Chapter 377: I hope Bai Xue will get out of her psychological comfort zone
Originally, Bai Xue could start a new day happily, but because of Li Jia's arrival, the melancholy that she had suppressed for several days came out again.
"Did you come so early to talk to me about this?" Bai Xue snatched the hot and sour noodles that Li Jia hadn't finished eating, neither showing anger nor any happy emotions.
Li Jia's eyes followed the bowl of hot and sour noodles that had not yet been eaten, "You let me finish it!" ”
"Your hands are not good yet, you are still taking anti-inflammatory drugs, try not to eat sour and spicy things!" Bai Xue poured her and was opened to her by Liang Bai, although she was a little blamed for the things she had done to hide from herself, but it had all happened and passed, in fact, she didn't have any intention of blaming her anymore. On the contrary, he was obviously very concerned, but he pretended to be indifferent.
"I'm done eating, you just say it now!" Li Jia snorted angrily and disdainfully, but to be honest, Bai Xue couldn't stop her, and it didn't hurt to eat a little.
"Thank you! Thank you for being by his side and taking care of him all these years. As for what you said, I'll digest it, but you know, he's a workaholic, and now he doesn't care about me at all! He's been with you more than I have ever been in touch with! ”
Li Jia couldn't help laughing, "You really eat my jealousy!" Don't worry, the boss doesn't have any feelings for me, I don't dare to think anything wrong about him, even if I sleep in the same bed, nothing will happen! You're not going to think of me as an imaginary enemy, are you? ”
"What nonsense!" Bai Xue made a striking gesture, raising her hand in the air, but refused to fall.
"I'm here to tell you. I will go back to my parents to stay for a week in the morning, and when Lao Feng and they come back from New York, I will go to Shenzhen, and I can probably stay for a month, which is a special leave approved by the boss! Still, thank you! Li Jia raised her injured hand slightly and gave it to Bai Xue, "If it weren't for such an injury, he wouldn't have given me such a long vacation, and it would still be paid!" ”
"How are you like this! Makes me feel guilty, doesn't it? Bai Xue saw that her hands couldn't be beaten, so she made a small movement under her feet, pretending to kick her violently.
"Now, you don't need the boss's house or car, it's okay! You can always drive my car, right? Li Jia took out the car key and handed it to Bai Xue, "Just stop downstairs, use it casually, and change it at any time if you are not satisfied." ”
Bai Xue just wanted to refuse, but Li Jia continued: "Don't say no!" You are also some distance from the hospital, the bus has to transfer twice, and you have to walk a while to take the subway, which is inconvenient, and it is a waste of money to take a taxi! And although the car I drove for you is not a luxury car, it is also comfortable and has low fuel consumption, which is very suitable for you! You know, I love sports cars······"
"Did he make that?" Snow White seemed to know something.
Li Jia smiled, "It's good if you know!" I won't hide it from you. He wouldn't let him say it, saying that if you let you know that he asked me to send the car, you wouldn't accept it. He's the kind of person who doesn't really know how to express concern, and he pays a lot of things silently, he
No matter how busy you are, I won't abandon you! ”
"I thought you cared about me! It turns out that they are all entrusted by people! Plastic Sisters! Despise you! Bai Xue sneered at Li Jia.
"How can you say that! Of course I care about you! But I'm afraid you're still angry with me, so I don't dare to hit you with the muzzle! Li Jia smiled awkwardly, "But then again, he's my boss!" You see that I have been very prosperous in the past few years, and Lao Feng is now joining Bode Technology, in the final analysis, it is not because of him······ So, I'm sure I'll do what he tells me to do! The most important reason why I sent you a car is that Yi Yang sent a magic car to the boss, the boss didn't ask for it, but he promised me, you accept the car I sent, and then I have the right to use the magic car for half a year, hahaha······"
Li Jia was sensational and then spoke bluntly, in exchange for Bai Xue's sentence: "It's too realistic for you!"
"What's so bad about being realistic! You, you're just too immortal, don't fight, don't grab, don't eat the fireworks of the world, sometimes I get angry when I look at it! Even Sister Hui said the same, but she can't help it! Li Jia continued to explain: "That Yi Yang has now shaken hands with the boss and made peace, and has become one of the shareholders of Yihui······
"Why are you telling me this? I don't know anything about your shareholder shares, and I'm not interested at all. Bai Xue looked at the time, and it was almost time to go to the hospital, and she was going to give an eviction order.
"I'm just telling you! Didn't you say that when he first met you, he said that he liked you and wanted to invite you to dinner? Li Jia's evil smile seemed to imply something, but in exchange for Bai Xue's eyes that killed her, she had no choice but to say seriously: "That······ A few of us haven't been in the company lately, so if you need help with anything, just call the boss's office. From nine o'clock in the morning to nine o'clock in the evening, someone will pick it up, you have also seen the secretary, the boss has said hello, and the 12-hour service hotline is specially provided for you! ”
I have to say that Han Yi is really interested in Bai Xue, although Bai Xue thinks that he is always busy, he always cares about Bai Xue in his heart.
