"Your post is so popular, it's thousands of floors! Is dream interpretation so popular now? ”

"Everyone can dream, but there are very few people who can figure out the meaning of dreams, if you see someone on the Internet, you will come to ask or watch, and the speed of building is very fast."

"I'll take a look at your content first."

He Ning disappeared as he spoke, and after a while, he replied to him again: "Okay, little junior brother, you are a bit level, no wonder your popularity is so high."

Tang Mingyao asked: "What is the level of a little level, senior sister, do you have any comparison standards here?" To be honest, I think I can interpret dreams, but there is no comparison, and I don't know if it is elementary, intermediate, or advanced. ”

"With my psychology skills, I don't see any flaws...... Anyway, it's better than me. ”

Tang Mingyao was pleasantly surprised: "I'm already so powerful? Just read a few books, it's better than how many years you've been studying? ”

He Ning: "I don't learn to interpret dreams in college!" I don't have much research on this, there are so many branches of psychology, who can be proficient in everything. My level is at the most entry-level, you're higher than me, at least intermediate. ”

Tang Mingyao said happily: "The intermediate level is very powerful, it turns out that I have reached this level."

"You are talented, envy to death...... Psychology is a very talented industry, I have seen some talented people, they learn a technology, they only need to look at the principles in the book, take it and use it, the ability to draw inferences is particularly strong, than those with average talent for a few years to learn more powerful. This is the case when you interpret dreams, and reading two books is better than many people who specialize in this. ”

Tang Mingyao said: "Thank you senior sister for the compliment, which gave me a shot in the arm, which made me feel confident and more confident in the future."

"Okay, just talk about it, don't be so formal."

After chatting for a few words, He Ning changed the topic and asked, "Little junior brother, let me ask you a question, do you think you have any purpose in studying psychology in addition to talent?"

Tang Mingyao: "Because I like it." I used to waste a lot of time, but now I suddenly found a subject that I have talent and I still like, why not study it? ”

"You haven't thought about saving yourself or something? Most people study psychology by saving themselves. ”

Tang Mingyao: "How do you understand this?" I did have some regrets in the past, but I've made up for it in the past two years, and I feel like there's nothing to save myself. ”

"No, your life is so perfect? Why is it that what I see is completely different from what you see? ”

"How?"

"Let's talk about me first, why did I choose psychology in the first place? Because my dad was a moody person, I grew up living in fear all day long, trembling when I communicated with people, for fear that others would not know when they would suddenly explode and bring me harm. Can you understand that fear? Then I realized that I was not in a normal state, and I wanted to change, but I was powerless because I didn't know how to change it. Later, I saw the major of psychology in the book, and I decided to study this subject. ”

He Ning recalled his past and continued: "There is a saying in our industry that everyone has psychological problems. In life, if you look at others with ordinary eyes, they may just have such and such shortcomings, or show their different personalities, but if you put on a layer of psychological filters to see, you will find that under these personalities and shortcomings, there are actually psychological problems hidden. Of course, most people's psychological problems are not serious and they do not need to seek treatment for the rest of their lives. ”

Tang Mingyao looked at these words thoughtfully.

He filtered through the people around him and found that it was indeed the phenomenon that He Ning was talking about.

Hou Yan, because her parents have been away from home for a long time and lack companionship, she lacks a sense of existence, and she always likes to look for different experiences in life to feel her own existence;

Tang Xiaoyuan, the family is not harmonious, so he is weak and sick;

Luo Wenxi, who was abandoned when he was a child, has always been afraid of being abandoned......

These are the ones that Tang Mingyao has already discovered, and he has not found them, there should be many more.

And if you don't look at them from a psychological perspective, they are just one of all kinds of ordinary people in life, you can say that their personalities are a little weird here and there, or unlikable, but you won't find that there are problems in their hearts at all.

This is the difference between a professional eye and an ordinary eye.

Recalling himself, Tang Mingyao found that his previous self also had a lot of psychological problems: he had low self-esteem in his previous life, and his sense of security was a little lacking, and he was a little too gentle.

But in this life, he has solved these problems.

Low self-esteem, through self-disciplined learning and steady progress, find self-confidence and a sense of achievement step by step, and low self-esteem is not so serious;

The lack of a sense of security, in the final analysis, is a distrust of one's own ability, not believing that oneself has the ability to survive and protect oneself......

Moreover, he used to collect stamps, ostensibly because of his hobby, but the root behind it is actually to make up for the sense of security - the collecting habit comes from the lack of inner security. And his kind of Buddhist philatelic hobby, not looking at the appearance, only focusing on quantity, is not to make up for the sense of security, is it really because he likes philately?

This can be explained by the fact that he received a large number of letters from readers later, and after the number of stamps reached a certain level, the desire to collect suddenly decreased.

There is also the fact that the personality is too gentle, which is actually a manifestation of the lack of inner strength.

The source of inner strength is twofold:

The first is the support of parents, relatives and friends, among which the support of parents is particularly important. If you get into a fight with someone and your parents beat you up indiscriminately when you come home, then the next time you have a conflict with someone, your attack power will be much lower, because no matter whether you win or lose, or if you have a legitimate reason, you will always not get the support of your parents and draw strength from them. Too many times, and your attack power will be worn out.

The second source is the power that arises within oneself. When a person is strong enough inside, he does not need anyone's support to maintain a strong sense of strength. Most of the strength of adults comes from this.

It's just that if a person does not have the support of his parents in childhood, when he grows up, he will not be able to generate strength on his own, because there is no fire.

Tang Mingyao changed himself too moderately, and the main force support came from himself.

The fact of being reborn gave him a great psychological advantage in the face of others, which was the source of his inner strength.

When facing people like Yang Yuan and Yu Ziqiang, he relied on the strength generated by himself and successfully stabbed these two people back, which made him more confident in his source of strength.

In his own opinion, several of his problems have actually been almost solved.

So here's the problem, He Ning said that the Tang Mingyao she saw was completely different from the Tang Mingyao she saw by Tang Mingyao.

What the senior sister meant was that he was not perfect in her eyes, and the problem was significant.

Tang Mingyao asked himself: "What other psychological problems can I have?" Why didn't I find out myself? ”