Regarding the issue of children's education, Xia Xiaoyu felt a headache, at this moment, she hoped that Hu Weicheng would be there, because if it was him, it would definitely solve the matter perfectly.

It's a pity that there is no figure of him in the quiet study, but only the ticking sound of the watch, the open window, and the evening breeze can't soothe the irritability in her heart.

She sat at her desk with her eyes closed, and on the desk, there was a book on the cover, which said how to communicate effectively with children.

Yes, she is constantly introspecting, and today in the car, when she asked Hu Tianyou whether he participated in the fight, why did she end up causing the child to lose control of his emotions?

Later, when she watched the child get along with her mother and Aunt Mo, she found that he lacked communication with the child, and it was equal communication.

What is Equal Communication?

It is to be the same kind of child, to chat with them, to guide them, to express their dissatisfaction and other emotions in their hearts, this is equal communication.

So what is unequal communication?

That is, thinking that he is the elder of the child, he will hold it, preach to the child with a high voice, think that the child is wrong about everything, and forcibly instill his own thoughts into the child, so that the child not only feels a strong sense of oppression, but also makes it impossible to form his own thinking, in this long way of education, it will lead the child to think that no matter what he does or says, it is wrong, only what the elders say, right, even, to adulthood, not confident, no opinion, listen to everything of others, and do nothing for a lifetime.

Everyone understands the truth, but there are a few who can do it.

The position of a mother has a long way to go, and it can also be described in such a sentence, and the great responsibility of the heavens is also for the people, and they must first work hard and work their hearts......

Headache!

Eye pain!

Pain in cells all over the body!

It's so hard to be a child's mother!

Suddenly, a knock on the door interrupted Xia Xiaoyu's thoughts, she opened her eyes as if she was a little surprised, but what caught her eyes was Hu Tianyou, the child, who was standing cramped at the door, seeing her open her eyes and looking at him, she seemed to be a little overwhelmed.

This child rarely looks for herself, and now she takes the initiative to find her, which is simply the sun appearing in the west, which is very rare.

As if a little surprised, she opened her mouth and asked, "Son, are you looking for your mother, is there anything wrong?" ”

Smash here, mom and the like, the more she says, the smoother it becomes, this is the so-called habit becomes natural.

Hearing the title, Hu Tianyou was annoyed and ashamed, but a flash of light flashed in his eyes, betraying his heart at the moment, he said, "I have something to do with you." ”

Xia Xiaoyu was trying to find a reason to chat with Hu Tianyou, but he didn't expect this child to take the initiative to send it to the door, what is this called, it coincides, or providence.

She got up very happily and said enthusiastically to Hu Tianyou, "If there's something, come in and say." ”

Immediately, under her warm greeting, Hu Tianyou stubbornly walked in, and then sat in the corner of the study, on the sofa.

As if he was afraid of the child's embarrassment, Xia Xiaoyu took out all the snacks stored in the study and placed them in front of the child, and then poured juice for him while saying to him, "Son, what do you like to eat, take it yourself, these are your mother, my private goods." ”

Every child likes to eat snacks, not to mention Hu Tianyou, but she noticed that Hu Tianyou was sitting cramped on the sofa, with his head down, and he didn't mean to eat snacks.

She put the juice in front of him, and then asked, "Son, what is the matter with you looking for me?" ”

It seems that after waiting for a century, Hu Tianyou, the child, made the sound of mosquitoes, and he said, "I did participate in today's fight." ”

Unexpectedly, he took the initiative to find her, just to admit this, what made him figure it out and take the initiative to apologize?

Reason, it doesn't matter, does it?

In this regard, Xia Xiaoyu was very pleased with Hu Tianyou's actions, and had the illusion that his son had finally grown up.

Immediately, she praised without hesitation, "Son, you are very brave to admit that you fought, and your mother is proud of you." ”

Regarding the sudden compliment, Hu Tianyou looked up at Xia Xiaoyu in some confusion, and asked in disbelief, "Shouldn't you scold me and beat me?" ”

When they fought, when they were punished by the teacher, the other children in the kindergarten ran up to tell them colorfully, and the children after the fight, after returning home, they would be beaten and scolded by their parents, because they were afraid, so they promised to take all the responsibility for the fight, which also led to Hu Tianyou not daring to admit it in the car, but Xia Xiaoyu did not know this.

Therefore, Xia Xiaoyu also expressed puzzlement about Hu Tianyou's question, "Tianyou, why did I beat you and scold you?" ”

Hu Tianyou replied honestly, "Because I'm not well-behaved, I fight!" ”

Yes, the children who fight are not well-behaved, but there is a reason for the incident, Xia Xiaoyu expressed his understanding, but it is a bad habit for the child to hide the fact that he is fighting and shirk responsibility.

In the car, Xia Xiaoyu questioned him if he participated in the fight, just hoping that this child would be responsible and responsible, not a coward who did something wrong and needed to be borne by others, but he chose to escape.

However, due to the child's fear and Xia Xiaoyu's parents' behavior, the child finally collapsed.

It was only now that Xia Xiaoyu understood that she was wrong, that there was a problem with her expression, and that they lacked communication.

In this way, she understands what effective communication is.

Just like now, everyone sits down calmly and communicates without any emotion, which is called effective communication, and this afternoon in the car, that is accountability.

Because of the experience of the afternoon, Xia Xiaoyu did not answer the child's question immediately, but organized his own language and asked rhetorically, "God bless, then why are you fighting?" ”

Hu Tianyou replied without thinking, "Because other children laughed at us for not having a father, saying that we were wild children without parents, which made my sister cry." ”

Xia Xiaoyu: "So, you fight because other children say that you don't have a father, that you are a wild child without a father." ”

Hu Tianyou shook his head, "No, it's because they made my sister cry, so I beat them in order to protect my sister." ”

That is to say, when these children laughed at their lack of parents and said that they were wild children, Hu Tianyou was not angry, what made them angry was that it was when his sister was teased and cried by these children, and this is the cause and effect relationship.

Xia Xiaoyu: "God, you are really great, at a young age, you know how to protect your sister, but you used the wrong way." ”

Hu Tianyou: "In the wrong way? ”

Xia Xiaoyu: "Yes, you used the wrong way to protect your sister, you are right, but you are wrong to choose to fight." ”

Hu Tianyou: "Then what way should I choose?" ”

Xia Xiaoyu: "Little fool, other children are not laughing at you, there is no father, so if your father sends you to kindergarten, the rumors will be self-defeating." ”

Hu Tianyou: "But, isn't Dad very busy?" ”

Xia Xiaoyu: "He's busy, he's also your father, isn't he?" How could he bear to look at his own children and be laughed at by other children. ”

Hu Tianyou: "Then, when will Dad send us to kindergarten?" ”

Xia Xiaoyu: "The time is uncertain now, but my mother promises you that I will definitely let your father send you to kindergarten, and by the way, let you take you and go to the classroom to visit your classmates, okay?" ”

Hu Tianyou: "Uh-huh, okay. ”

Xia Xiaoyu: "But, before that, you have to promise me that you are not allowed to fight anymore, and if you encounter a problem that you can't handle, you can find someone to help, for example, police uncle, teacher, mother, father, etc., can you do it?" ”

Hu Tianyou: "Yes! ”

Xia Xiaoyu: "Then, pull hook." ”

Hu Tianyou: "Okay. ”

Xia Xiaoyu: "Pull the hook and hang yourself, for a hundred years, don't deceive ......"