The four rays of light gradually converged in the nine heavens, and then flashed down, turning into divine light, and appeared in front of Yingsheng, which was the four saints of "Yuan Zhen Liheng".

"I'm really convinced of you, the four battles are still at a disadvantage, and even the Holy Heaven can't help you. Hengtong said with a smile.

Their faces were slightly pale, but they were in good spirits, and it was estimated that their injuries were much better.

"It's time to join forces and break through the fog of the five-colored sky. "The sword is a serious way.

"That competitive heart is still playing tricks, meddler. "Feng Tai and the point of the word.

Isn't it true that cultivators are the most taboo in their desire to win?

Competitiveness is a double-edged sword, including the psychological qualities of daring to compete, striving to win, and being positive. It is the driving force for progress.

But once a person has a competitive spirit, he will constantly adjust himself to the best competitive state, and make progress in this continuous adjustment process.

At the same time, through this competitive spirit, they can promote their all-round progress and all-round development.

However, a strong sense of competitiveness is often eager to win, and once a defeat cannot be won, it will not be able to bear the psychological pressure brought by failure, resulting in various problems.

This will make it difficult for people to bear setbacks, once they lose to others, they are easy to be depressed and decadent, it is difficult to look at problems objectively and learn lessons, and once they have achieved advantages, they are easy to be complacent, blindly confident, and difficult to achieve great achievements.

Competitiveness is also a breeding ground for selfishness, jealousy, vanity, and narrow-mindedness.

Therefore, it is particularly important to take a correct view of winning and losing, avoid extreme thoughts, correctly view the relationship between yourself and others, encourage yourself not to be afraid of losing, to hone more, and importantly, to sum up lessons after failure.

The true wisdom of knowing how to behave in the world is: the superior people know the strong and defend the weak, and the inferior people are competitive and competitive.

In heaven and earth, many people are very competitive, which is a good thing to some extent, indicating that they have the desire not to admit defeat in their hearts and have a positive attitude.

However, it is one thing to have the spirit of not admitting defeat in your heart, and it is another thing to be competitive and win or lose everything.

It is common for people to have conflicts of opinion in the process of conversation.

But a competitive person will argue endlessly because of the difference in opinion from others, and will not stop until the other person is speechless.

The same is true between husband and wife.

If the competitive party quarrels with the other party, it often refuses to give an inch, and uses all means to blame the other party's mistakes, until the other party bows his head and admits his mistakes.

It is also evident between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The scheming side will often cause trouble for the other side, and once a dispute occurs, it will often cry, make trouble, and hang itself until it unites all forces to make the other side succumb, and then refuses to make a truce.

If a person is in a competitive state for a long time and often wins, there must be a crisis in it.

Friends argue that one side wins for a while but may lose the favor of friends and others from then on, that one spouse wins in front of him but that in a few days the other half may return the favor in other things, and that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seem to win but the loser holds his breath and may complain in front of his son or husband, leading to a larger war.

Competitiveness in everything is a manifestation of low emotional intelligence, and people with great wisdom know that they must know the strong and defend the weak, that is, they know the right, the strong, and the masculine, but they are willing to be in a weak position.

This is the competitiveness of inferior people.

As for the superior people, they know the strong and defend the weak, that is: the movement of the opposite way, and the use of the weak way.

The true Tao is cyclical, and the true Tao is embodied in weakness.

In short, the true Tao is in flux, and the Tao works in the weakest way.

Change and movement are the laws of the world, spring, summer, autumn and winter are constantly changing, yin and yang are constantly changing, and everything is interchangeable.

Therefore, when it is strong to a certain extent, it is the starting point of weakness, and when it is weak to a certain level, it is the beginning of being strong.

In the world, if people are competitive all the time, they are not far from failure, and maybe in the hearts of others, you will lose a mess.

Therefore, people must know how to guard against the weak. The weaker you are, the more you can bear, and the weaker you are, the more you can survive.

Guarding the weak can preserve vitality and accumulate energy.

There is nothing weaker in the world than water, anything can change the shape and direction of water, in a round utensil, it is a circle, in a square cup, it is a square, it seems to have no opinion, it is weak.

But once the timing is right and the energy is enough, nothing can stop it.

In fact, many people who are in a weak position do not understand the principle of being weak.

When people are in a weak position, if they don't know how to accumulate energy, they are in a hurry and blindly become bigger, and their momentum often decays and perishes ahead of schedule.

