Once when Bai Xue and her friend Fang Wen were chatting together, she said: "A good relationship is to accompany each other and become each other's sunshine." If you love someone, if he makes you wake up happily every day, sleep peacefully every night, be full of motivation to do everything, and look forward to the future, then you are not in love with the wrong person. ”

This sentence resonated with Bai Xue.

Bai Xue and Han Yi in the first few months, it is true, they are surrounded by each other's love every day, and every day is full of motivation and expectation, which is probably the best look of love.

In the three years that Bai Xue left, they were doing the same thing with each other, which was to make themselves better and more worthy of each other. At the same time, the one thing they do the most is to miss.

When she misses someone, she always can't help but take out her phone to see if there is any message from him. Her expectations are sometimes surprises, and sometimes they are disappointed.

When she misses someone, she always can't help but look through his circle of friends, and you want to imagine his life and approach his life through the bits and pieces of his circle of friends. However, he doesn't update his circle of friends much throughout the year, which always disappoints her and makes her sad.

When she misses someone, a familiar song reminds her of his name, of his past. She always remembered quietly, always silently remembered, didn't dare to easily dial the treasured number, didn't want his life to ripple, how much care turned into a message, "I miss you", but after all, she didn't send it, she could only hide her feelings in her heart.

When Fang Wen chatted with her about her previous relationship history, she would always be a little sentimental and even crying, but in the end she would smile with relief, "It's all over, I am married now, and I have a different life, although it is very plain, but at least I know that he loves me very much." ”

After Bai Xue and her old classmate Fang Wen meet, they will get together every once in a while. Not long ago, Fang Wen went to Bai Xue's house as a guest, I don't know what topic she talked about, drank some wine, and said inexplicably sadly:

One day, you suddenly realize that the other person has not kissed or held hands with you for a long time, and he seems to be getting busier and busier, and often gets angry because of a small mistake on your part. You feel a wave of frustration in your heart, but you still don't forget to tell yourself to stay optimistic, replay the memory of sweet love in your heart several times, and even find a hundred reasons for him to explain, and finally come to the conclusion that two people are just past the love period, which is a necessary stage that all couples have to face, and it is not a big deal.

So you keep reminding yourself "don't panic, don't be impatient", still carefully rotating and rotating in the trajectory of love, but only waiting for his announcement about breaking up.

It turns out that those subtle coldness are all the foreshadowing he carefully reserved in order to break up with you. You don't have any strength at all, like a punching bag he punched hard, and you fell to the ground with a bang, wanting to cry without tears.

You can't figure out what kind of mystery is hidden behind the phrase "you are not suitable for me". for

In order to make yourself "die to understand", you do not hesitate to put down your dignity and repeatedly "ask for advice" from him, calm, roaring, soft and hard, completely unaware of how ugly you have made yourself, and in the end you only ask for a sentence that makes you feel more confused, "You don't know me too well" - you won't know at all, in fact, he also prepared endless versions such as "It's too tiring to be together", "There is no such novelty", "You have too many shortcomings", "We have no future" and so on. The answer you were eagerly awaiting was only one he had pulled out of it.

And when you continue to work hard to enlighten the Tao, he runs up to you and says, "Although I still love you, I really can only go here", and his face is painful and endlessly affectionate, so that you have to be grateful to him with pain, but you can clearly see how brisk, agile and unhesitating he turned away.

Yes, he just doesn't love you anymore. It has nothing to do with how good your relationship was before, it is how you feel in the moment that makes the decision. It's just that the phrase "I don't love you anymore" or "I'm in love with someone else" is so hard for him to say, and he doesn't want to play the role of affection in front of anyone.

If you want to add sin, why should you do it? The reasons he made up were enough to keep you tangled up for a while before he ran away. And the reason why he didn't forget to add a fake sentence "I still love you" is just to make you feel how kind and righteous he is to you.

You should be glad you left him, and you should not be deceived by him for longer.

Therefore, it is time to applaud those who have the courage to say "no love", such honesty and frankness are worth learning from everyone. Even if that kind of accuracy and directness may be a little cruel, it is really good and responsible for the other party. Someday, he will be grateful to you for such a clear handling.

There is no right or wrong in any part of love, so there is no need for any form of deception and concealment. "Beautiful lies" are just a kind of "for his good" that those who think too much and think too much about themselves. A lie is always just a lie, the truth cannot be hidden, bitterness is inevitable, any sugar-coated packaging and whitewashing is only a catalyst to exacerbate that bitterness, and your extra actions will only deepen the damage to him.

When you break up, you should be open and honest, and show your truest thoughts to the other party directly, so that the other party can see through the irreparable situation and understand that your mind has been decided. There is really no need to go through the various shortcomings of the other person, you should give him more respect before leaving, instead of telling right and wrong and fabricating crimes. Not to mention the "you should find someone better than me" – that will only make the other person fantasize and jump into an unnecessary drag. Being neat and tidy is another criterion for breaking up.

Don't forget to thank the other person for giving you a happy "end", at least leave with a blessed expression. You can be sad or curse because you can't accept it for a while, but you should keep it in your heart and run home before releasing it. Never let anyone feel that you will die if you leave him.

Once, you thought that love was all there was to life. Later, you understand that love is just the spice of life, and no one can give their whole life for you.

