Haruki Murakami has a saying: There are irretrievable and irreparable things in the world, and the passage of time is an irreparable thing. Perhaps, living up to the time is the best effort, and hard work is the best self.

When Han Yi was a freshman, his cousin from the countryside bought a house in Wuhan, and everyone was celebrating him: when he was less than forty years old, he became the general manager of the best local hotel; bought a house worth two million; There is a life secretary in and out, so you don't have to worry about any trivial things in life. By the way, his parents also lived with him, and lived a life of "five days in the city and two days in the countryside". A person's prosperity seems to make the whole family raise their eyebrows.

Someone said to his aunt: This child of yours is really angry!

My aunt couldn't close her mouth happily, as the most ordinary farmer, except for the fields, the only hope was pinned on her children, in fact, like their predecessors, who didn't smash their love on their children with all their hearts, and made a desperate bet.

His cousin's family used to have a very hard time. I remember that when my cousin came to his house when he was a child, he never had any bags, and he often carried a plastic bag, carrying some two large bags of vegetables from their house, and the mud of the vegetables was on his trouser legs. The white sneakers on the feet always have patches, and this patch always gets dirty very quickly.

Han Yi's mother is always very distressed every time she sees him, and his sentence "It's okay, it's okay" is shy and resolute.

His house is the most ordinary bungalow in the countryside, a bed, a stove, a table, a radio, a cabinet, that's all.

When Han Yi went to his house, he always saw him sitting at the door doing his homework, writing until it was dark, and then entering the house. He was reluctant to turn on the light, and often lit candles to do his homework in the house, but fortunately, his eyes have not been short-sighted until now.

It is not an overnight thing for people to worship high and step on low. In those years, the so-called neighbors, whenever he talked to his cousin at the door, always said angrily: one big and one small, two wild children, quarreled to death. Then close the door with one hand.

He would often say that life would always get better.

My cousin's grades have always been very good, and after the high school entrance examination, he chose a secondary school. The uncle was the first to disagree, feeling that no matter how hard he was, he couldn't be bitter about the child, so he dragged him to school to change his will, he said: It's okay, I went to secondary school, as long as I worked hard, it wouldn't be too bad. For a poor family, it is much more important to be able to share the burden of the family as soon as possible than the so-called high education, and after the end of the secondary school, he became the most ordinary waiter in the hotel.

I have to say that the sentence "the children of the poor are in charge early" really has a certain truth. In the early years of the hotel, my cousin went through almost all the positions from the box waiter to the kitchen backstage to the lobby front desk.

Everyone was surprised why the boss was willing to let him go to every post, because after getting off work, he took the initiative to ask to help at every post, and even participated in side dishes, miscellaneous dishes, unloading, which were originally unrelated to other people's least willing to do. Every holiday, he did not rest, and the New Year was also, for five whole years, he did not go home for the New Year

, but busy in the hotel. He also has his own selfish intentions: he wants to be promoted as soon as possible, just hoping to improve the conditions at home.

He almost completed two consecutive jumps in six years, and became the general manager in the tenth year, and it seemed that going in and out of high-end places, buying cars, and buying houses had long been the most ordinary thing, and everything seemed to come faster than he thought. As a result, the neighbors had already become acquaintances, offering to dry their clothes and greeting any of their guests warmly.

One day, when they sat down to drink coffee together, they talked about the road they have traveled over the years, and Han Yi said: You are really competitive, especially for your parents.

He said: My current results are not for anyone to see, nor to prove anything, but to test a truth "life, is it that if you work hard, you will have good results".

That night, he smoked a lot of cigarettes, and Han Yi could still see what he saw more than ten years ago: small eyes, always smiling, covered in mud, vegetable bags in his hands, and his small body could speak "I can, really, I can".

Maybe, Han Yi was also influenced by him to some extent, he didn't know how long the road of life was, and he didn't know how long he wanted to run in his heart, but he also clearly realized that moving forward hard is the best gift to life. Working so hard, not to move anyone, nor to prove it to anyone, maybe just because I am unwilling to be innocently abandoned by the best version of my heart, and tell myself day and night that I will never give up.