During the fight, the swordsman was knocked to the ground by a heavy punch from the opponent, and usually lay down until the end of a few seconds before getting up.

Because if you get up immediately, it is often easy to continue to suffer fatal blows and lose directly.

Therefore, martial arts masters know how to defend their weaknesses when they are at their weakest, accumulate energy, and then get up and fight back, which can often turn things around.

So, how to defend the weak?

Great wisdom people are often able to recognize their own shortcomings and perceive potential crises in the future when they are gaining power, and when they are frustrated, they can persevere, accumulate energy, and wait for opportunities to come.

He knows how to defend the weak.

Start with small things, and accumulate strength when the opponent is strong, so that you can wait for the opportunity to move, defeat the opponent, and achieve meritorious deeds.

People should understand that they can see the crisis when they are proud, accumulate strength when they are frustrated, and show weakness appropriately, so that others can have more play and space, so that others can win more. Knowing how to be strong and defend the weak is a kind of great wisdom.

Competitiveness is also vanity.

It is a psychological state of human beings, whether ancient or modern, whether men and women, young and old, rich and poor, rich and low, all have self-esteem, if self-esteem is distorted, it is vanity.

Vanity is a distorted self-esteem, it is an excessive manifestation of self-esteem, it is a character defect that pursues falsehood, it is an abnormal emotional and psychological state that people exhibit in order to achieve honor and attract universal attention.

Vanity is manifested in behavior, mainly blind comparison, even great joy, too much emphasis on other people's evaluation, too strong desire for self-expression, strong jealousy, etc.

People with strong vanity have a strong dependence, lack of independence, and think they are "lacking" in ability.

People with vanity have stronger self-esteem than the average person, but due to dependence, they lack self-confidence, outwardly manifested as excessive self-esteem, overly sensitive to certain things, concerned about others' evaluation of themselves, and internally manifested as inferiority, not believing that they can achieve their wishes through hard work, and hoping to get what they want through a quick way.

This kind of dependence is caused by the parents' incomplete and incorrect education, often the parents also have vanity, dependence and do not know it, generally this kind of parents pay attention to the cultivation of children's morality, but do not know how to cultivate children's ability, or their ability is not very strong.

a thirst for vanity, a pretension to one's appearance, knowledge, role, possessions, or achievements; The vanity of craving praise or praise refers to the state of mind that protects one's self-esteem in a false way.

There are two manifestations of this: one is to do whatever it takes to make oneself stronger than others, and after being stronger, one will gain happiness and satisfaction in the gap with others; and the other is that when one is limited by conditions and cannot make oneself better than others, one is to feel torture and pain in the gap with others.

A person with a strong sense of vanity actually lives a very tiring life, because he lives between extreme self-confidence and extreme inferiority, and there is no middle ground.

"To die is to save face and suffer to sin", this is an old saying, which largely sums up the psychology and behavior of such people.

As it has been said, "Vanity can hardly be said to be an evil deed, but all evil deeds revolve around vanity, and are only a means to satisfy vanity." ”

To overcome vanity, we must distinguish the boundary between self-esteem and vanity, correctly recognize our own strengths and weaknesses, we must be an honest person, and we must cultivate our own realistic qualities.

Some people very much want to be respected and appreciated by others, but often fail to do so, an important reason is that they fall into the mistake of vanity.

Vanity is a psychology that ostensibly pursues glory and brilliance.

People with a high sense of vanity often regard fame and fortune as the internal motivation that governs their actions, and they always care about what others say about them.

As soon as others deny themselves a little, they think that they have lost their so-called self-esteem and cannot stand it.

Vanity refers to the brilliance on the surface, and vanity is the psychology of pursuing the brilliance on the surface.

Vanity is an excessive pursuit of honor, it is a deformed reflection of the sense of moral responsibility in the personal psyche, and it is also a bad psychological quality, and its essence is the emotional reflection of egoism.

Everyone is more or less vain, men mostly pursue their own fame, status, etc., and women pursue more of their clothes and appearance.

Taishang Taoist Ancestor said: "Rare goods make people rule with saints, for the belly and not for the goal, so go to the other and take this."

Admiration for vanity is a small moral degradation, and a large one leads to the abyss of sin.

In particular, people who are overly infected with vanity always proceed from some personal motives to pursue a temporary, superficial, and false effect, and even engage in deception and fraud, and completely lose the ability to evaluate their own behavior from the social value of their behavior, and the purpose of their behavior is only to obtain honor and attract universal attention, and to gain the appreciation and envy of those around them.