"How?" Xu Ang asked.

Tang Mingyao said: "I found that each of us has dissatisfaction with our parents, but because of moral and ethical reasons, this dissatisfaction has been held in our hearts and has never been vented. You also study psychology, and you know that emotions are either external or internal, and the emotions that you hold back should be vented to be good for your body, isn't it? ”

"Makes sense, I'll come first!" Xu Ang said excitedly, "Can I scold?" ”

"Yes. You can think of our next conversation as a psychotherapy process, and you don't have to take any responsibility for anything you say during this time! ”

"Good!"

Xu Ang took a deep breath and scolded: "Cao Xinqin, you are a dead mother-in-law, you hate the poor and love the rich, and you have no sense of responsibility!" Slut! Bichi! Seeing a rich man, you don't even want a son, you went to other places to spend half your life, and your life is very comfortable? Fuck off, I wish you to be disgusted outside, find a husband who drinks heavily every day, and abuses you every day, once in the morning and once in the evening......"

A long list of curses in one breath.

Xu Ang suddenly shouted "ah": "Cool! I've been holding back these words for more than ten years, and it's the first time I've said them. ”

Then he became sad again: "Why is my mother so ruthless? I'm his son, and there are mothers in this world who don't love their sons......"

None of the others answered, leaving him to vent his emotions.

After a while, he turned the finger at his father again: "Xu Xianyou, you are a big fool, a heavy color and a light son!" With a woman, you don't even care about your own son, you should be happy now, when you are sixty years old, your daughter is less than twenty years old, eat up your old capital, and when the time comes, you will not even have a pension to send to the end! When the time comes, I'm going to laugh at you and not give you a penny......"

"Xu Xianyou, you damn miser! Usually eat fragrant and spicy drinks, don't even give your son a mouthful of soup, as the saying goes, tiger poison doesn't eat children, you are not even as good as a beast! ”

“……”

Xu Ang's resentment towards his father is obviously much deeper than that of his mother.

Because he never got along with his mother, there was only one evil thing he could think of, that is, to abandon him.

Although this one was worse than all the things his father had done.

But it's different for his father, there are countless resentments that have accumulated little by little over the years, so he scolded his father for ten minutes in a mess, and he didn't bring the same thing.

After scolding, Xu Ang was silent for a moment before he said, "I feel that I have opened up the second pulse of Ren Du and my whole body is transparent, do you know this feeling?" ”

Tang Mingyao said: "Describe it." ”

"It's just that I suddenly have a little strength, I think, my dad doesn't pay much attention to me, I can still call him, maybe he suddenly ignores me again."

Tang Mingyao analyzed: "Many of us lack action, lack strength, or have a bad temper and are easy to be irritable...... In fact, in the final analysis, there is only one reason, and that is self and one's own internal friction. Take you as an example, you know that your parents are wrong, but you feel that this kind of thought cannot be spoken, and once you say it, it becomes that you are wrong, so you have two voices in your heart that are fighting all the time, and you have been struggling with whether to say it or not...... They consume each other and drain your inner power! So the sense of power you show outwardly is not enough. When you scold, your internal friction stops, at least temporarily, so you feel a little more empowered. ”

Xu Ang sniffed: "You guy, analyze it one by one." Can you analyze everything? ”

Tang Mingyao said: "Almost. Look at the mountain is a mountain, look at the mountain is not a mountain...... I'm in the second realm now. ”

"What do you mean?"

"You've just said that."

"Cut!"

After a few words, Ran Xiaomin joined in and said, "It's my turn, I'll try it too." My dad is Ran Bin, you coward......"

After scolding, he sighed: "It's much better, now that I think about it, my dad is actually quite pitiful, my grandfather left early, he was brought up by my grandmother, and there is no mature man to teach him how to be strong, so he himself doesn't have this skill, for me like that, I can figure out the truth and understand him more." Yang Zhiwei, are you coming? ”

Yang Zhiwei shook his head: "I'm not coming." After listening to you scolding for a while, I feel much better. ”

Tang Mingyao felt that it was best to go into battle by himself for this kind of thing.

This is equivalent to a psychotherapy, watching the treatment process of others, it may be useful, but where is it effective to treat yourself.

He sat up from the bed, sat upright, and said, "I'll come, I'll try too." Tang Hui, you are old-fashioned, you can't even communicate with your son, every time you chat, you are either talking about business, or preaching! Is it so hard to make a heart-to-heart? When else can you compliment me to my face? Lao Tzu has grown up since I was a child, and I have lived for so many years, and I haven't heard you praise me! Am I not doing well, or do you simply not see my good in my eyes? ”

"And Li Qiong, it's okay to be bold! As parents, you can't support your children's heaven, do you want your children to shelter you from the wind and rain? It's too much, okay! I'm tired too......"

“……”

Tang Mingyao basically said trivial things, because his parents were generally very good, and only these little things kept him in his mind.

Sure enough, after saying it, my heart suddenly felt much more refreshed.

It's like the pipes are unblocked, and emotions can flow through the body.

After savoring it, he said: "It's good to complain about your parents, and if you vent your emotions, people will be much more comfortable." But to reconcile with parents, this is only the first step, they have lived for most of their lives, and there is no such understanding as us, it is difficult to change, only we adjust our mentality, to accept them, good and bad have to try to accept. ”

Ran Xiaomin said: "It's okay, I feel that I can understand my dad after I finished speaking, and I don't have so much resentment towards him, at least he works hard, earns money to support his family, never starves me, and sends me to college...... He's hard work, too. ”

Xu Ang said: "I still can't understand my dad, but I can call him to contact the relationship, and I'll call tomorrow." Hey, maybe I didn't do well enough, I used to have limited conditions in middle school, I wouldn't call him once a year, I wouldn't write letters, he didn't have any feelings for me, in fact, it makes sense. ”

Tang Mingyao said: "Sometimes, if you think about it from the perspective of your parents, you can understand their behavior. Like my dad, he was a soldier, changed jobs, and later went out to work, and he spent a few days together every year during the New Year, he didn't have the opportunity to grow up with me, and naturally he didn't learn how to get along and communicate with me, he was also a father for the first time, and some things can be forgiven. ”

When he spoke, Tang Mingyao remembered a drama he had watched in his previous life, and there was a line in it that was very ordinary, but it was also very profound: "Deshan, Dad, I was not born to be a father, and my father is also the first time to be a father." So, my daughter is a little more considerate. ”