People are always growing and changing, Han Yi deliberately embarrassed his sister just because he wanted her to know her heart better, and asked her to write an IOU, not really asking her to pay it back, but to let him know that the money was not blowing in the wind, and hoped that she could work harder. It's not to escape, or to be confused, so that her ability is not worthy of desire, and her talent is not worthy of her dreams.

Children are reasonable, and they are called sensible. Adults know right from wrong, and they are called reasonable. In the eyes of his parents, Han Yi is sensible and reasonable.

Being reasonable is not simply right and wrong, but acknowledging that life has rules of the game, knowing and willing to abide by them - some persistence, some fear.

Later, the more people I came into contact with and the more things I experienced, the more deeply I could perceive the weight of reasonableness.

A man breaks up with a girl he has liked for ten years and been together for eight years, for the simple reason that he is not sensible.

He said that he usually cares about being willful in front of him, but after his mother's bedside was noisy and noisy because of a so-called "ambiguous text message", he couldn't go back.

People who are easy to get along with always know how to stop in moderation, know how to be polite and respectful, instead of being like a child at all times, crying when they are unhappy, and losing their temper when they don't like it.

Han Yicai will not stop her too much because he guesses that Han Min is not clear about the choices he has made in his heart, blame and blame, but it is also enough, just like when he makes Bai Xue unhappy, he will immediately take the initiative to admit his mistakes, regardless of whether he is right or wrong, this should be reasonable.

There is one thing that people get along with each other

Guidelines. With a minimum of respect and understanding, even if you disagree and quarrel, it will not affect your feelings. I am most afraid of being unreasonable, I don't have the most basic reverence for human nature, the appearance of an adult, the temper of a child, unscrupulous, let alone a family.

After Han Yi agreed, Han Min was excited, excited, and happy, obviously, it was more likely that he really wanted to go abroad for further study and broaden his horizons than to escape.

After breakfast, Han Yi stayed in the room, and the notebook was confiscated by his sister, so he could put his work aside. This body is idle, the thoughts in my head are active, I read the book for a while, until my head has been filled with the shadow of snow, lying on the rocking chair and flipping through the circle of friends on the phone, there is no her dynamics, only to find that it has been blocked.

The grievance in my heart, why? He didn't dare to send Bai Xue a WeChat message, he was afraid of a red exclamation mark.

In the infinitely prolonged moment of calm, how much time does it take to choose to start another way of life?

Unfortunately, there are not many thrilling opportunities in ordinary life, only today's sun is similar to yesterday, and tomorrow's sun is similar to today. Life is regulated for us in its own unique way: the more urgent the time, the more decisive, the less rushing the time, the more hesitant.

Everyone will say that "the east corner is gone, and it is not too late for mulberry elm"; And only you know that the remnants of the past have never really disappeared.

Maybe Han Yi has always thought so, so he hasn't given up all these years.

Because he had memories, he was afraid; Because he had memories, he would hesitate occasionally; Because he had memories, he had reservations; Because he had memories, he gradually became hesitant.

It's not a big deal, he still has faith, he has faith in their feelings, so, what's the hurry? It's useless to rush, take your time.

He was never in a hurry to fill the empty space around him, and being alone never meant nothing, but proved that his past life was not in vain.

If you say goodbye to a wrong past just to grasp a future, what is the difference between the future and the past? When the future is about to come, the hesitation, sobriety, temptation, and retreat in his heart are all precious gifts from time.

Only by crossing them can he move forward with peace of mind.

Han Yi is such a person, he is not afraid of them wasting time, he will not worry that he will grow old soon, and he must admit that he can afford to wait until the right person arrives.

Many people are accustomed to making hasty decisions to "forget the past" and avoid talking about the unpleasant past. In fact, it is not that difficult to confess to myself, you just need to tell yourself: I am not smart, I have made a lot of wrong decisions, and I may still make mistakes when I am old. But so what? Since you are not smart, leave yourself a little time to see it slowly.

For Han Yi, it doesn't matter whether he is happy or not in the eyes of others.

Why do you have to prove to others that you're doing well? Life is your own, you know it, you know how to persevere, it's enough.

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