Sometimes you will find that some things, no matter how good you do, there will still be people who are not satisfied; Some people, no matter how sincere they are, will still have times when they will not be rewarded. Just like Han Min is so serious about his feelings and is willing to give, but in exchange for betrayal and pain. Just like Zhong Yinger, she works very hard and treats people sincerely, but work and love are not the same.

The life of adults is not easy, there are old, there are young, we dare not fall down easily, we dare not cry easily, we bury the pain of those experiences, are buried deep in our hearts, because no one behind us is reliable, so we want to become our own heroes, because we have not yet reached the last step, so we can't give up halfway.

Li Jia also knew that there was something wrong with Han Yi, so she and Feng Zhiyao rushed back to Chongqing in a hurry without staying for two days, first, for fear that Yihui would be implicated, and secondly, to see if they could help Han Yi.

When she was on the plane, a strange boy next to her, who was about the same age as herself, suddenly asked her, "Do you have to buy a house and a car to get married?" ”

Li Jia looked at him very suspiciously, very sad, he seemed to be arguing with his girlfriend before the plane took off, and after exchanging a few text messages, he angrily turned off the plane.

"Look at people, huh?" Li Jia is not very sure, probably because she is a familiar personality, and she is quite happy when people talk to her, which is better than sitting alone stupidly.

After a simple conversation, Li Jia learned that the boy's underground relationship with his girlfriend for three years had just been exposed, and the girl's parents strongly objected. The boy graduated two years ago and has been struggling in the private sector. His salary is relatively not low, but after all, he has just worked for two years and saved some money, but it is not enough to buy a house, and his family conditions are average.

He said he worked hard for the sake of their future. But he is too young, has no background and no accumulation, every step is very difficult, and many things can not be done with hard work.

The girl is very beautiful, but the family is also relatively poor. The parents were not optimistic about this relationship, so the girl was deceived into going on a blind date and left each other's phone calls. When he accidentally sees a goodnight text message from her blind date on her phone, the boy erupts. Low self-esteem mixed with anger made him quarrel with the girl. Even so, he still has to work, and after a quarrel with his girlfriend, he has to accept the company's arrangement to go on a business trip.

"Do you have to buy a house and a car to get married? Why are people so snobbish now? So he asked Li Jia like this.

He thought that Li Jia would comfort him, but Li Jia replied: "Yes, that's right!" For many people, no money means they are not qualified to get married! ”

Li Jia didn't mean to look down on or ridicule him, she just simply expressed her opinion. She is a person from the past, and her family conditions are better than Feng Zhiyao, so her parents were also against it when they were together, but she persevered, Feng Zhiyao has always been consistent with her, and she is a potential stock, so she went directly to the Civil Affairs Bureau with Feng Zhiyao to get a certificate. But for most people, this is a real problem, whether it's a parent or a partner, they need it

The material basis cannot be said to be a force at all.

Li Jia also told him a story about an employee of her company, not to convince him of anything, just to talk about things.

The girlfriend and boyfriend both came out of a small town to study, and they have been working here since graduation, the girl is an ordinary employee of her company, and the boy is a salesperson in another company.

Not long ago, the girl broke up with her boyfriend, and she cried to a good colleague and said, "I'm 28 years old, I have to get married." But his family can't afford to buy a house, and my family can't afford it. The consumption level here is high, and he doesn't plan to go back to his hometown. Thinking about it, maybe I'm in my 30s, we're still running around for rent, and love can't be eaten, I'm really afraid of the future! ”

Li Jia heard this, some people, even most of the young people with no background, came by nibbling on steamed buns and eating pickles all the way, no matter how bitter and sweet they were in love. But when I see that the girl is about to become the age of an advanced mother, no matter how dull a person is, she will become awake, and love will not be an anesthetic.

Every now and then, they think, if only they had money. In the past, Li Jia and Feng Zhiyao were the same, her monthly salary was only three or four thousand, but fortunately, Feng Zhiyao's salary was not bad. Han Yi is the same, he doesn't even have the money to invite Bai Xue to a Western meal, and he has to borrow two hundred yuan from Keiko when he goes out on a date.

If there is no money, the purest love will also be tested by money, which is particularly cold. It's like a beautiful robe, and it's crawling with lice.

Li Jia said with pity: "That's right, marriage and love are different!" Love can have nothing to do with money, not marriage. The cruelest thing is that no matter how much equality between men and women is promoted, most of the responsibility of providing for the family in the social concept still rests on the shoulders of men. In real life, we have seen many girls' parents disagree with their relationship because the boy has no money; But I have never seen a boy's parents disagree with the girl's marriage because of their poverty. When in love, the girl said: It's okay, what I like is your person. When she got married, the girl and her parents said: Don't get married if you don't have money. ”

Seeing that the boy's eyes were a little moist, Li Jia's chatterbox seemed to be opened, and continued: "I am a woman, I don't judge so many girls and families take it for granted that making money is a man's obligation, right, but marriage really can't be poor!" When we are in love, we are full of water, and it is sweet for us to sit at a roadside stall and eat spicy hot. After getting married and having a child, are you willing to let him sit on the side of the road with you and eat gutter oil again? ”

A man will cry for a woman, which is enough to prove that he loves her, so Li Jia is willing to say so much as a person who has come over.

