Yishu said that if the economy cannot be independent, then there is no need to talk about anything, and food, clothing, housing and transportation depend on the charity of others, but he keeps saying that he does not want to be an accessory, which is very sad.

In other words, only by being financially independent can you have the right to choose.

A person must first be financially independent, so that he can have personality independence, and then he can freely choose and pursue.

Han Yi knows very well that when he relies on others for money, it is difficult for him to be mentally independent. And a person can only live a decent life if he is financially and personally independent. Therefore, I do not rely on the help of other people's interests.

Being poor is not a fault, let alone a sin, but you know, a person who has no money will inevitably lose a lot of choices. If you can't be financially independent, you either have to rely on others, or you will be wronged by yourself, and you will not live upright enough, and you will have less confidence in speaking and doing things.

Only when you are financially independent can you have the courage to do what you want to do, and you can have the ability to refuse the life you don't want. From the moment you become financially independent, your life is truly in your hands.

It sounds a bit cruel, but it's not snobbery, it's reality, and it's the rules.

Therefore, for the vast majority of people, they can not worship money, nor do they have to strive for the ultimate goal of family wealth, but they need a certain amount of money and savings to ensure the dignity of life, no need to give in, no need to beg, and can freely dominate life.

To be exact, this kind of life of making money like a robot is not what he wants, or rather, he feels that he has a certain economic foundation, if it weren't for Wang Shuwen's business, he also plans to live the kind of life he wants, read with what he feels in life, and live with the income from reading. Go to visit the great mountains and rivers of the motherland, bring your own camera, take beautiful photos, and leave good memories.

Sanmao said: "If you read more, your face will naturally change, and many times, you may think that many of the books you have read have become a thing of the past, and you will no longer remember, but in fact, they are still potential." In temperament, in conversation, in the boundlessness of mind. ”

Reading is not only equivalent to going to school, nor is it just something that should be done when you are a young student, but it should be a lifetime of persistence.

A person who does not read is equivalent to actively closing the door to making himself better, becoming a person who refuses to think and passively accepts.

Yang Lan once said:

"Some people will ask, after a girl has been studying for so long and reading so many books, in the end, she still has to go back to an ordinary city, do an ordinary job, marry a wife, wash and cook, marry and teach children, why bother? I think that our persistence is for the sake of the fact that even if we end up falling into tediousness and washing away the lead, the same work has a different state of mind, the same family, but a different mood, and the same offspring, but with different qualities. ”

If you don't read for a day or two, you may not see any obvious changes, but if you don't study for a year or two, or even ten or twenty years, this person's temperament, conversation, and ideological concepts will gradually expose his ignorance and shallowness.

Reading is a kind of self-cultivation.

Read with what you feel in life, and live with what you get from reading, so as to cultivate your own state of mind and enrich your knowledge. This kind of life is thicker and more qualitative.

People are valued in self-reliance and continuous self-improvement.

Being able to make money and being independent is a process of self-reliance. Being able to read and learn is a process of self-improvement. And these two are complementary to each other.

People who are empty in their hearts and do not know how to enrich themselves must seek dependence on everything, so how can they be self-reliant? Only those who know how to constantly nourish themselves can make their inner self warm, let their souls become rich, and then truly independent, deal with everything with a tall attitude, self-sufficient, neither humble nor arrogant.

Some people know very well that the backers will fall, and everyone will run. Only your own independent and full soul is always reliable and never exhausted.

Han Yi and Qiu Lang were in the back seat, and Xia Bo drove the two of them to dinner with Yi Yang and them.

"Xia Bo, are you staying at his house now?" Qiu Lang smiled: "How can you live under the same roof with someone like him?" ”

"What do you mean!" Han Yi's eyes showed a murderous aura.

Xia Bo looked dazed, not knowing how to answer Qiu Lang's question.

"Hmm······ Temporarily staying at Mr. Han's house ······"

"I'll let him live in my house, you're jealous!" Han Yi said with a mocking expression: "I don't want you to live in my house, right?" ”

When Qiu Lang in Chongqing had not yet lived with Huizi, he was idle for a while, and he lived in Han Yi's house with his luggage, but he was kicked out by Han Yi within a few days.

"Heh, don't you say I'll forget!" Qiu Lang complained to Xia Bo: "You say this person, say that there is no cleanliness, and it is true that there is none, but everything in the house must be orderly and tidy, and it must be kept clean at all times, and he does not invite his aunt, and even washes the dishes and sweeps the floor by himself······

He was used to having someone around to take care of him when he was a child, and he really couldn't live alone. In the few days when Han Yi's house lived, his family was turned upside down, and it was a mess, so he was kicked out.

The three men are of similar age and have very different personalities, the older Xia Bo and the slightly younger Han Yi are relatively mature and stable.

Before becoming friends with Qiu Lang, Han Yi still felt that he was very mature and stable, and he was silent, but after getting along for a long time, he found that he was blind, sometimes he was like a child, and sometimes he was very talkative, so he didn't accept him as a cold person.

The three people in the car were talking and laughing, but in fact, they all had their own emotions and hardships that they couldn't say to others, and some of them couldn't speak.

Qiu Lang's expression was grinning, but his mood was extremely depressed.

