like your paintings, Mom." ”

Gilot was delighted, and she replied, "Thank you!" My heart, you are such a little angel. "But I still won't open the door. The son said, "Mom, you are so beautiful. Gilot stopped writing, but did not speak or move. The son said, "Mom, you draw better than Dad." ”

Of course, Gilot's painting was no better than that of her husband, Picasso, but her son's words spoke to her heart, and she also felt his son's urgency from his exaggerated evaluation, so she finally opened the door.

For those who are pretentious - good at performance, feeling "talent"

The self-proclaimed nobles are often the self-righteous inkmen or the frustrated literati, or those who are pretentious and see through the red dust. This kind of people generally have a higher level of culture, they do not want to associate with ordinary people, but they want to make friends with talented people, so the most effective way to successfully knock on the door of this kind of people is to be good at expressing themselves, trying to show their talents, because they love "talent" will open their own door.

When he was a student, he dressed up as a Huazi and walked to study the society, and Mao ** often used this method when he visited this kind of person.

In Anhua County, he went to visit Xia Mo'an, the director of the county school institute. Xia Zeng studied at the Lianghu Academy in the former Qing Dynasty, and Mao ** was promoted twice, but Xia refused to see him.

When Mao ** visited again, he gave Mao ** a pair of upper couplets, and asked Mao ** to make a lower couplet. The upper link is: "The sound of birds on the green poplar school, spring is coming, spring is going?" Mao ** thought about it for a while, and then came up with the following couplet: "The frog sentence in the grass pond is for the public and the private?" Xia Lian applauded, and was ashamed of himself, and then warmly received Mao **, and gave him 8 silver dollars for the journey.

It was also during this expedition that Mao ** went to pay homage to an old Hanlin surnamed Liu who lived in seclusion in the mountains, and he first presented a poem: "The name of the county over the mountains and rivers, the bamboo cane and grass paramecium to pay homage to the scholars." On the way, I saw white clouds like a crystal sea, soaked in clothes and morning dew. The first two lines of the poem describe the long journey to visit the noble land, the third line alludes to Liu's ability to escape from the entanglement of mundane affairs and live a secluded life in the mountains, and the last line describes his current state of starvation, and also hints at the purpose of visiting him.

When Liu Hanlin saw the poems on the letter, he appreciated his talent very much, not only warmly received him, but also gave him a lot of silver. Mao ** successfully achieved his goal by showing his talents.