Bai Xue has just finished reading the book "To D Love History" written by French writer André Goetz, the life of Götz and D, the unswerving love until death, is sincere and touching to read.

What she has learned from this is that a good love will definitely be able to go through the vicissitudes of life and the stars together. And love will also seep into the bone marrow with the flow of time, and the deep affection will melt into the heart and soul.

"Love History to D" is a love letter written by Goetz to his terminally ill wife D, in which he recalls the emotional journey that the two have gone through together for 58 years, the difficult years and life times they have gone through together. When Goetz finishes writing his love letters, he opens the gas cylinder, takes his beloved wife D's hand, and rushes to another world together.

Among them, a passage written by Goetz to his wife D is quite touching:

Soon you will be eighty-two years old, your height has shortened by six centimeters, and your weight is only forty-five kilograms. But you are as beautiful and elegant as ever, and I am touched. We've been together for fifty-eight years, and my love for you has grown stronger. There was this annoying emptiness in my chest again, and it could only be filled when your burning body snuggled into my arms.

Although each of us longs for a love that grows old together, not many of us can go to the end together. Because of the brightness and touching of the first acquaintance, it may gradually become less dazzling in the life of firewood, rice, oil and salt. Passion will fade away, replaced by the dullness of day after day, and love will also withstand the many tests of the years.

And why does Goetz's love for D become more and more affectionate? And what kind of courage allowed Goetz to overcome the fear of death and run to another world with his beloved?

Bai Xue leaned lazily on the back of the big bed, one on the left was Li Jia, and the other was Xin Nuannuan on the right.

She remembered a sentence, smiled and said, "Love is actually a habit." ”

Li Jia and Nuan Nuan both cast unclear eyes and looked at her, but did not give her any verbal response.

There are many ways to love, but she only seems to believe in the power of habit to make this affection last forever.

If a person is accustomed to being nice to you, then even if the world is devastated, he will always be good to you, and love will grow stronger and stronger over time. If both parties are accustomed to complaining and calculating, then love will be like a stake eaten by moths, and the two hearts will only drift apart.

Obviously, the love between Goetz and D belongs to the former. Goetz is both deeply loving and grateful to D. Because D is a wise woman, she manages the marriage carefully. D respects Goetz's ideals and helps him to achieve them together. In order to make him better pursue his dreams, she took the initiative to take on many problems in life, and during this time, she was also realizing the value of her life.

In getting along day after day, they are accustomed to accompanying each other with sincerity and affection, and they are also accustomed to paying for each other and being grateful, and each other's lives have long been integrated into each other's voices, smells and ways of being.

In his love letters, Goetz wrote, "Born of one another, for one another." Therefore, when he learned that she was about to die, his world collapsed, and he lost the courage and strength to live.

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Xue has lived in the countryside since she was a child, and she has always liked to watch those warm and loving pictures:

When she went to school, she could always see her uncle riding a bicycle to carry her aunt behind her in the morning and returning late, and the decades of love were engraved in the years day after day.

One day when I was going to school, I happened to meet a couple and their children, and the man helped the woman carry her bag and carried a bottle of water in her hand. Halfway up the mountain, the man unscrewed the cap of the bottle and handed the water to the woman to drink, and the two looked at each other and smiled, enjoying themselves.

The trickle of water in ordinary life is often more delicate and moving than the romance that is as vigorous as the tide.

The ordinary life is also full of a lot of small blessings, and it also makes me understand that the care and consideration for each other, as well as the cherishing and fit that permeates the bits and pieces of life, will become a habit of love, and will also make the story of life more moving and eternal.

Whether it is in love or marriage, this kind of love is the kind of care that he can always think of you at the first time.

When I went to work, I was worried that she was too tired, so I would leave a message every once in a while to remind her to pay attention to rest. Every time I come home, I can always eat the hot meal he has prepared, and I can always eat the fruit that he prepared for me in advance. Such a woman is happy.

In the evening, when she was done washing, she would stay in the bedroom reading or writing, and he would sit quietly doing his own thing, and he would also hear him get up and pour water, and then put a glass of warm water on her table.

This love also gives the real life of firewood, rice, oil and salt a proper and intimate sense of ritual. On weekends, they can go hiking together, walk the streets and alleys, and go to the surrounding supermarkets together, and browse and shop among the dazzling daily necessities. In the kitchen, which is soaked in the smell of fireworks, there is the sound of pots and pans clashing.

They usually cook for one person, and one person for cooking, and the smell of life wafts in the air. They will clean up together, put on some pleasant little music, and will happily catch up on a drama, laughing and chatting while watching. Even though the two of them sometimes disagreed, and he turned around and went out to buy my favorite fruit, nothing happened.

The old vows of heaven and earth are not as steady and reassuring as every tiny moment. Even if there are thousands of customs in the world, they can't match our time full of joyful firewood, rice, oil and salt.

And this love will also melt into each other's blood and become a habit in the lives of two people. We will get used to the companionship and companionship in the ordinary year, and we will get used to tolerating and accepting each other's imperfections with love, and bring a warm light to each other's lives.