Once upon a time, you thought that money and wealth were not important. When you are short of money, no one is willing to borrow, and when you have no money, you are looked down upon, and you gradually realize that if you want to live well, you have to make money. Money tickets are only outside the body after death.

Once upon a time, you were very stupid and naïve, and thought too well of people. Now I feel very cold and mature, and I slowly learn to be on guard.

No one knows what Touch has experienced, no one understands why Touch is sad, and no one believes that you are really kind.

When you love someone deeply, you can dig out your heart and lungs without hesitation. When the other party has no reaction and ignores this feeling, the hurt has invisibly invaded, from sadness ~ disappointment ~ death, and finally discouraged, and no longer has the courage to touch this sad love.

The most painful distance in the world is that the other party does not take you seriously, but you have taken the other person deeply in your heart.

A flower that is low to the dust is destined to have no chance to bloom its beauty, and its fragrance is buried in the soil and slowly disappears, no one cares about it. The delicacy of the flower is often found in its uniqueness, its reserve, its dignity, its pride. The fragrance of the flowers makes people who are destined to stop and admire its beauty, taste its richness, and can't help but like it and fall in love with it.

A good love is the attraction of the souls of both parties, the fit of the heart, the communication of language, and the cherishing of each other, in order to build a beautiful relationship.

Bai Xue is a good listener, touching her from time to time and comforting her.

Fang Wen burst into tears as she spoke, obviously she was telling her story, and then said to Bai Xue with a smile: "If, I mean if, you also encountered such a thing, I hope you can face up to the breakup, understand that this is also a part of love, and you have to do a full set to do it." I also hope that you can be as strong as possible, and not be too sentimental about "a box of cans that have passed their expiration date", which is not only meaningless, but even a waste of life. Remember, it's not who was dumped by whom, it's just that your love is dead. Then let it rest in peace. For the world and your long life, it's just a natural, insignificant thing. ”

She continued: "Your own life, go by yourself, and your own pain, you will heal yourself. Don't rely too much on one person, and don't hurt one person easily, no one in this world has an easy life. I used to be stupid, but now, I play dumb, I just want to put on my mask, be kind and defensive, be sincere and discreet. Do you know when a person is the most humble, the most pitiful, the most undignified? It is to choose a relationship that does not match you. Choosing such a relationship will make your beautiful bottom line defenseless and let others hurt! What you think is unforgettable, but the clouds have faded and the wind has cleared. What you think is a lifetime of life and death is nothing more than that. Fate is over, whether it is love or friendship, it will go to a strange road. It's all gone... Those loves and sorrows. The wind and grass like the autumn water are blowing and moving, but it turns out to be just a trace of water. ”

However, at that time, Bai Xue had only returned to China for a month, and there was such a thing about the photo scandal between Hao Yali and Han Yi that bothered her, and she was in a cold war with Han Yi.

But things didn't come to the point that Fang Wen said, she was very firm at that time, and she would never say anything about breaking up with Han Yi again, and she would never endure the pain of lovesickness again.

But now, she still said that to Han Yi, even if she loved him in her heart. Suddenly, I felt like I had lost everything, and all that fulfillment and happiness disappeared with that slap, and my heart was empty.

Zhang Xiaoxian said: "The most tragic thing in the world is that two people are very far away and don't know each other. Suddenly, one day they fell in love, and the distance became very close. Then one day, no longer in love, two people who were originally very close became very far away, even farther than before. ”

Will she and Han Yi eventually come to this point?

I never thought that the relationship would be so difficult! Once, she thought that she could face everything strongly, no matter how difficult life was and how hard life was. Unexpectedly, life is better, but there are so many difficulties in feelings, is it that if Han Yi was still that poor boy, he would not have these bad things?

Bai Xue rang the doorbell with a fruit basket and a large bag of nutritional products, and Li Jia opened the door to look at Bai Xue with tears in her eyes.

"I'm sorry!" Bai Xue put down the things in her hand, rushed down fiercely, and Li Jia gave her a big hug.

Li Jia smiled: "Calm down! Don't be such a tiger, my hand, my hand! ”

"Jiajia, I'm sorry, I really didn't know to make you like this! I shouldn't have been angry with you, I shouldn't have done that to you! Bai Xue still hugged Li Jia tightly.

"Alright! All right! I don't blame you! I shouldn't have been hiding it from you! Li Jia saw that Bai Xue didn't let go, so she smiled and said: "If you don't let go, I'll call someone!" ”

As a last resort, Li Jia really shouted loudly: "Nuan Nuan, come over quickly, help me pull this female hooligan away!" ”

"Who!" Nuan Nuan, who was busy cooking in the kitchen, ran out,

Seeing Bai Xue, she said with a smile: "Sister Xue'er is here, come in quickly, don't stand outside the door!" Then he helped bring the things that Bai Xue had brought into the house.

"Can you forgive me?" Bai Xue hugged Li Jia and didn't let go, "If you don't forgive me, I won't let go." ”

"Alright! Alright! Forgive me! Hurry on in! Li Jia pointed at Bai Xue with an uninjured hand and said, "Come on, why do you buy so many things!" It's just a little bit of effort, the family is full of fruits and everything, and it's not a big deal for me, what are you all doing! ”

Only then did Bai Xue let go of Li Jia, and was dragged into the room to sit down, Li Jia picked up a tissue to wipe away her tears.

"Let's talk first, I'm still stir-frying vegetables in the pot!" Nuan Nuan hurried to the kitchen.

(End of chapter)