"I'm fine, I don't need a helpline! Let's go, send you down, I'm going to work! ”
Bai Xue, who was half a head taller than Li Jia, lifted Li Jia, who didn't want to leave, like a child.
"Car keys!" Li Jia picked up the car key from the table and stuffed it into Bai Xue's hand, "Give me a ride by the way." ”
Since it was Li Jia's kindness, and Han Yi's concern, Bai Xue felt that it would be a bit too much to refuse again. With her understanding of Han Yi, if Li Jia fails, Keiko may come over next, or don't bother a pregnant woman.
Friends, always be able to mercilessly point out your shortcomings or nots, but will not stay away or abandon them because of this. Li Jia and Bai Xue's meeting in the early morning was accusatory, sad and deep, as well as true feelings, laughter and happiness.
The two of them are not the same kind of people at all, like two parallel lines, but they came together and became complementary friends.
Li Jia is a big girl, always in a hurry to appear in the office, either forgot to wash, or didn't have time to eat breakfast, either went out in the morning and walked to the car and found that she didn't bring the car keys, or after work, she lay on the table and fell asleep on her stomach.
Compared to her, Bai Xue is unhurried and always gives the impression of being methodical, orderly, elegant and efficient. Wake up on time every morning to wash up and eat breakfast, not in a hurry. The work is completed on time every day, and there is no messy meal after work, and the time is always just right.
A person who can grasp just the right amount of time is a person who really puts life in his heart and then plans carefully, everything will be orderly, a person who can be confident in everything, a person who is not in a hurry about time, a person who is steady, and a person who is indifferent to things, and who can handle anything well when the time is just right.
Bai Xue is this kind of person, however, feelings are not in it, and if she summarizes it in her own cognition, she looks like an idiot.
A slow-burning person like her sometimes lives in her own world, and the same is true for Han Yi. Psychologically speaking, everyone has their own psychological comfort zone. That's what they are, and when they're separated, they hide in their comfort zone.
And the purpose of Li Jia's visit this time is to let her get out of her comfort, stop cowardly escaping, and strive for her own happiness.
In interpersonal communication, most people need constant intimacy and proximity to gain a sense of security, but as independent individuals, they are involved in a relationship too much at once, and that person intrudes into their psychological comfort zone, instinctively, the two of them can't help but retreat and keep a certain distance from them to guard their psychological comfort zone.
This may not be good for their feelings, just like Li Jia said, readjust the pace, you should maintain a positive interaction with each other, trust each other, and face it together to solve the problem.
Bai Xue is a rational person, she knows very well that all relationships will inevitably cool down from the heat, the pace will slow down, and people will get to know each other more deeply and communicate with their hearts, not just with enthusiasm.
However, everyone's rhythm of hot and cold is different, and the other party may have become cold, but she is still in the hot stage, and many contradictions and misunderstandings arise at that time.
The more you care, the more intense the outbreak. I am most afraid of tearing between acquaintances, and the closest ones are also the most cruel.
Therefore, her rationality and attitude towards feelings are only at the theoretical level, and in the final analysis, it is because she is cowardly in her feelings and is accustomed to avoiding.
In particular, there are not too many examples of good friends or lovers turning against each other. But for Bai Xue, whether it is a friend or a lover, she will never hurt anyone, at most she will choose to hide in her comfort zone.
A long time ago, probably when Bai Xue was just with Han Yi, one of her fans chatted with her on Weibo about an incident, a living example of friends turning against each other.
Because of a misunderstanding, one of them took the secrets, careful thoughts and complaints that the other party had previously told her in private, in public
Publicity, as gossip to the third person, tearing the posture is ugly and low.
Seeing this, that friend felt very hurt, being hurt like this by the person closest to him in the past, like a knife straight into the heart.
Her fans couldn't stand it, and it took two sides to resolve the misunderstanding. The girl who promoted other people's ** felt extremely guilty, apologized, and deleted all the words posted in the circle of friends.
So what? The words spoken cannot be recovered, and the damage caused cannot be repaired.
In the end, the hurt friend said to her fans: "I regret saying so much to her, I have never trusted someone so much, but the reality of slapping me in the face hurts me so much, whether it is making friends or falling in love in the future, I will never be with someone so quickly."
Bai Xue, as always, will not make any comments on these two people who hurt each other, but in her heart, she has her own opinions.
(End of this chapter) I want to talk with more like-minded people about "I will start to like you in the future", WeChat attention "", talk about life, find a confidant~