Life is sometimes like this, no matter how hard it is, you have to resist it, no matter how tired and painful it is, you have to bear it yourself, and you would rather be silent than tell it, because no one can empathize with your difficulties and pain.

Some moods, unable to speak

In life, there is always more tiredness than beauty, and I have to face it; In the relationship, there is always more pain than drunkenness, and it is inevitable that there will be heartbreak. If you can't figure out right and wrong, you can only taste it alone; Cut the constant wrong, wrong, right, right, only secretly shed tears.

The most bitter thing in the world is not Coptis chinensis, but a heart that bears silently; The most tired thing in the world is not a mule or horse, but a person who works hard. The unspeakable pain turned into a lonely person to bear; The tears that can't be shed become the wind and rain to block alone.

Every adult has an unshirkable responsibility, and your feelings and sadness cannot be described in words, and you feel powerless to say it.

When a person is tired, he can lie down and rest; The heart is tired, but you can't pretend not to care, some moods are unspeakable. Many times, with a smile on his face and tears in his heart, he pretends that he doesn't care because he doesn't want to worry the people around him.

It turns out that what can be shared with others is always more happy than sad; What you can talk to people is always insignificant. In fact, there are many things on my mind that I don't have to tell everyone. Someone who listens and understands and comforts you; Some people don't understand it, and they only become haggard.

In this world, everyone is very busy, everyone has their own troubles and sorrows, those feelings that cannot be spoken, they are left to themselves to digest, and only they can comfort themselves.

"In the past, we would be sentimental because of a trivial matter, heartbroken because of a person's departure, and hysterical because we couldn't get what we wanted. Later, after being baptized by time and experience, even if we have traveled thousands of mountains and rivers, we can cope with the problems in life alone. ”

It turns out that the power of a person is also infinite. And in a long life, there are destined to be some roads that can only be walked alone. This is true of many things in life, and it is also true in love.

It's not loneliness, it's choice.

I remember that when Qiu Lang first started with Keiko, he was not so mature, after all, he was the same as Yi Yang now, there were a lot of flowers and plants around him, whenever others misunderstood him, he always wanted to pull Keiko's hand and explain to her, until the Yellow River heart did not die, because he was afraid of being misunderstood, afraid of losing this loved one; Maybe I used to be afraid of being alone, pig friends and dog friends formed a mess, singing every night, but when I calmed down, I always felt empty in my heart, which was very unpleasant.

But gradually, I realized that not all people were able to accompany him to the end.

When you are alone, you should be quiet and peaceful, and when you meet someone you love, of course, you must treat each other sincerely.

I remember when I didn't go to college, no matter what my classmates did, they were all in twos and threes. We go to dinner together, go to the library for self-study together, and even go back to the dormitory to make an appointment to leave together. At that time, I was very afraid of being alone, as if eating alone in the cafeteria was like an isolated monster, and walking alone on campus would accept the "baptism of discrimination" in the eyes of others.

You don't know, it's all your heart that is going on, and it's because you're afraid of the huge gap that loneliness brings.

Even friends in the same dormitory may take different classes. Qiu Lang was not as popular as Han Yi when he was in school, he was a loner, and if he was a friend, he might be Yi Yang.

In his eyes, they all act separately, as if everyone has their own circle and wants to be busy, and no one can really keep up with him.

So gradually, I learned to eat alone, arrange my own studies alone, and participate in campus activities alone. Sometimes, if you're lucky, you'll have friends who are in sync with him.

Indeed, at first it was very unaccustomed, and the feeling of being enveloped in loneliness was like a ship that had lost its rudder, and suddenly did not know which direction to go.

has had a lot of girlfriends, but no one can be relied on forever, to put it bluntly, it's just fun, not only him, but also those girlfriends.

Only himself, always accompanying himself silently.

During that period of time alone, although there were fewer and fewer people to accompany him, the cruelty of reality gave him the determination and courage to set off alone, and after returning to China, he began to devote himself to his career and set up his own company.

Looking back at these days, in fact, loneliness is not a big deal, and some roads can only be walked by him.

When he understands the pleasures of one person, he will find that sometimes the fulfillment of one person is more down-to-earth than the carnival of a group of people.

In fact, life is a process of constantly picking up and discarding, whether it is a friend or something you have, you can't always put it in your pocket while walking, which will only make the road more and more difficult for him to walk.

When his heart is full enough, he has the strength to solve the emptiness brought by loneliness.

When everyone reaches a certain age, there will always be some sad experiences, and there are also some indelible pains that sink in the bottom of their hearts. But it is precisely these sadnesses that make him a stronger version of himself, begin to recognize the truth of life, and understand that he can give himself happiness, so that he cannot be easily snatched away by others.

Later, I met my current wife, Keiko, who I love the most.

Nietzsche once said something very fond:

"You are a lonely weirdo today, you live in isolation, and one day you will become a nation."

Indeed, when a person knows how to deal with those days alone, his heart will always become strong unconsciously, like the warm sun in winter, like the coat in late autumn. The accumulated power will become a weapon for you to fight the enemy bravely in the future.

That's why some people say that a person is also a team.

There are a lot of people, love while walking, and find the real brilliant self in the road that one person has walked.

Qiu Lang is like this, and so is Han Yi.