There is a saying that goes like this: "Suspicion turns all concern into ulterior motives." ”

The most comfortable relationship between lovers should be that they don't have to guess with each other.

The most tiring thing between two people is to say something without saying it directly, let the other party experience it themselves, and people with good feelings often say what they think.

There is no doubt that Han Yi and Bai Xue are like this, they can spread out what they say, but they want to let the other party experience it themselves, and the result is that there are constant misunderstandings.

In fact, when you reach a certain age, you will find that no one wants to please at first, and you will be with whoever you are comfortable with.

If you are tired, you should stay away, if you are comfortable, you must not go the same way, life is already so difficult, why not let yourself live a smoother life?

Just a few days ago, an old employee in Han Yi's company, who is now a manager, sent Han Yi a few WeChat messages.

He said to Han Yi: "I feel very tired at work recently, and I need to guess hard when the leader has a meeting or the instructions issued by the boss, which not only occupies my working time, but also needs to figure out what the leader's words are at today's meeting after work?" I miss working with you, I don't need to guess what you usually say, not only did I grow up very quickly, but it was also very enjoyable, which is something I don't experience now······"

To Han Yi's surprise, in the end, the old employee hesitated and said his idea of resignation. And the reason for this, he didn't say it clearly, although Han Yi was retained, but in the end it was fruitless, and the conversation between the two felt like a fog.

This may also have a lot to do with Han Yi's lack of focus on Yihui in recent months and his negligent management of Yihui, but this old employee was vague, and finally "granted" his wish to resign.

One of the things that many people don't like to hear in life and love in the workplace is, "You can experience it yourself", "Think about it yourself", "Think about it".

But the question is, "I'm not you, how can I understand you?" ”

It is clear that things can be asked directly, but they have their own speculations and misunderstandings.

Why didn't Andy choose the singularity in "Ode to Joy"?

It was because of the cold pros and cons analysis and speculation on Singularity that the Singularity had something to hide from the first meal, and he took the subway to Andy's downstairs to invite her to dinner, and the whole process was full of precautions.

The second meal, Andy was full of trust in him, and even followed him to a remote private restaurant for dinner, but Singularity's performance was extremely disappointing, he tested Andy, and even asked a friend to check Andy's car.

When Andy left, he left a sentence: "Don't always observe me, test me, and test me." ”

The most important thing to get along with is to be comfortable, talk without purpose, and once you add suspicion, the taste changes.

There are no fools in life, everyone is a smart person, and when you figure out others, others are actually thinking about you.

Really smart people come with a lot of sincerity, because they know that only sincerity is something that cannot be refused.

And those self-righteous suspicions have become a slap in the face in the future.

If you like someone, you have to tell her, it's not round after round of temptation, it's not roundabout, hot and cold, so you can't figure it out.

People who can't guess turn into memories in the end, and those who accompany us to the end are those who can bring warmth.

Zhang Jiajia said: "Love is a formula that dissolves misunderstandings, eliminates doubts, merges hopes, and generates reunions." There are so many lovers on both sides of the equal sign, but you can't calculate me, and I can't equal you. ”

The future is getting farther and farther away, the past is getting longer and longer, love divided by time, it turns out to be equal to memory.

When love has no eyes and only ears, you only believe what you guess.

Suspicion often begins with speculation, which is like one day when you see your lover going out to meet someone of the opposite sex, you don't say it, but you start to care silently in your heart.

You pretend to ask the other person lightly, but she avoids it, thinking that her guess has been confirmed.

Later, the speculation became fermented, turned into suspicion, began to stalk and question, became hysterical, and finally proposed to break up one day.

forced the other party to tell the truth: "That boy is just looking for me to help him get his girlfriend back, because his girlfriend is my best friend." ”

You are dumbfounded, and you find that there are always some things that are inconvenient for others to talk to you.

Lovers can share with each other, but they don't have to report everything. Give the other person some space, you will definitely share what you want to say, and I will not ask if you don't want to say it.

The more space you have, the longer you spend with each other.

Michael Jackson once said, "When a world is full of hatred, we must still dare to hope." When a world is filled with despair, we must still dare to dream. And when a world is full of suspicion, we must still dare to trust. ”

The same is true in friendship, you don't have to worry about what others say is aimed at you, you don't need to deliberately interpret it. You are comfortable with each other, and all the conversations and jokes are the most natural, and there is no need to cater to them, so that's fine.

Everything that needs to be maintained with all your strength is not worth nostalgia.

