In our daily work and life, we hear from time to time that some employees say how disgusted he is with a certain boss, "I just hate it to death". Where does this "nasty" come from? There are several reasons for this:

First, it is because some subordinates find it difficult to adapt to the work methods and reform measures of the leaders, or they miss the old leaders and "use the past to satirize the present."

The second is psychological, there is no specific reason, anyway, as soon as I see the leader's face, I am inexplicably disgusted.

Another point is probably the reason for the leader's work style and behavior.

Either way, "hating" is bad for leadership, and even if it doesn't hurt the nerves, it also restricts the leader's energy and separates him from the group. So, as a leader, how do you deal with these subordinates who hate you?

Dredge the "tired knot" in time. When you find that a subordinate is disgusted with you, first calm down and do a deep self-examination, and then study the subordinates' factors to figure out why he or she hates you. Then, carefully choose a time to engage in heart-to-heart communication with them. Those who should be self-critical should be self-criticized, and those who should be persuaded and persuaded should be persuaded and persuaded. Of course, you can also turn to the "third party" admired, trusted, or close to this subordinate to "tackle key problems". However, no matter which channel is passed, we must abide by the principle of knowing with reason, moving with emotion, guiding with action, and convincing people with reason, communicate relationships, and eliminate "disgusted knots". And communication should be appropriate in a personal conversation, in an equal manner.

Make the most of it. Nowadays, the haters are mostly because their talents are not brought into play, and they hate their bosses because they don't meet their talents, and after the leader understands the facts, he or she must give full play to his strengths and exert his abilities, so that he (she) can better contribute to the unit.

My colleague Xiao Li graduated from a prestigious university and published many articles during his college years. I thought that I was "not worried about getting married" and didn't want to get to the unit, but for some reason, I was assigned to the archives to manage the archives for a while. He complained a lot about it and hated the leader very much. After the leaders concerned learned the details, they transferred him to the Political Secretariat to take charge of secretarial work. Since then, he has worked hard, his mood has stretched, and his attitude towards leadership has also taken a 180-degree turn.

Take responsibility and give way to reputation. In a sense, the courage of leaders to take responsibility (not a big problem in principle) and the courage to pass away honor is the most effective strategy to eliminate the disgust of subordinates. It can be said that many leaders have failed in this regard. Taking responsibility and giving honor is enough to show the noble character and broad-mindedness of the leader, and win the respect and goodwill of his subordinates.

Take the initiative to help subordinates. As the saying goes: People are not plants and trees, who can be ruthless? In times of crisis, if you get the support and rescue of others, and send charcoal in the snow, this friendship will be preserved forever, and if there is a wide heaven and a wide sea, it will be resolved. For subordinates who hate you, you might as well give more careful and meticulous care in work and life, and take the initiative to help him solve difficulties. Use your true feelings to influence him and relieve his disgust with you.

Respect their self-esteem. In reality, there is no shortage of such strange phenomena, and some subordinates who are helped sometimes want to escape from the leader. Why is that? Because their self-esteem is tormented when they are helped by their leaders. In other words, when you receive sincere help from your boss, you also hope that you can reciprocate and help the leader in something, but this idea is often difficult to achieve, so there is not much chance of turning around. Besides, some people still think that you are "ingratiating" him and "underestimating" him. Literate leaders deliberately give their subordinates an opportunity or excuse to "help".

A manager of a construction company suddenly noticed that a staff member he had helped many times had a cold relationship with him for some reason. This time, that's how he handled it. Since the clerk was an engineer, he went to him to review a plan for a new plumbing installation, and asked him to make some changes, and the engineer accepted the plumbing drawing, and to his surprise he worked diligently, and immediately made many practical suggestions, and returned the drawing to the manager. Since then, their relationship has gradually improved.

Of course, for subordinates who hate you, there are far more ways to socialize than these. But no matter which method you use, you must put down your official shelf, be sincere, attack your heart with skill, and do it according to the person.