When in love, the girl sits in the back seat of the boy's bicycle, feeling the breeze on campus, and her heart is sweet. After getting married, the woman sat in the back seat of the man's motorcycle, the child was held in front of the man, and the family of three in the winter was almost paralyzed. Suddenly, there was a sudden brake, and their baby flew out like a shuttlecock.

When we are in love, we are strong and strong, and occasionally we have a cold

The water is not painful or itchy; After getting married, I found out that I couldn't afford to have a serious illness, and the child's milk powder money and kindergarten tuition alone accounted for more than half of their salaries. As a man, looking at the emaciated child lying on the hospital bed, looking at the wife who is helpless because she has no money to pay the hospitalization fee, can't you hear the sound of your heart cracking? You don't hate why you didn't work hard back then?

It's a cruel idea, but it's so realistic, so realistic that many young people don't want to accept it.

It's really not wrong to be poor, but if you are too poor, you should struggle first, and don't think about getting married first. Marriage is life, not living. The difference between the two is: whether you have both confidence and quality.

Of course, there are also people who get married because of poor love, and then chatter and quarrel, swallow their anger and make do with it for a lifetime, and divorce immediately if they can't bear it, this is simply not too much.

In this era, if you don't have money, you don't have so dignity to live. You can grieve yourself. But you are reluctant to grieve your children - this is also the idea of many girls' parents. Maybe your father was also a poor boy who was illiterate, and your mother accompanied him all the way through the ups and downs. But when it's your turn to find a partner, your mother says: No money.

Is this snobbery? We don't judge. Like, if a woman thinks a man is poor, she will be scolded; So isn't it another kind of snobbery that men think women are ugly?

Li Jia really wants to tell him that there will never be a shortage of good girls in this world who are willing to endure hardships with you and work hard with you. But you also have to understand that if she doesn't marry you because you're poor, it may not just be because of money, but you don't see a future in you.

But he didn't say it, because it hurts. It's a meeting in the water, and there is no need to block people.

Besides, love is a matter of two people, but marriage is far from being so simple. When you fall in love, you only need Wang Ba Mung Bean to look at the right eye and everything will be fine, but you have to think more about getting married, and the first of these is material.

It is also men who bear the brunt of the economic pressure.

In fact, for parents, there is nothing wrong with feeling sorry for their girl. For the girl, being afraid of unknown difficulties and retreating may not be considered money worship. You are penniless in your 20s, complaining that your girlfriend's parents are too snobbish and only recognize money and not people; You became a father in your 50s, watching your girl take an easy path, and you also chose a poor boy in rags - maybe you can understand the feelings of your wife and parents back then.

Many girls are like this: when I was in my 20s, because I loved you, I was willing to fight with you even if I was poor. But if we become mothers, we absolutely can't bear to let our daughters go to work in a gray winter morning, instead of sitting in a private car with air conditioning by themselves, but freezing their bodies and waiting for the first bus; I can't stand that she was kicked out by the landlord in the middle of the night with a big belly and her husband because she couldn't pay the rent, standing on the dark street with a bunch of boxes, and crying helplessly.

For many people, houses, cars and money represent a sense of security and belonging in marriage, and have nothing to do with money worship. What do you say, you and me, that is the spice of a worry-free life. If

Running around for a living every day, how can you have time to experience any love.

Love is really just a function of hormones. When the passion fades and each other becomes the most authentic appearance, coupled with the tempering of firewood, rice, oil and salt, will you regret your original choice?

Not all girls look at money. If you don't convince her of the promise that you will make her happy in the future, it may be because your promise is often not fulfilled. Moreover, the love and security you give are not enough.

It's not to bully young people who are poor, but just because of money, there are too many examples of mandarin ducks being beaten with sticks. Why do so many girls' parents ask their marriage partners to "buy a house and a car"? Because parents can analyze how fragile your future without a material foundation is from the perspective of all realities, the only thing that cannot be experienced is your feelings. They don't want a lot of money, they just want their daughter to be happy – at least not to suffer because she is poor.

Therefore, if you are disgusted because you have no money and have time to scold others for being snobbish, you might as well think about how to seek recognition.

Li Jia simply expressed her opinion and then turned sideways for a while, in fact, she has always believed that as long as two people love each other enough, and have the determination and perseverance to live a better life in the future, parents who are a little more enlightened may not object, because she is a living example. Unless the woman is extremely picky, the family situation is really difficult, and the girl can only rely on marriage to turn the tables; Or they don't trust this man at all, and don't believe that he has the ability to make them both happy in the future. Fortunately, her parents are the kind of enlightened parents, so her persistence allowed her to get her wish.

(End of chapter)