Bai Xue leaned on Nuan Nuan's shoulder and said, "When I was alone before, I always felt that my strength was very thin. And after being with Han Yi, I seem to have the power to grow in an instant, which gives me the courage to gradually put away the cowardice and fear in my heart and resist the loneliness and coldness of this world. ”

"Then cherish it!" Nuan Nuan touched her face, red and a little hot, obviously the wine was still there.

She remembered what Wang Xiaobo said: "My courage and your courage add up, it's enough to deal with this world, right?" Go and send it out to the world

Our voice, I alone do not dare, with you, I dare. ”

Love is a heroic dream in a tired life, and because of the person who loves, you can be unfazed, and this life becomes long and meaningful.

Anthony said in "The Little Prince": "Love is not looking at each other all day long, love is looking into the distance together and walking together." But not everyone can use love as a force to nourish each other's soul and life.

But good love can. Because good love will make a person reborn and become a better version of themselves.

Bai Xue once watched a large-scale event on campus, during which she was deeply impressed by the speeches of two people.

First of all, a young woman with a good image came to the stage to give a speech, she appeared elegantly in a light blue dress, dignified and decent, bright and moving, her speech was full of passion and contagion, exuding a glamorous light.

Then an entrepreneur came to the stage to give a speech, and his speech was also very exciting, which won bursts of applause from the audience. At the end of the conversation, he suddenly became affectionate, and he said, "I have today, and I have one person to thank for that, and that is my wife." The one who just spoke was my wife. ”

There was a "wow" sound, and the flash then fell on the wife who was sitting in the audience, and everyone looked in the direction of the light.

Only then did she see that she was already a mother of two children, holding a younger child in her arms, and a slightly older child sitting next to her, her face showed a shallow smile, a gentle light, she and the child sat very quietly, looking at the gentleman on the stage. At that moment, her beauty touched Bai Xue.

Then the entrepreneurs told their love story. He said that in the past, he was like a hanger, he didn't like to study, he didn't want to make progress, and he went out to work before finishing high school. Smoking, drinking, and fun, he lived a life of part-time work for a few years. Later, by chance, he met his current wife, and then they fell in love.

At that time, his wife was still in college, and she encouraged him to study several times, and later he decided to pick up books again for love, and he was admitted to college. Later, she encouraged him to start his own business, they went to work during the day, studied and improved together at night, and slowly crawled in the society, so that they finally had what they are today, and now they have a pair of lovely children.

He said, "It was my wife who gave me the chance to be born again, otherwise I would not know where I am today."

Bai Xue knows very well that love is independent of each other, but also mutual fulfillment. The person who truly loves you will not let you fall into the dust, but will work hard to fulfill you, push you, and hold your dreams high with you.

Good love is the driving force for growth, it will brighten each other's world, and make the community of life more powerful and glorious.

When I was studying at the University of Ka, I met an old couple from Malaysia, because they asked for directions and had a one-time relationship. The couple is gentle and kind-eyed, making people feel very comfortable.

When she takes the couple to a restaurant for dinner, they strongly demand that Shirayuki and him

Let's dine together. The interaction between husband and wife is very warm, and the man will put the woman's favorite dishes into her bowl. After the meal, they talked about how they had gone to many countries and places together in addition to the Americas.

"When I was younger, I was busy with my career and basically didn't have any vacations," the man said. My wife used to be a university professor, so she took a lot of vacations, but she also spent her time supporting my family and supporting my career. So there's very little time we really spend together. But I've always remembered that when we retire, we're going to make it happen together to travel the world. Although it was a little late, we are on our way now and we are happy. ”

Good love is not full of unwillingness and resentment. Only the pursuit of the same, the direction is the same, there is a high degree of spiritual identity and tacit understanding, because the lives of two people who love each other are together.

Good love is always able to be in the same boat together through thick and thin, wearing the stars and wearing the moon, and retiring to enjoy the little bits and pieces of life together, which is a small luck.

And behind the love, it comes from the deep love and kindness for each other, and there must be what Bai Yansong said in "Are You Happy": "I don't want to say tacit understanding or fate, behind this, there should be two people who consider each other's care and kindness." ”

Although Bai Xue has not experienced much love, she has seen many loving couples.

In the hurried journey of life, the most commendable thing is that I happened to ferry by boat at the bridge in the spring willow breeze, and then met a lifetime, and there was joy in meeting, and life became calm, vast and soft. We became the ones in each other's lives who crossed you.

She has always known that as long as they love each other, as long as they are less careful, more attentive, wise and tolerant, as long as they know how to be content and are willing to maintain a posture of growth, then this heartbeat can melt all the unbearable and continue to be wild.

She knows how to be content, but she is very entangled, hating that she can't help but care, and she can't be tolerant.

She also doesn't want to focus on the incompleteness of the relationship and ignore the warmth and beauty, who doesn't know that only by cherishing what you have, can you look back at this "love years" in the twilight, and feel that there are no regrets in this life, and it is worth spending?

Her love for Han Yi has long become a habit, and the sudden interruption makes her very uncomfortable.

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