"What's going on? Why are you crying? ”

Liu Xiyao came home and saw Bai Xue stir-frying in the kitchen, and ran over happily, only to find that she was crying, and suddenly panicked.

Bai Xue pointed to the onion on the chopping board and explained, "No! Just finished chopping the onion. Let's go rest for a while, and you'll be able to eat it right away. ”

"I was scared to death, I thought I was bullied by someone!" Without the slightest suspicion, Liu Xiyao jumped away and turned around and said, "I'll take a shower first, and I'll come over to help you later." ”

Bai Xue may have shed tears just by cutting onions, she didn't even know why she was crying.

There is such a sentence in "Grave of the Fireflies": Don't be sad, the world is like this, no matter where you go, there are always sad things, once you encounter it, it is easy for us to be overly pessimistic and take things too seriously. Rest assured, close your eyes, get some sleep, and maybe something new will happen tomorrow.

However, when I think of how sweet it was when we were together, how abusive it is now, some things still have to be faced and decided alone, and if you can't get over the hurdle in your heart, you can't get back together with Han Yi.

Why do some people grow old with their lovers, but some always change one after another. It's like a TV is broken, some people will think about repairing it, and if it is repaired, it will still be with you for a lifetime; Some people choose to lose and buy a new one, so they break up when they are unsatisfactory. I can't say which is right, but I think if it's a good love, it's good to give it a chance. But if it's broken, don't wait for it to break down and throw it away.

Her relationship with Han Yi has not yet reached the level of a thousand holes, and it seems that it is okay to repair it, but this process will be a little more uncomfortable.

Happy love in this world is always very similar, but unfortunate love has a thousand forms. Generally speaking, because of loneliness or pressure, it is difficult to have a good outcome in the love that will be together. When two adults get along, they need to tolerate and sacrifice each other, without love, where can there be so much courage.

It's not the first time to separate from Han Yi, in the days of pure heart and few desires, she has encountered a lot of temptations, and the men around her who pursue her are also very good, and there are all kinds of people who have endless flirting skills, but Bai Xue knows that their skills are all practiced by stepping on the love of countless girls.

This world is full of encounters and loves, heartbeats and breakups. Some people are as pure as ever, guarding love to the last person. There are also people who are familiar with all the rules and skills in love early on, and they are like fish in water with a lot of routines.

Bai Xue is really a very special girl, she is obsessed with all the sparkle and passion in love, but she is a little "not eating the fireworks of the world", and does not meet a different love. She won't compare herself, those who use sincerity in every paragraph have their own attitudes, but they will fade after all, right?

Maybe the world is very colorful, and the temptations are very numerous. Maybe the emotions are very complicated, and if you don't cut it up, it's messy. But her consistent attitude is really not something that ordinary girls can do.

Han Yi once said that Bai Xue is a beautiful person who does not know it, but she has never been a delicate person.

Like her, she has improved her self-cultivation, whether it is academic qualifications, quality, or personal living habits, she is impeccable. To have good looks, to have a figure, not much money, but it is enough for people who do not seek the so-called high-end quality of life, and this is how there will be so many people who like her.

In Jane Austen's Emma, Harriet asks Emma, "Why don't you get married?" You are so naturally beautiful. ”

Emma said, "Let me tell you, I don't even have the idea of getting married. I have no worries about food and clothing, and my life is full, since love has not arrived, why should I change my current state. Don't worry about me, Harriet, for I'm going to be a rich old girl, and only a poor old girl will be the laughing stock of everybody. ”

Bai Xue is simply overwhelmed, the girl is domineering and confident, there is no need to rely on men to prove her worth, she chooses to marry for only one reason: I like it.

This was a very advanced idea at the time, but in the 21st century, more and more girls have embarked on the same path as Emma: a low-quality marriage is not as good as a high-quality single.

As a result, more and more girls are reluctant to get married. However, don't think that they don't believe in love, it's just that they have the capital to live very freely, so they have higher requirements for love and marriage.

Take Han Yi's younger sister Zhou Pei as an example, she fell in love once during college, and it didn't take long for them to break up. Later, after Han Yi's book became popular, she also helped Han Yi take care of it during college. After Yihui got better, Han Yi also invested some money in her aunt's publishing house, became her boss justifiably, and gave her good treatment.

Now that she is the deputy editor-in-chief of the publishing house at a young age, she can be regarded as worry-free, but she has been single for four or five years, and her reason is: "I live well alone, I have bread, why find someone who can't give me love and wants to share my bread?" ”

She has been single for many years, has a house and a car, and still doesn't want to fall in love or get married, she herself feels that it doesn't matter. However, her parents saw that she had everything she should have, so they thought that she had a home, and began to worry about her marriage, although she was only twenty-four or five, so she met wave after wave of blind dates.

