When you first enter the workplace, it's always jerky.

She is beautiful again, although others don't know her situation, but seeing that she has already passed the marriage age stipulated by the law and still comes out to work, there are no more than two kinds, one is that the man in the family did not control her and came out to "play"; The other is that there is no man to "raise".

Needless to say, as long as it is not the kind of physical problem that cannot give birth to a child, it will generally rarely be abandoned.

A discerning person knew at a glance that all kinds of cows, ghosts, snakes and gods also came out, causing her a lot of trouble. After working for a long time, I know how to deal with it with experience.

In retrospect, this process is actually full of sadness.

"Newcomers are easy to be bullied, especially women, and those veteran employees will always feel that if you are a newcomer, you should do more and increase your experience. Whether it is within the scope of work or not, as long as it is a chorre that he doesn't want to do, it can be handed over to you. If it's a little better, it may also tell you what you should do, but if it's purely something you don't want to do and pushes it to you, then it's not necessarily......"

Originally, I came for an interview, but I didn't want Ma Weiwei to be guided by Hua Niyi, "vomiting bitterness", and said a lot of his unsatisfactory after the divorce. Work, life, all kinds of unsatisfactory.

It took her a lot of time to get out of that time.

Even today, some people will question her, even if she can't give birth to someone else, she can get married, why can't she get married?

"It's like if a woman can't get married, it must be the woman's fault, and if a woman doesn't marry, this woman has a problem. If the original intention of marriage is to conceive the next generation, then I am no longer able to have children, can I choose not to get married? But it seems that everyone doesn't think like that, as if it's your fault if you don't get married, no matter what kind of woman you are, you have to get married......"

Hearing the back, Hua Ni also understood, not that Ma Weiwei really felt that her current life was not good and that she had to get married, but that she was surrounded by this kind of "women don't get married, women have problems", which still had some impact on her.

She wasn't sure if she was wrong in her current state. Is there really something wrong with her?

It's a really bad feeling of not being recognized.

She's not the kind of person who doesn't care about the eyes around her at all, the whole world seems to be "denying" her, and it's good that she doesn't break down.

Because of this kind of gaze, she can't live a "life alone" at all, so she needs to "agree". Adopting a plant pet baby is actually to get "recognition", she feels that the plant pet baby can't speak, although it has its own thoughts and preferences, but it is still "small", she can teach it some of her concepts, let it identify with itself.

In this way, she will probably be more relaxed to have a presence that identifies with herself.

Moreover, she also needs someone to talk to.

"It's not your fault!" Hua Ni smiled, "The purpose of marriage is not to give birth to the next generation, but to make life better. A woman has the right to choose not to marry when you alone are already able to live a better life and marriage does not make your current life better. ”

Ma Weiwei was stunned for a moment, as if he didn't expect Hua Ni to say this: "You haven't reached the age of marriage stipulated by law, right?" You will be like this now, and you will know when you are urged to get married by the state in the future, and it is really not up to you to decide whether you get married or not. ”

Hua Ni nodded: "You're right, this planet stipulates that women must get married when they reach the age of 22, and it's really not up to the woman to decide whether to get married or not." The state will make such a decision out of population considerations, and it is afraid that women will not want to have children. It is afraid that women are unwilling to have children, so they can only use marriage to tell women that you can do nothing and live a good life, as long as you are willing to marry a man and have a child. ”

As if opening a new door, Ma Weiwei felt that everything in front of him was suddenly a little different: "So, women don't have to get married, it's just a national regulation?" ”

"The state has its own considerations in such regulations, and only when everyone abides by the national regulations can the country function normally and have the peaceful and stable life we have now. If you look at the history of the development of the planet, I think in the past, when the population was declining sharply and the number of men and women was equal, there was also a law that said how old a man and a woman must be before they could get married, marriage is free, both men and women have the right to choose, you can choose to get married, or you can choose not to marry. There are even regulations on how many children a couple can have, and fines are imposed for exceeding them. ”

"And that kind of rule?" Ma Weiwei is stupid.

"Yes." Hua Ni said affirmatively, "It's just that I don't know if the country has released this history." You must know that what the state is now encouraging is the policy of having more children, and the ideological education of people from childhood to adulthood is also based on this point, women want to get married and have children, men want to get married and have sons to support their families, and this concept is instilled from childhood to adulthood, and it is natural that there is only this concept in mind. ”

Ma Weiwei thinks about it, and so does it. If it weren't for talking to her today, even if she was single, she would have been hovering about when to remarry and what kind of remarriage partner she would choose, and she was disappointed that she couldn't choose a suitable remarriage partner, but she never thought about it - perhaps, she could choose not to marry.

She has experienced marriage, and she has also had children, if marriage can't make her current life better, then why should she force her to remarry?

"You can't say that the state is doing this badly, it is only doing this for the development of the whole planet, for the whole humanity to be able to continue. When it cannot ensure the interests of everyone, it can only obey the majority of the minority, and consider the majority under the premise of the general situation. At this point, Hua Ni paused and smiled, "Of course, it's not that it doesn't leave a way out for a few. For example, if you are married and have a child, it does not stipulate that you must remarry if you are divorced. The choice of whether to remarry or not is yours. ”

Ma Weiwei understood what she meant. The state will stipulate that women should marry when they reach the age of 22, which naturally makes sense, but it also leaves a way, and does not stipulate that failed women should continue to marry. At this time, she can completely choose the life she wants.

As for the eyes around you?

The state doesn't stipulate that she must remarry, so why do they stipulate that? She completely refuted it and chose not to remarry.

"Thank you!" After chatting so much, Ma Weiwei's mood suddenly improved a lot, and his eyes looking at Hua Ni were also full of gratitude.

Regardless of whether she passed the adoption interview today or not, she also earned it on this trip.

"No thanks, I also like to talk to people. And you are the future adopter of wormwood, whether you live well in the future will have a great impact on it, and as its breeder, I have the responsibility to choose a suitable adopter for it. ”

Ma Weiwei was stunned for a moment: "Wait, you just said that you are its adopter?!" ”

With a surprised expression, she glanced at wormwood, then at flower mud.