A woman, 25 years old, if you are single, will be forced to marry, will worry that you will not meet the person you like, will be eager for love and afraid of marriage.

Bai Xue is at this age, and her family does not support her medical studies, because she will have to spend five years in her undergraduate, let alone the graduate school entrance examination, and even if she graduates, there is no relationship at home to find, and she feels that she will not find any good job.

Her family conditions are not good, and since she repeated high school, her parents were reluctant to let her continue her studies. In addition, at that time, her sister lost her child and suffered from depression, and the family put a lot of pressure on her, hoping that she would go out to work like other children in the village, and then find a good family to marry when she reached a certain age.

In fact, it was not easy for her to come this way, because her parents at home did not understand and gave her a lot of pressure.

Unconsciously, time pushed me to the age of talking about marriage, and I didn't want to believe that I had suddenly stepped into the threshold of 26 years old. Like many girls in the late 80s and early 90s, I always feel that I am 18, but time accidentally runs over my youth. She rarely goes home to visit her parents, and she doesn't even dare to answer their phone calls, because there is always only one topic for them: to find someone with good family conditions to marry!

After getting off work in the afternoon, she didn't rush home, because she began to be afraid of a person's house, as if the scene of quarreling with Han Yi would echo as soon as she walked in.

He sat in the lounge, casually flipping through the magazine, and saw such a paragraph, and felt very touched: Recently, I often sigh with my friends, I used to be able to easily fall in love only by liking, but at this age, I can no longer simply consider the feeling, the 25-year-old concept of love is no longer simply liking and hating, but will begin to carefully consider how to get along in the future? Is your work and life fulfilling? Can two people be happy together? Can parents and children be taken care of together? Will we be able to take on the various problems that may arise in the future?

She is twenty-six years old, but in her heart, she still longs for a pure love, just simply I like you, you like me, there are not too many worldly factors.

But the real world doesn't seem to have room for such an idealized her. Reality tells her that marriage is marriage, love is love, and there is unreasonable interference from her parents!

How much she longs for a loving marriage, with Han Yi's love and marriage, she can't imagine how lonely she will be in a marriage that has lost love, she can't imagine what it will be like in a marriage without Han Yi!

Thinking about the slap that was thrown at Han Yi, it was not only Han Yi, but also herself.

Occasionally, I envy those who can clearly understand their needs in the relationship, and it seems that it is easier to be content and happy. For some people, if you give her a diamond ring, you can make her heart bloom; Some people, if you are kind to her, you can make her your princess; There are also people who can't be captivated by love and can't be bought by money, they stand there ironcladly, just to receive a love that they are satisfied with.

"How tiring it is to like someone, and how low is the probability of meeting someone you like. So it's as simple as that, I like it

Joy to you, you like me, it has become an expensive luxury in the world. She felt like this in her heart, maybe because of the urging of her parents, or because there was a rift in the relationship with Han Yi.

When Bai Xue was still studying in Cardiff, she received a text message from a college classmate, saying that she was about to get married. She was not surprised, because in their hometown, there were too many girls who got married at the age of twenty, and these classmates were almost twenty-three or four, which was normal, but I admired her great courage. 【# ！ & Better, newer and faster]

Her classmates told her that the boy was really an ordinary person, without any special qualities, and even timid when he spoke, but the only advantage was that he was good to her. But this one advantage actually offset all his shortcomings, and his classmates chose him without hesitation.

While they were eating with their friends, the boy sat there in silence, listening to them. Friends said that the boy would be a good husband, but he would not necessarily be able to take on the responsibilities of the family.

The first is that he has no skills, the second is that he does not have a stable source of income, and the last is that he has a vague concept of home, he is not ready for himself, the only thing he has is a loving heart. Maybe the power of love is powerful, but no matter how strong it is, it is not as powerful as the unexpected and unexpected birth, old age, sickness and death in reality.

Maybe in the bottom of her heart, Bai Xue also longs for herself to be so brave, but in reality, she does not approve of such a naked marriage by her classmates. If love is the life and death contract of two people, then marriage is the ups and downs of a group of people. It involves the life circle of parents who will be dying in the future, the next generation who are waiting to be fed, and even more people, and it is not just a simple relationship.

She has also witnessed a pair of lovers turn from beautiful people to enemies.