One of them is an old classmate with her, and she was introduced by a relative, and she doesn't want to be lazy. So, on the day of the appointment, she solemnly put on makeup, put on decent clothes, and came to the restaurant that the person had set on her back.

The process of eating was quite smooth, because they were old classmates, and they hadn't seen each other for many years, so they chatted with each other about the things of their middle school days, and time passed quickly.

After eating, Zhou Pei didn't want to feel indebted, and he didn't want to refute the face of his old classmates, so he suggested that the two of them settle the account and say that they would make an appointment when they were free.

Within a few days, she received a call from a relative, who said to her: What a boy, you know the roots, and you are a classmate, why don't you take advantage of the opportunity. Why do you order expensive dishes and wear such good clothes to make people think that you are a girl who doesn't know how to run a house.

Zhou Pei was confused when she heard it, and later learned that when relatives asked about the results of the blind date, the boy said: I think she loves vanity too much, she has makeup, she is a big brand, she only picks expensive points when she orders food, and she doesn't know how to be diligent and thrifty at all, such a girl is not suitable for marriage at all.

When she heard her relatives say this, she was relieved, but fortunately it didn't work out, otherwise it would be too bad.

She put on makeup out of politeness, the clothes she wore were the brands she was used to wearing, the bag was just a random one that matched the clothes, and as for the order, she ordered it to her own taste, but she didn't follow what he imagined, everything was according to the cheapest.

She just lives according to her own standards, but in the eyes of others, she becomes a loser.

However, there is nothing wrong with her spending her own money to buy her favorite clothes and eat her favorite food, right?

In her own opinion, it's not that she's too loser, but the life she lives, which she can afford herself, and the man who went on a blind date can't afford it. Then why complain about others' love for vanity, and not reflect on one's own lack of good mind and strength?

Like Zhou Pei and this blind date, to put it bluntly, in fact, the consumption level and consumption concept are not at the same level, so it's good to get together and disperse, there is really no need to count the problems of girls, not only exposing their chest and embrace, but also proving that their material confidence is indeed insufficient.

Zhou Pei and Bai Xue also knew each other, she was indispensable when she confessed, and later became friends naturally, although there was little contact, but after Bai Xue returned to China, Zhou Pei also sent her WeChat, and this matter was also told to Bai Xue.

Because this incident also resonated with Bai Xue, after all, they both have a pair of parents who are worried about it, and she has the same experience, but she didn't listen to her parents' arrangements and was strangled in the cradle by her.

Aside from the material itself, she has never understood some people's concepts, such as: marriage is to save money together, and for the sake of this family, she has to lower her living standard again and again. The reputation is as follows: diligence and thrift.

Bai Xue was not born in a rich family, she made some money when she was an anchor, and she didn't squander it indiscriminately, and when Han Yi came to Chongqing with a shyness, she didn't have a lot of funding. In short, when it comes to money, she has never cared very much.

In her opinion, the real housekeeper is to get married, earn money together, and superimpose a high-quality life between the two of them. It's not that you save a little bit, I have a little worse, and in the end I get poorer and poorer, but I lose the vigor and hard work that I had when I was single.

If marriage is such a negative effect and a cheap mentality, then what's the use of asking for it?

In Zhou Pei's words, "Whether it's a woman or a man, you can try anything from the other party, but don't try to save money, you don't know, it's not money that is saved, but the motivation to make money." When you don't have money, you should think about how to earn it, instead of chanting scriptures like a monk chanting and saying to that person: You give up your high requirements and have high standards to cooperate with me to play a play without pursuit. ”

After a long time, even a girl who is independent and has capital will be dragged by him, falling lower and lower, and no longer has the capital to soar into the sky.

In a family, once two people have no higher expectations, what hope is there.

really likes someone, not to let her lower her posture and accommodate the other party's low standards, but to keep working hard, elevate herself, and live a better and better life with her. This is the so-called door-to-door match, and the other party's efforts must be worthy of her hard work.

Many times, girls are not afraid of poverty itself, they are afraid of the poor mentality, they are afraid of being poor all the time, and they blame others for being too luxurious.

A person who always only asks you to save, but doesn't want to earn it yourself, forget it, a marriage that only wants you to lower your standards, but doesn't dare to raise your own requirements, don't do it.

Girls like Bai Xue and Zhou Pei, you must know that they study hard, work hard, and raise themselves very expensive, because they don't want to cheap anyone.

is single, not because no one loves you, but because you don't easily start a love without any emotional foundation, and you don't abuse it. When they meet someone they really love, understand each other, and slowly develop feelings, they will also rush to it.