The best relationship is that we don't have to guess when we stand in front of each other, you do yourself, I do myself, we are two independent and complete individuals, just collided with sparks, very compatible, no need to guess, no need to cater to whom, just put yourself naked there to attract people who understand.

"Everybody goes through this stage and when they see a mountain, they wonder what's behind it. I would love to tell him that maybe after going over the back of the hill, you will find nothing special. Looking back, you may feel that this side is better. ”

In life, many people will have such feelings, and will also use this experience to guide and persuade others. In their eyes, everything is not as good as it was at the beginning. If you don't toss, you won't waste time and go wrong.

However, there will be another kind of person who will not stop and set off towards the mountain even if they know the mountain well from the mouths of others.

Even if you run a lap, you're back to square one. Even if you go over the mountain, there is no scenery to see at all. They will still be happy and reaping the rewards.

Because, in their eyes, the process of setting off and crossing is the scenery itself, and it does not necessarily have to be the end, or the other side. To enjoy the process is to understand life.

Start in curiosity and move forward in exploration. Both of these are the hallmarks of a person's live steaminess.

To see whether a person's life is interesting or boring, we must first see whether he is tired of starting and unwilling to move forward.

Albert Einstein once said, "Whoever ceases to be curious and amazed is like a walking corpse, whose eyes are foggy." ”

It is true that people who have always been able to see the distance clearly, not be confused, and live their lives in a lively and lively way, have always been full of desire to explore and curiosity.

Keep exploring and pursuing, even if you see through the truth of life, you still love life and tirelessly find fun for yourself.

Based on the objective world and realistic environment of seeing mountains as mountains and water as water, we will carry out philosophical speculation on life by looking at mountains and water without water, and finally enter the realm of great enlightenment of seeing mountains and mountains and water or water.

Live a different life like this, even the ego between heaven and earth must bloom brilliantly and live wonderfully.

There is nothing special on the other side of the mountain, so let the process of trekking over leave a special memory. Just like the spring flower will eventually be gone, but it will not affect its gorgeous season; It's like a wax torch will eventually go out, but it won't affect it to illuminate the night.

The most beautiful scenery is on the road, it is not the infinite scenery on the top of the mountain, but the birds and flowers on the way, the forest and insects singing, and the appearance of you sweating and taking steps.

If you have a mountain in your heart, you will climb it; If you have the sea in your heart, you will go to swim across it; If you have a way in your heart, you will step bravely.

You have your destiny, you have your pursuit, and all the persuasion of those who say nothing more than that, nothing special, is not enough to make you stop.

Mr. Lu Xun's famous quote also goes like this: "Embark on the journey of life." The future is far and bleak. But don't be afraid, for there is a way in front of those who are not afraid. ”

Zhang Ailing once wrote in "Red Rose and White Rose": married a red rose, and over time, the red one changed to a smear of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white one was still "the bright moonlight in front of the bed"; married a white rose, the white one is a grain of rice sticky on the clothes, but the red one is a cinnabar mole on the heart.

In this way, it seems that what you can't get is the best, but in fact, only when you get it can you be together, and only when you are together can you know whether it is suitable or not, only when you accompany each other for a while, can you understand who is the person who can talk, and who will accompany you to the end. You yearn for your "bright moonlight in front of the bed", and you admire your "cinnabar mole in your heart", but maybe if you are really together, you will find that she is far inferior to your so-called "mosquito blood" and "white rice grains".

In fact, getting along with two people is the process of running in with each other, and if the run-in is successful, it is a lifetime of companionship.

"Affection is not as good as long-term companionship, love does not need to be said"

Actually, the love between Han Yi and Bai Xue is needless to say, but the long-term companionship seems to be almost meaningful.

We will meet many people in our lives: some come and go; Some go and return; Some pass by; Some people go all the way. Some people may meet at the previous intersection and separate at the next.

As time keeps walking, you will always meet the right person at the right time, and then walk together, through the ups and downs, until the wind and rain stop; walked through youth and youth, and walked to gray hair.

Life passed simply like this.

Good feeling is the joy at first sight, like is the power of action, and love is not tired of being around for a long time.

And Han Yi and Bai Xue both understand that liking, fitting, and being together are actually three different things.

There are not many ups and downs they face together in their relationship, and now it is a test for them and a run-in process.

Why bother "if life is only as first seen", but it is enough to look at each other and never get tired of it!

At that time, you will find that the so-called white-headed old age is not so profound. Some are just getting used to each other slowly in a gentle time.

And all the long-term non-tires are because of each other's intentions. Be yourself with your heart and do something you like.