They fell in love when they were in high school, and after graduating from college, they naturally said they wanted to be together. Of course, the woman's family disagreed, disliked the boy and did not want to make progress, but the girl firmly believed that he would give her happiness.

At first, in the two-person world without children, the relationship between the two was quite harmonious and there were not too many disputes, but with the birth of the child, the two had more and more conflicts.

First of all, in terms of the gender of the child, the two have their own opinions, the boy has the old-fashioned thinking, preferring sons over girls, and the girl gives birth to a daughter; The second is that the boy likes to drink and play games, has no plan for his career, and has to get by with his life. Girls are no longer innocent, boys are no longer gentle and affectionate, and life goes on like this.

In this way, she couldn't help but think that Han Yi worked so hard and worked so hard, he probably didn't want their relationship to stay at that stage. As Keiko said, marriage must have a solid economic foundation, and there is no need for a lot of business planning, but at least both parties must prepare themselves, not just on a whim.

Keiko had said that she loved Qiu Lang very much, but if neither of them had any financial strength, she would fall in love with him, but she would not be able to marry him.

Yes, many girls, at the age of twenty-three or four, are still naïve fantasies about love, longing for a platonic love, but at the age of 25

After that, he woke himself up with a stumble.

They will constantly ask themselves, "If I need to enter into a marriage, what am I going to do with it, is it just love?" Can I support my aging parents in the face of their aging parents? In the face of the imminent baby, can I make it worry-free? Can I take the troubles that come my life to the next calmly? ”

Then give the answer like this: "No, I can't do anything for the time being." ”

Perhaps in the bottom of their hearts, they all have a fairy-tale belief, believing that hardships come willingly, believing that there is no way out of doubts. But reality is reality, when they can't prepare themselves well, what do they love others, love the people they want to love.

Until now, Bai Xue still longs for a pure love like other young girls, but the reality tells her that a marriage with only love and no support may not last long. Life is not an idol drama, there are not so many rich and handsome, and there are not so many white rich and beautiful. Not all Cinderellas can meet the prince, and not all princes can look up to Cinderella.

Of course, in addition to this kind of girl who lives in idol dramas, there is also a kind of marriage full of interests that many people choose because of this unrealistic heaviness. We can't judge this phenomenon from a moral point of view, because everyone is pursuing something different, so there is nothing wrong with it. However, this kind of hope that others will change your mind is still avoided as much as possible. Whoever you are, you will meet.

She and Han Yi both came from the countryside, and when she was with Han Yi, Han Yi was still a poor boy. No matter how rich Han Yi becomes, she will not be the Cinderella in idol dramas, they have lived together through thick and thin, and they will always be equal.

Many girls will say to their beloved boys: You can not have a good start, but you must have a process of hard work; You can not make a lot of money, but you must have a motivated heart; You can not have a good job, but you have to endure hardships instead of resting on your laurels.

Then I am full of fantasies about the other person: I can tell him my dreams, and he will pamper and say, go; He will be happy with my progress, and he will be proud of my accomplishments; He would listen to my advice and discuss with me what to do. He will not be afraid of how difficult the road ahead will be, and he will be willing to work hard for me.

Actually, these are too beautiful, even if you see it, but it is difficult to do it in reality.

There don't seem to be any of these problems between them, and if these are not the problems between them, why are they still stagnating here? There is love between her and Han Yi, and it has come to this step when it comes to marriage, but she is still troubled by things in reality.

26-year-old Bai Xue, past the age of and can't live in Qiong Yao dramas anymore, she can't just love and don't want anything else, she can't just love others, she needs to calm down and face the problems between her and Han Yi, and improve herself while solving the problem.

Try harder

There will be a time when people who run will stop to hold their knees and catch their breath. However, if you want to run again after a break, you will not be able to do it, and if you don't stop and grit your teeth and run until the finish line, you won't feel too tired.

She didn't give up her dream because Keiko offered her a high-ranking and high-paying position, and she didn't stop working because she blindly accepted Han Yi to provide her with better living conditions. This may also be the reason why she has been insisting on herself because she has ignored the ideas imposed on her by her parents.

Bai Xue packed up her things and forced a smile on her face with both hands. Just like Han Yi, even if the two quarrel and cry, there are many other things to do in life.

(End of chapter)